Hi, I'm new to this but after reading some other threads and seeing the great advice people give I thought I'd give it a go and see if there is anyone out there that could help me out.
I'm in my second year studying Events Management. I've known since a couple of months into my first year that this isn't what I want to do and I don't enjoy the degree in the slightest, therefore making it harder for me to motivate myself to do work etc. I didn't drop out in first year because I didn't want to let my parents down, and I do want to get some sort of degree, so I've stuck with it. I live 4 hours from home and my family and I do have an extremely supportive family, my relationship with my parents and sister has improved significantly since I moved away and since I began to suffer from depression last November.
I was convinced by a friend at uni (who has now coincidentally dropped out) to go to a doctor, who gave me anti depressants which I was on from November '11 to March '12. I took myself off them after meeting my current boyfriend and thinking everything was all fine and dandy...which it was for a while, until I moved back to uni for my second year Sept '12. I'm still with my boyfriend and he is incredibly supportive and it's great to have someone to talk to but he lives at home and doesn't go to uni so doesn't really understand that much when I talk to him about my home sickness. I don't know whether I'm just severely homesick a lot of the time or if my depression is starting to creep back.
I live in a house with 8 friends, but feel alone 90% of the time. When the others are in the kitchen I try to avoid going down, even though these are my friends, I have no idea why. I spend a lot of time in my room on the top floor alone or at my boyfriends. My flatmates have just found new places to live next year and I'm not invited to join. I can't say I'm that surprised as I don't see them all that much despite living with them but I am close to each of them individually, so that is upsetting. I can't live with my friends on my course either so I think I will have to live alone next year, and I'm really worried about it as obviously it's not going to help with the loneliness that I already feel so much.
This is just another thing that makes me want to drop out, or transfer to a university closer to home. I would really appreciate it if anyone has done this or knows anyone who has done it as I'm not sure how easy the process is. If I continued with the same course, which I do not enjoy but will stick with if I have to, I would be going into a second year course with a class that have already known each other for a year. I would love to just move home and start over again in first year at a different university but I feel stupid paying the higher fees when I will probably ending up doing a course that is in a similar field anyway.
I'm also really worried about telling my parents that I want to leave. They know all about my depression but I constantly lie to them and tell them that everything is fine here when it isn't, I'm not happy here at all. I really don't want to let them down.
I know that I haven't really given a direct question for anyone to answer but anyone out there with any sort of experience like mine or any advice at all I would really appreciate it.
Thank you so much for reading.
Sarah