Dont know people to party with/dont like clubs?

Would you be interested in having an escort, then? That way you don't need to engage in the social aspect and just get down to satisfying your sexual cravings.

The alternative would be to join a society where others have the same interest, even if it is a video game interest. Also, you could make friends on the internet (even through TSR ) and arrange to meet up with them when you know them well enough and are sure they are legit.

How about just going to a club and having a few drinks and then talking to random people who look like they might be interested, men as well as women? As long as you look and smell decent, people will respond positively.

It just sounds like you have self-esteem problems more than anything else. You probably are more intelligent and good-looking than you give yourself credit.

good points i guess. Id like to go out and stuff but i just mess up and stuff i think people try to avoid me...

Have you messed up before or are you just assuming that you will mess up? I still think that there is just a mental/emotional barrier here that is preventing you from having a good time, socially. You have already said that you are intelligent and decent looking so where is this anxiety coming from?

Sorry if I'm getting too personal with these questions.

Mmm tbh I dont know I had loadsa freinds at school most popular guy. I dont know what has happened to me.

I think maybe as I stay at home and everyone else is moreso grown up and has flats or flatmates and/or likes to go to pubs/clubs with free time makes it harder for me?

tbh i dont have a clue

I take it you are no longer in contact with school friends?

What I'm curious about is why you don't like pubs. I can understand a dislike of clubs, that's common and completely normal. Is it because of the alcohol aspect of it or the fact that there are quite a fair few people there?

I used to enjoy going to smaller bars with a few mates I already know to play pool or drink though, still would. I like to be drunk just not drink a lot.