Chances my boyfriend only thinks of me when doing the deed?

So every time I have a little me time, for you know, I always think about him. Always. But one of my male friends said the other day about how naive it is of girls with boyfriend to think that their boyfriends thinks of them when doing the deed. Is this true? How many boys here have masturbated to other girls whilst having a girlfriend? It make me sad to think i think of him but he doenst think of me.

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

So every time I have a little me time, for you know, I always think about him. Always. But one of my male friends said the other day about how naive it is of girls with boyfriend to think that their boyfriends thinks of them when doing the deed. Is this true? How many boys here have masturbated to other girls whilst having a girlfriend? It make me sad to think i think of him but he doenst think of me.

TBH I think you are probably the odd one out rather than him

When I have a little "me time" I indulge in fantasy ... I think that most people do

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Hype en Ecosse

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I'd get bored if I restricted masturbatory fantasies to my girlfriend.

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Anonymous #1

OP

I don't mind like porn stars or anything, but I read on another site about guy masturbating to his girlfriend's friends and like her catching him cheating on her. Now i'm really scared. i don't want to be with someone who doesnt fancy me.

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lad-lad

How would it matter if he masturbate to Nicole Kidman. He doesn't cheat on you by not thinking about you whilst "doing the deed".
That's just the girl's insecurities, slowly developing into a catastrophic psychological complex. Give his penis some space, jee...z.

Slim. Very slim.

Original post by Anonymous

So every time I have a little me time, for you know, I always think about him. Always. But one of my male friends said the other day about how naive it is of girls with boyfriend to think that their boyfriends thinks of them when doing the deed. Is this true? How many boys here have masturbated to other girls whilst having a girlfriend? It make me sad to think i think of him but he doenst think of me.

Probably not 'only' you but if you're remotely fit he probably will, especially as he has the emotional attachment too (I would hope).

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Genocidal

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Masturbating to your own creations is designed to give you something you could never achieve in life. Your mind is where you can do anything. So tell me why would he think of what he already has in life during this time?

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Hype en Ecosse

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Original post by Anonymous

I don't mind like porn stars or anything, but I read on another site about guy masturbating to his girlfriend's friends and like her catching him cheating on her. Now i'm really scared. i don't want to be with someone who doesnt fancy me.

Him masturbating over other women doesn't mean he doesn't fancy you.

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thunder_chunky

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I think of either Susan Boyle or Charlize Theron.

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redferry

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I would roll with zero....

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ThePhilosoraptor

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Original post by Anonymous

I don't mind like porn stars or anything, but I read on another site about guy masturbating to his girlfriend's friends and like her catching him cheating on her. Now i'm really scared. i don't want to be with someone who doesnt fancy me.

Fantasy is a common element in terms of male sexuality and it's really very healthy. Most of it deals with the innate fear men have that women (generally) don't like or enjoy sex as much as they do and that they are therefore a burden upon wives/girlfriends etc (See Bader, "Male Sexuality", 2009).

Fantasies like that primarily serve to reinforce the idea that women (in the abstract) do have sexual desires and it helps to make your bf feel like he's not imposing on you. If he didn't have a healthy fantasy life there's a real chance he'd become withdrawn because he'd feel guilty about having desire for you.

So yeah, it's normal, healthy and nothing to worry about.

(edited 11 years ago)

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Anonymous #1

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Boys what girls do you fantasise about? Porn stars, movie stars? Or friends, people that you know? Im feeling really scared now - can someone give say something to stop me panicking????

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by ThePhilosoraptor

Fantasy is a common element in terms of male sexuality and it's really very healthy. Most of it deals with the innate fear men have that women (generally) don't like or enjoy sex as much as they do and that they are therefore a burden upon wives/girlfriends etc (See Bader, "Male Sexuality", 2009).

Fantasies like that primarily serve to reinforce the idea that women 9in the abstract) do have sexual desires and it helps to make your bf feel like he's not imposing on you. If he didn't have a healthy fantasy life there's a real chance he'd become withdrawn because he'd feel guilty about having desire for you.

So yeah, it's normal, healthy and nothing to worry about.

thank you that makes me feel a bit better

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InnerTemple

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Original post by Anonymous

Im feeling really scared now - can someone give say something to stop me panicking????

Of course!

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Millie228

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Everybody does.
I masturbate to Clive Owen. So what.

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ThePhilosoraptor

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Original post by Millie228

Everybody does.
I masturbate to Clive Owen. So what.

I got Clive and David Owen confused for a minute there. It was horrific.

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by Millie228

Everybody does.
I masturbate to Clive Owen. So what.

Should i not be thinking of him when i masturbate? he's my first boyfriend and i really really like him. i want to feel okay about this but I just feel sad.

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Zangoose

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Original post by Anonymous

So every time I have a little me time, for you know, I always think about him. Always. But one of my male friends said the other day about how naive it is of girls with boyfriend to think that their boyfriends thinks of them when doing the deed. Is this true?

Yes it is true and it is extremely naive of you to think otherwise.

How many boys here have masturbated to other girls whilst having a girlfriend?

About 99.9%.

It make me sad to think i think of him but he doenst think of me.

Why? There are more serious things to be sad about, like starving kids in Africa for instance.

Original post by Anonymous

Boys what girls do you fantasise about? Porn stars, movie stars? Or friends, people that you know?

Some questions are best left unasked, because when you find out the answer you'll wish you never asked. You should just drop this discussion and whatever you do, don't ask him this.

Im feeling really scared now - can someone give say something to stop me panicking????

You are being completely irrational.

(edited 11 years ago)

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