GIRLS, would you say yes to a Hot stranger if HE asks you out?

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My mate pulled on the train platform 2 weeks a go a 30 year old woman lol. she later blocked him as he's a bit freakish and full on.

Reply 141

Care-Free

if he seemed nice and like the kind of person i'd get along with then i'd ask if we can talk and get to know each other more before going on a date..

Reply 142

So Instinct

Original post by CherryCherryBoomBoom

Go ahead then. Yeah I'm in London, try and find me :ninjagirl:

It's cute that you think I'm joking.
Knock Knock. :wink:

South, West, East or North?

Original post by CherryCherryBoomBoom

Guys at uni are X? :confused:

As in, they're worse quality or better quality?

Lol let me start again. What I said was guys at uni on an overall sense tend to be of worse quality for long term relationships. But you aren't going to uni, so... Your overall quality in men will hopefully and most likely be better. (Assuming you date more mature guys and depending on the type of individuals you go for).

Original post by CherryCherryBoomBoom

In all honesty, I am very stuck on finding any potential lovers. Any tips on actively increasing my chances of meeting more men without my efforts bordering on desperation or inadequacy?

I'm not in a much different boat, although mine are probably due to different circumstances. (I was emotionally unavailable for a very long time, only until around 2-3 months I've been better).
But back to the problem, I personally an this just me but I don't understand why guys feel that if a girl approaches she is desperate (I wrote pregnant instead of desperate the first time, wtf), it's really funny because I have 2 close friends so there are 3 of us in a group and all of our girls or my x actually approached us. So I mean... with me when I got approached I didn't like her, she was the opposite of what I tended to go for, (she was shy, chubby, not very talkative and we never really spoke anyway) but I figured what the hey I have nothing to lose so I told her upfront I don't feel anything but sure I'm gonna give it a try. You can probably guess the rest.
I guess what I'm trying to say is it might be worth you approaching a guy, I have nothing but respect for a girl who breaks social norm and approaches and would nearly always give it a chance.
Of course this won't be the same with every guy, but look at it this way for every 3 great guys that turn you down there will be 1 great guy who says sure and you can go from there.

Original post by CherryCherryBoomBoom

I don't really find being alone preferable either, but I still think that if no one else is available, then it's better to do some things alone than not at all. But OK, suit yourself :p:

. And depending on where you're going, you can probably find travel buddies on forums and in organised group tours, like I'm doing :biggrin:

. Or ask me to be your travel buddy :p:

Wanna be my travel buddy? :innocent:

Hey you told me to ask you. lol.
I have the money and everything but I lost my drive once I knew I had nobody to go with. Bummer.

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So Instinct

Original post by jumpingjesusholycow

You sir, are a king amongst men.

I thought that was somewhat common knowledge?

Reply 144

PotPon

This really isn't an issue. I pulled a 29 year old woman with kids the other night at a Casino.

I personally wouldn't ever want to be friends with a girl before asking her out. So the above method works best for me.

Reply 145

Chewyy

Original post by jubel

What about a guy you get to know at your local gym or some sort of club/class.

This was posted from The Student Room's iPhone/iPad App

If he became a friend. If he asked me out after the first meeting or when I still thought of him 'some guy at the gym/in my club' then he'd have no chance.

I have no idea why you're still asking specifics, I made myself clear: if I don't know you, no date!

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CherryCherryBoomBoom

Original post by So Instinct

It's cute that you think I'm joking.
Knock Knock. :wink:

South, West, East or North?

South

OK, thanks. Sorry for misunderstanding you there :o:

. Well, now that you've said that, I guess I maybe didn't really miss out too much on not going to uni :p:

I'm a very shy person, so I find the thought of approaching people to ask them out so scary :colondollar:

. But I guess I'd better learn to somehow get over that if I ever want to increase my chances of getting what I really want. Thanks for all the tips :yy:

; your posts are quite inspiring and helpful, and you seem to speak better sense about dating than 99% of people on this forum :yep:

Wanna be my travel buddy? :innocent:

Hey you told me to ask you. lol.
I have the money and everything but I lost my drive once I knew I had nobody to go with. Bummer.

Well, let me know when you're off to somewhere or you wanna join me where I am and maybe we'll arrange something :wink:

Reply 147

tehFrance

Original post by CherryCherryBoomBoom

I'm a very shy person, so I find the thought of approaching people to ask them out so scary :colondollar:

It is easy, get a drink in you and then put on your best English accent and yell "Oi, fancy a date sometime"... watch the men line up

Reply 148

So Instinct

Original post by CherryCherryBoomBoom

South

Me too.

Original post by CherryCherryBoomBoom

OK, thanks. Sorry for misunderstanding you there :o:

. Well, now that you've said that, I guess I maybe didn't really miss out too much on not going to uni :p:

Well, it's nor here or there really. You avoid a lot of crap but there is still some good to be had.
Your more likely to be a memory or just 'another number' if anything though.

Original post by CherryCherryBoomBoom

I'm a very shy person, so I find the thought of approaching people to ask them out so scary :colondollar:

. But I guess I'd better learn to somehow get over that if I ever want to increase my chances of getting what I really want. Thanks for all the tips :yy:

; your posts are quite inspiring and helpful, and you seem to speak better sense about dating than 99% of people on this forum :yep:

Yeah you and me both, that's why we are hiding behind our computers =P

Original post by CherryCherryBoomBoom

Well, let me know when you're off to somewhere or you wanna join me where I am and maybe we'll arrange something :wink:

Not sure if serious or... :hmmmm:

Reply 149

So Instinct

Original post by tehFrance

It is easy, get a drink in you and then put on your best English accent and yell "Oi, fancy a date sometime"... watch the men line up

Funny thing is you're not even wrong.

Reply 150

CherryCherryBoomBoom

Original post by tehFrance

It is easy, get a drink in you and then put on your best English accent and yell "Oi, fancy a date sometime"... watch the men line up

Ah yeah, alcohol does tend to make me feel more confident. I'll take that on board, thanks :yy:

Original post by So Instinct

Yeah you and me both, that's why we are hiding behind our computers =P

Not sure if serious or... :hmmmm:

Funnily enough, I've only ever asked out guys on the internet (not loads, just two) but never offline :o:

. I'd better stop being a shy computer geek, eh.

And tbh, I'm not 100% sure if you're being serious or not either, so I just replied ambiguously :wink:

Reply 151

So Instinct

Original post by CherryCherryBoomBoom

Funnily enough, I've only ever asked out guys on the internet

Go ahead then, I'm waiting. :smug:

Original post by CherryCherryBoomBoom

(not loads, just two) but never offline :o:

. I'd better stop being a shy computer geek, eh.

And tbh, I'm not 100% sure if you're being serious or not either, so I just replied ambiguously :wink:

Lol, wow that's quite some feat. You're just about as nerdy as me although I've never asked anyone out online, keep on flirting with me and I might have to change that. :giggle:

As for whether I'm serious, I'm as serious as a Hobbit travelling through Mordor.
Although I'm not sure what you thought I may have been joking about? Travelling?
If it's that then I was actually serious, I was thinking of going on the TSR Ski trip but again it was sort of alone and it conflicted with a few other dates.

Reply 152

Steve1654

Original post by HistoryRepeating

Its not just that.

I'd say any guy who thinks its ok to interrupt a girl doing something (walking somewhere, talking to her friends, reading) with the primary intention of sleeping with her is inherently creepy. They don't understand basic social norms and thus are weird.

That hasn't stopped groups of guys who are practicing day game meeting lots of beautiful women, feeling more self confident and socially able and sleeping with a few models and beauties along the way! I respect you're opinion but i think the street approach is more than you are making it out to be

Yup I would :tongue:

Original post by Chewyy

I'm surprised by these responses because I would never say yes. I have been approached by strangers before and I find it insulting because they came up to me because of how I look because that's all they have to go by. And for me that's not a good starting point.

I only go out with friends or acquaintances, people I actually know.

I disagree - it does not necessarily have to be based on looks alone.

I am guilty of 'asking out' (well, asking for phone number or name really) guys I had just 'seen' on the basis that they seemed really kind (I had just witnessed them be really, really polite, or very helpful towards someone else).

Therefore, if the guy gave me a good vibe, I think I would accept. :smile:

Reply 155

Death.

Original post by parasitic

I had this happen to me before, but the guy was far from hot, I'm surprised he even had the guts and seemed generally 'weird' by society's standards. If this is you, please stay away! so awkward....

You seem to attract 'ugly', 'weird' people.

Guys generally go for girls who they view as 'in their league'.

...

Reply 156

parasitic

Original post by Death.

You seem to attract 'ugly', 'weird' people.

Guys generally go for girls who they view as 'in their league'.

...

I seem to attract 'ugly' or 'weird' people, given I only told one of my stories, it absolutely means it must be true for the rest of the guys if they ever approach me. Wow.

And yes, many guys do go for girls who are in their league as you said. However this is not always true. Go to Brighton. It's a well known city which has plenty of weirdos lurking around every corner. Gorgeous girls will get hit on by weirdos, ugly girls will too. Sometimes it's nothing to do with who's in your 'league' when you're hitting on a stranger during the day, whilst shopping or what not. That in itself is often seen creepy. Perhaps this is why most 'normal' guys hit on girls in a pub or club environment, as people are there to be social, this is usually when guys of your own league would hit on you. Not during the daytime when people are getting on with their business.