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I'm in my third year of uni and I have no friends, any help on how to resolve this?

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    Hi, I'm in my third year of uni and for my first two years I'd say I had quite a few friends but the friends I had have either drifted, got into relationships or have just kinda stopped talking to me for reasons beyond me.

    The "friends" I did have give me dirty looks in the street, won't speak to me and when I asked about this, they just replied "you know what you've done, if you can't realise it then I'm not going to tell you" and no one can tell me what I have done.

    The two best friends I did have ignore me these days or cancel for their new boyfriends. My one friend's boyfriend actually said to me "Well Anna doesn't need you anymore, she has me" and unfortunately Anna agreed. When I do make plans with her she either doesn't turn up or "forgets to text me".

    Can anyone give me any tips on what to do? I'm miserable as hell, spend all my time in my room alone and I'm on the verge of dropping out of uni. I can't spend the next 6 months alone, I've had to cope for 3 months so far and it's gone slow. I used to love being in uni but I've just become very depressed and feel very alone, more so than I've ever done.
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    hmmm... such things happen in uni days. Even i encountered such problems in my uni days. What I actually did was to concentrate on my studies and forget everything falls beneath that. Yes u can have your family as the solution or school friends? Or have a pen pal ? I think school friends are the best option for this. Buzz me if you need more assistance. Hope it will help you a bit!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The "friends" I did have give me dirty looks in the street, won't speak to me and when I asked about this, they just replied "you know what you've done, if you can't realise it then I'm not going to tell you" and no one can tell me what I have done.

    Woah there. People don't all say stuff like that lightly. What did you do?


    The only advice I could give you is to take notice of strangers a bit more, either on your course or in a part time job etc.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi, I'm in my third year of uni and for my first two years I'd say I had quite a few friends but the friends I had have either drifted, got into relationships or have just kinda stopped talking to me for reasons beyond me.

    The "friends" I did have give me dirty looks in the street, won't speak to me and when I asked about this, they just replied "you know what you've done, if you can't realise it then I'm not going to tell you" and no one can tell me what I have done.

    The two best friends I did have ignore me these days or cancel for their new boyfriends. My one friend's boyfriend actually said to me "Well Anna doesn't need you anymore, she has me" and unfortunately Anna agreed. When I do make plans with her she either doesn't turn up or "forgets to text me".

    Can anyone give me any tips on what to do? I'm miserable as hell, spend all my time in my room alone and I'm on the verge of dropping out of uni. I can't spend the next 6 months alone, I've had to cope for 3 months so far and it's gone slow. I used to love being in uni but I've just become very depressed and feel very alone, more so than I've ever done.
    your a girl, i think its easier for gals to make mates then guys, having read what you said, its very similar to mine except all i did was not socialise with them too much and soon i was excluded from the group. i didnt come much to uni and therefore only spoke over the phone about what work was set. soon i stopped doing that as the ****ers were getting jealous and complained to lecturers, about not turning and getting better grades etc. anyways screw em is what i say. delete them from your phone contacts or get a new sim and just remove your life from them.

    it seems like they dont wanna know you, and havemost likley talked about you behind your back. lol i even was messaged by some1 if i wanted to meet them in a reunion. lol never replied to the B***h.

    cut off your contacts, finish your degree, only have reli 4 months from now anyways, and as for the boyfriends , once they break up "anna" will aproach you, all you gotta do is tell her to F off to her BF as she has done to you.

    see if you can make new mates, easier for gals than guys, and then move on!!! these things happen and we have more to experience, than silly things like this.

    also dont hold a grudge against them say hi and bye and small talk but dont listen to their grief when the time comes. this way you wont be miserable everytime you see them, if they live close by

    private message me if you wanna chat.
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    (Original post by I-I)
    your a girl, i think its easier for gals to make mates then guys

    That's just not true at all.. It might be easier for girls to attract horny/creepy guys than guys to attract horny/creepy girls, but friends are something else. If anything I'd of said it was harder for girls to make friends.
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    (Original post by chapunchi)
    hmmm... such things happen in uni days. Even i encountered such problems in my uni days. What I actually did was to concentrate on my studies and forget everything falls beneath that. Yes u can have your family as the solution or school friends? Or have a pen pal ? I think school friends are the best option for this. Buzz me if you need more assistance. Hope it will help you a bit!
    yepp some uni mates are complete bastards, motherfu***s best to be alone at times. although its lonely. the only real mates you have are those long 10 years 1 or two people that you know from school or even preschool. they know everything about you and reli are good mates. others come and go based on success and just having a chilling lifestyle. (car etc)
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    (Original post by Hal.E.Lujah)
    That's just not true at all.. It might be easier for girls to attract horny/creepy guys than guys to attract horny/creepy girls, but friends are something else. If anything I'd of said it was harder for girls to make friends.
    girls are generally nice to each other. they bitch only in groups , as for us guys how do we make mates with other guys. i find it hard , lol it weird when you dont know some1
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    (Original post by I-I)
    girls are generally nice to each other. they bitch only in groups , as for us guys how do we make mates with other guys. i find it hard , lol it weird when you dont know some1

    I guess it's the same in both genders that some find it easier than others :dontknow:


    There are some really easy ways to make mates with people. Generally speaking, everyones a bit nervous talking to someone for the first time. By being the one who either acknowledges that, or makes the other person forget about it, it's really easy to make a friend with a guy.


    With girls though, I get the feeling alot of their friendships are a bit shallow, and based on things other than how they treat eachother. I lived with a girl once that refused to hang out with another girl again &quote "because that dress was disgusting". Since then I've always been really relieved to be a guy and be able to meet people in just a t shirt and jeans :awesome:
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    (Original post by Hal.E.Lujah)
    I guess it's the same in both genders that some find it easier than others :dontknow:


    There are some really easy ways to make mates with people. Generally speaking, everyones a bit nervous talking to someone for the first time. By being the one who either acknowledges that, or makes the other person forget about it, it's really easy to make a friend with a guy.


    With girls though, I get the feeling alot of their friendships are a bit shallow, and based on things other than how they treat eachother. I lived with a girl once that refused to hang out with another girl again &quote "because that dress was disgusting". Since then I've always been really relieved to be a guy and be able to meet people in just a t shirt and jeans :awesome:

    Haha, I'm a guy, I do try to avoid befriending ugly people!

    PS. Do you ever go to bed?

    Making friends while there are well established circles is quite hard. Surely there are people on your course you could talk to... chat to people in your seminars or whatever even if you wouldn't normally. I'd just put out that bit more because most people will actually be pleasant with you straight off the bat. There are very few reasons for people to take an instant dislike!
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    (Original post by Wattsy)

    PS. Do you ever go to bed?

    My sleeping patterned is completely busted. I went out every night for a week a month or so ago, and since then I sleep from about 5am-9am, and 5pm-8pm. I can't decide if it sucks or not :lol:
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    (Original post by Hal.E.Lujah)
    My sleeping patterned is completely busted. I went out every night for a week a month or so ago, and since then I sleep from about 5am-9am, and 5pm-8pm. I can't decide if it sucks or not :lol:
    omg me 2 but more likwe i sleep at 6am and wake up at 4pm as in today. if i have work i sleep at 4or 5 am and am up for 9 30am. been like that for years now. so hard to change lol
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    (Original post by Wattsy)
    Haha, I'm a guy, I do try to avoid befriending ugly people!

    PS. Do you ever go to bed?

    Making friends while there are well established circles is quite hard. Surely there are people on your course you could talk to... chat to people in your seminars or whatever even if you wouldn't normally. I'd just put out that bit more because most people will actually be pleasant with you straight off the bat. There are very few reasons for people to take an instant dislike!
    lol well your awake 2. lol i suppose im not that social, i can be charming, but sometimes i cant be arsed, and seriously some people do chat ****. i mean im like WTF lol.

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