I like to treat my men...

Holy crap.

Edit: (as in 'gosh that it a breakfast of kings')

Well it varies but the most recent one was:

Drink: Pineapple, mango and orange juice
Side bits: Bowl of olives, feta, italian ham - Pancakes with syrup / nutella with raspberries
Main bit: Sausage, bacon, egg, tomatoes and mushrooms with a side of seasoned fried onions and spinach topped with goats cheese

(my parents are chefs.... so food is kind of how I like to express myself)

Today I was having a debate with a friend, She was saying it's weird for a girl to treat a man the way I do;

Whenever I have been in a relationship I like to do little things for the man I am dating. I wake up early and sneak out to the shop to cook special breakfasts for them, set up surprise evenings doing their favorite things, take them out for a walk at night to look at the stars away from the town's lights, make them gifts occasionally, send little messages every so often to try and brighten up their day - not ALL the time- that'd be weird, but regularly... however I have been told by my female friends that its not our "duty" as women to take that role.... surely it works both ways?

Personally, I have never had anyone treat me in the same way back, either they just accept it and say very little, or begin to take it for granted- but this is just what I do...

What are your opinions on this sort of thing? Is it ok for me to do this? Or would guys find it odd?

It sounds nice but I would only do things like that if the guy did stuff like that back. I wouldnt want to do too too much for him as I think that makes you vulnerable to be taken advantage of, and I wouldnt wanted to be considered as 'whipped' or someone just there at his beck and call.

But I do think it is important to do some nice/romantic gestures to your boyfriend, rather than just expect it all to come from him.

Well it varies but the most recent one was:

Drink: Pineapple, mango and orange juice
Side bits: Bowl of olives, feta, italian ham - Pancakes with syrup / nutella with raspberries
Main bit: Sausage, bacon, egg, tomatoes and mushrooms with a side of seasoned fried onions and spinach topped with goats cheese

(my parents are chefs.... so food is kind of how I like to express myself)

+1 rep just for this I think I'll make this tomorrow! Sounds heavenly

You can do that if you want to but as you've already said, you don't get treated like that in return and end up being taken for granted. A relationship is a two way thing, not just you putting all the effort in.

haha, you are welcome, if you want any tips for random breakfasts/ good meals just ask I have many many food ideas constantly circling my brain!!

Today I was having a debate with a friend, She was saying it's weird for a girl to treat a man the way I do;

Whenever I have been in a relationship I like to do little things for the man I am dating. I wake up early and sneak out to the shop to cook special breakfasts for them, set up surprise evenings doing their favorite things, take them out for a walk at night to look at the stars away from the town's lights, make them gifts occasionally, send little messages every so often to try and brighten up their day - not ALL the time- that'd be weird, but regularly... however I have been told by my female friends that its not our "duty" as women to take that role.... surely it works both ways?

Personally, I have never had anyone treat me in the same way back, either they just accept it and say very little, or begin to take it for granted- but this is just what I do...

What are your opinions on this sort of thing? Is it ok for me to do this? Or would guys find it odd?

Wow you sound absolutely amazing

Honestly, most (if not all) guys would see this as a plus - however much we pretend to be strong and self-sufficient, who wouldn't appreciate a surprise cooked breakfast, or receiving that sweet text message which helps to brighten up an otherwise rubbish day at work/university/college etc.

I have to say I've been the same with all of my past girlfriends - I've always liked to make them feel really special, and do nice things for them as much as I can. Varying from a simple breakfast-in-bed, to surprising my previous gf with a long weekend away in Paris (after subtly checking she had an up-to-date/valid passport )

Demonizing people she's been with for not acting in the same way, when the vast majority of people don't, seems a bit unfair.

Urgh I hate it when women say they should be treated, it's a man's job to hold open doors/chairs, buy them flowers and chocolates and don't do anything in return.

I pre-ordered Skyrim for my bf - not particularly romantic I know, but it was really appreciated.

I think it's important that both parties make the occasional gesture to show their respect and appreciation for each other and the relationship. If you're not getting it back, I think perhaps you should tone it down a little so that you aren't taken advantage of. But I think it's really sweet and commendable that you make the effort.


One of my housemates expects gifts from her partner and never gets him anything. She has a charm bracelet and demanded more charms for her birthday when he was broke!

I am mainly intrigued by the use of the term "duty" in the OP

Does your friend think that it is a man's duty to behave like this

I think it's more weird that they don't do anything back.
(omg can i buy you to make my breakfast? I will pay GOOD MONEY)

Demonizing people she's been with for not acting in the same way, when the vast majority of people don't, seems a bit unfair.