How can I get my boyfriend more interested in sex?

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classical conditioning, give him a chocolate every time you do it, and then he'll want to do it more

or something

may have fallen asleep during that lesson

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username447608

Dont want to sound crude or a bit blunt but you need to find something he really likes, you need to compliment him when he is doing things right to boost his self esteem say hes very good etc etc, explain you want more sex because you enjoy it with him etc etc

with regards to initiation just go for it. Maybe book a night away not like a dirty weekend but maybe go I dont know somewhere in the countryside do something in the day do dinner make the sex about romance and love etc and hopefully he will start to feel comfortble.

That said some people do just have low sex drives

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Anonymous #3

Original post by Scubar

classical conditioning, give him a chocolate every time you do it, and then he'll want to do it more

or something

may have fallen asleep during that lesson

that is operant conditioning, not classical

Reply 23

Scubar

Original post by Anonymous

that is operant conditioning, not classical

ah, okay, like I said, may have fallen asleep

Reply 24

gijops

you can always get a guy aroused by sending him little "sexual signals" like quickly pinching that area or bending over in front of him, when this happens to me I go from zombie to porn star in seconds cuz that little dose of second-degree foreplay makes me think about one thing only lol.

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jreid1994

Original post by gijops

If that don't work, then he has no libido.

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Reply 26

Scubar

lay a trail of reese's pieces leading towards your vagina

Reply 27

nicatre

If he has a low sex drive then he has a low sex drive. Nothing you can do about that. You've just got to find some sort of middle ground to please you both. Being understanding and not forceful is essential because if he feels pushed to do things it'll just lower his want to engage in it further.

Reply 28

Treeroy

Original post by Anonymous

I have tried wearing nice underwear and he said I looked hot but he couldn't be bothered then went to sleep, and I've sent a photo of my boobs. I'm fairly comfortable with things like that.

When should I do it though? He's always attached to his phone or having a smoke or watching TV, how do you take over from that?

Also, would a guy normally like or dislike being told that a girl is/has masturbated?

Guys find it exceptionally hot being told that a girl is masturbating, because it leaves the picture up to the imagination - we can make it however good we like.

I think the most likely explanation is that your boyfriend simply has a low sex drive - he was the same with his previous partner as well, remember.

The conditioning idea mentioned earlier would work, though you may feel guilty about it. (Which you shouldn't.)

Reply 29

Anonymous #1

Original post by jreid1994

Tease him, playfully entice him, like if he's watching tv, stand there, wearing nice underwear and encourage him.

Lol no they don't like being told a girl is masturbating... They love it.

It's quite easy to boost someone's confidence, go out to places make him feel like you want him there, simple things can be the biggest things in cases like this and try to lightly talk about, getting him some therapy if he seems low, but it might just be straight out low libido.

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Hrm ok, I'm not exactly sexy though!

I spend a lot of time with him and do a lot for him already.

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Anonymous #1

Original post by Scubar

classical conditioning, give him a chocolate every time you do it, and then he'll want to do it more

or something

may have fallen asleep during that lesson

I think that could actually work.

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Anonymous #1

Original post by SillyMilly

Yeah but he has to do something to get the compliments, I have said I enjoy it with him but it's very stressful and so hard not to get upset about it.

Can't really afford to go away, I'm trying to encourage more of a date type of thing because we really just hang out together which is nice but playing hours of Minecraft isn't much of a mood maker.

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Anonymous #1

Original post by gijops

Yeah I'm not sexy so I don't think that would work, I suppose I could try the other stuff though.

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Anonymous #1

Original post by nicatre

I'm trying to find the middle ground by making it more interesting for him.

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Anonymous #1

Original post by Treeroy

Good to know.

I just know if it was the other way around I would try to change for him.

Reply 35

nicatre

Original post by Anonymous

I'm trying to find the middle ground by making it more interesting for him.

It's not about increasing interest. You won't be able to force his sex drive.

Reply 36

Scubar

try this stuff, it's supposed to work wonders

Reply 37

Anonymous #1

Original post by nicatre

It's not about increasing interest. You won't be able to force his sex drive.

But in finding a middle ground he'd be doing it more often than he otherwise would, in which case, I want it to be as good for him as possible.

Reply 38

jreid1994

The conditioning is good, find out something that he really really likes and give it to him after sex, I see how it could work as it would subliminally tell him if I want this I do this and he wouldn't even realize, lool

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Reply 39

Anonymous #1

Original post by dijay_94

As a guy, I would *hate* to be told that a girl is/has been mbing.

It would make me feel useless and unwanted. Pretty much make me down and do nothing but make me feel more anxious and insecure.

That's just my 2 cents.

That's what I wondered, wouldn't change anything I just wouldn't discuss it with him if that were the case.