I'm a social reject. I don't fit in with society at all...
I've been bottling this up for ages and I just want to let it all out.
I am really unhappy because I don't fit in anywhere and I despair at our society.
I may as well describe myself. I don't like talking, I prefer to listen or just observe. I'm shy, quiet, bit socially awkward. I have never been to a party in my life - mainly because I haven't been invited, but I wouldn't go to one if I was. I can't socialise or do small talk unless I get on really well with said person. I HATE having attention on me. I'm the person who's always sat in the corner, watching everyone else. Sometimes in amusement or disbelief. It's not like I'm a boring person because I'm quiet, in fact I'd say I get amused at things way more than anyone else! People only notice me as the girl who never says anything, but if you get to know me I'm bubbly and laugh a lot. But no one gets to know me because it's obvious I want different things to them.
So because I don't drink and I don't like social situations, and don't like big groups of people, I can't fit in.
I'm a good person: I'm honest, polite, keep myself to myself, have humility, I'm friendly to anyone who speaks to me, humble, generous, loyal, reasonably intelligent, faithful, forgiving ...Yet I feel punished for it because I'm not like everyone else. Basic qualities like this that make you a decent human being don't seem to mean anything anymore. It's all about who's the prettiest, the chattiest, the most extroverted, who can put on the best fake laugh, who knows the most people.
My favourite things to do are watching films and TV series boxsets, thinking, going for walks, the internet or just talking with someone who is close to me. Mainly solitary activites, but I wish I had someone to do them with me. I love LotR, PotC, Doctor Who, Merlin, Sherlock. I hear people saying "I like LotR! I'm such a geek!" And I'm like =| It's like they're putting it out there that they like a popular thing and then going all self depreciating for it! Like there's something wrong with liking LotR? Like they're pretending to be "afraid" or "embarrassed" of liking something, when really they're just saying it so everyone will think they're deep and interesting ... ah. I bet you're all reading this and not understanding at all.
I just.... I don't know what to do. I don't have any friends anymore. I've been so ostracised by society that I feel like it's a whole different world? It's made me extremely bitter and I wish I could find someone else like me to make me restore faith in humanity. Someone who doesn't like partying and drinking and big groups. Someone who just wants to be best mates and do things together. I don't know. I can't find ANYONE boy or girl who is compatible with me! They all want big social lives. Every time I find someone I get on with, they move when they realise I don't want to be in the centre of things, I don't want a big group of friends, I don't want to go for meals in posh places and dress up and go partying and drape myself over boys. I'm a tomboy at heart and those things don't appeal to me at all. I want to wear comfortable clothes and have a laugh with one or two people. I don't want to be noticed, I just want to amuse myself in the background, if that makes sense.
I suppose I know that I just want a simple life. That's all. I don't want all the big "wooooo". I'm a really homely, cosy person ... if you can describe someone as cosy. I just mean, I'm really down to earth. I look at other people and they're like aliens, they want so much and want the high life. They want to go to Oxford and be doctors and go partying and have loads of friends and money and all that. Whereas I just want to stay in with ice cream and a good film.
What am I going to do? How can I find someone quiet and likes things like me? I am so abnormal and a reject ...
I know that I'd make a brilliant friend to someone out there, but I can't find them ....
I am really unhappy because I don't fit in anywhere and I despair at our society.
I may as well describe myself. I don't like talking, I prefer to listen or just observe. I'm shy, quiet, bit socially awkward. I have never been to a party in my life - mainly because I haven't been invited, but I wouldn't go to one if I was. I can't socialise or do small talk unless I get on really well with said person. I HATE having attention on me. I'm the person who's always sat in the corner, watching everyone else. Sometimes in amusement or disbelief. It's not like I'm a boring person because I'm quiet, in fact I'd say I get amused at things way more than anyone else! People only notice me as the girl who never says anything, but if you get to know me I'm bubbly and laugh a lot. But no one gets to know me because it's obvious I want different things to them.
So because I don't drink and I don't like social situations, and don't like big groups of people, I can't fit in.
I'm a good person: I'm honest, polite, keep myself to myself, have humility, I'm friendly to anyone who speaks to me, humble, generous, loyal, reasonably intelligent, faithful, forgiving ...Yet I feel punished for it because I'm not like everyone else. Basic qualities like this that make you a decent human being don't seem to mean anything anymore. It's all about who's the prettiest, the chattiest, the most extroverted, who can put on the best fake laugh, who knows the most people.
My favourite things to do are watching films and TV series boxsets, thinking, going for walks, the internet or just talking with someone who is close to me. Mainly solitary activites, but I wish I had someone to do them with me. I love LotR, PotC, Doctor Who, Merlin, Sherlock. I hear people saying "I like LotR! I'm such a geek!" And I'm like =| It's like they're putting it out there that they like a popular thing and then going all self depreciating for it! Like there's something wrong with liking LotR? Like they're pretending to be "afraid" or "embarrassed" of liking something, when really they're just saying it so everyone will think they're deep and interesting ... ah. I bet you're all reading this and not understanding at all.
I just.... I don't know what to do. I don't have any friends anymore. I've been so ostracised by society that I feel like it's a whole different world? It's made me extremely bitter and I wish I could find someone else like me to make me restore faith in humanity. Someone who doesn't like partying and drinking and big groups. Someone who just wants to be best mates and do things together. I don't know. I can't find ANYONE boy or girl who is compatible with me! They all want big social lives. Every time I find someone I get on with, they move when they realise I don't want to be in the centre of things, I don't want a big group of friends, I don't want to go for meals in posh places and dress up and go partying and drape myself over boys. I'm a tomboy at heart and those things don't appeal to me at all. I want to wear comfortable clothes and have a laugh with one or two people. I don't want to be noticed, I just want to amuse myself in the background, if that makes sense.
I suppose I know that I just want a simple life. That's all. I don't want all the big "wooooo". I'm a really homely, cosy person ... if you can describe someone as cosy. I just mean, I'm really down to earth. I look at other people and they're like aliens, they want so much and want the high life. They want to go to Oxford and be doctors and go partying and have loads of friends and money and all that. Whereas I just want to stay in with ice cream and a good film.
What am I going to do? How can I find someone quiet and likes things like me? I am so abnormal and a reject ...
I know that I'd make a brilliant friend to someone out there, but I can't find them ....Scroll to see replies
If it's any consolation, you're not the only one.
I like to go out, but we're talking once a month or every three weeks at a maximum, and even then I have to "time out" frequently with a smoke. I just like the music.
I wouldn't concern yourself with what "society" thinks, because who cares what a flock of sheep thinks of you, anyway? As long as you're comfortable in your own skin, that's what matters.
I seek a simple life too, but I wonder if people like us are destined to be solitary for the majority of our lives. Not that I have anything against that since by and large, people suck, but I think it's a matter of finding the right people to be around. Unfortunately, at young ages, it's difficult to find people who want to be different from "the norm", because social conformity is very important to most. Especially at university which happens to be where I am at the moment, even though I'm taking a year out...
ps. Nothing wrong with being passionate about what you like. I'm a diehard Trek/Doc Who fan and I'd come down HARD on anyone who thought less of me for it.
Feel free to inbox me if you want to chat.
I like to go out, but we're talking once a month or every three weeks at a maximum, and even then I have to "time out" frequently with a smoke. I just like the music.
I wouldn't concern yourself with what "society" thinks, because who cares what a flock of sheep thinks of you, anyway? As long as you're comfortable in your own skin, that's what matters.
I seek a simple life too, but I wonder if people like us are destined to be solitary for the majority of our lives. Not that I have anything against that since by and large, people suck, but I think it's a matter of finding the right people to be around. Unfortunately, at young ages, it's difficult to find people who want to be different from "the norm", because social conformity is very important to most. Especially at university which happens to be where I am at the moment, even though I'm taking a year out...
ps. Nothing wrong with being passionate about what you like. I'm a diehard Trek/Doc Who fan and I'd come down HARD on anyone who thought less of me for it.
Feel free to inbox me if you want to chat.Sweetheart you sound like such an amazing person, and I mean that sincerely.
**** other people who don't like you. Be who you are. You don't want attention? That's fine! You'll figure it out. Good luck!
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**** other people who don't like you. Be who you are. You don't want attention? That's fine! You'll figure it out. Good luck!
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Original post by thinktoomuch610
Sweetheart you sound like such an amazing person, and I mean that sincerely.
**** other people who don't like you. Be who you are. You don't want attention? That's fine! You'll figure it out. Good luck!
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**** other people who don't like you. Be who you are. You don't want attention? That's fine! You'll figure it out. Good luck!
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Yeah just be who you are, even when being who you are makes you I quote "really unhappy", and "despair", what fantastic advice
Original post by Anonymous
I've been bottling this up for ages and I just want to let it all out.
You sound a LOT like me
I love Dr Who, Merlin and LotR, I don't need or want to be noticed, I prefer close friends to a big group, and I'm a total tomboy at heart. I like being nice to people, and I always try to be honourable and loyal. (Sorry, I may sound a bit arrogant there, but I'm just trying to show how much I identify with what you've said). I do go to Oxford though, which was on your 'no' list
Anyway, feel free to PM if you want to chat. If not, at least know that there are people like you out there, but they probably won't come looking for you because it's not in their nature. Go and find them, they make the best kind of friend when you do
Original post by Anonymous
I've been bottling this up for ages and I just want to let it all out.
I am really unhappy because I don't fit in anywhere and I despair at our society.
I may as well describe myself. I don't like talking, I prefer to listen or just observe. I'm shy, quiet, bit socially awkward. I have never been to a party in my life - mainly because I haven't been invited, but I wouldn't go to one if I was. I can't socialise or do small talk unless I get on really well with said person. I HATE having attention on me. I'm the person who's always sat in the corner, watching everyone else. Sometimes in amusement or disbelief. It's not like I'm a boring person because I'm quiet, in fact I'd say I get amused at things way more than anyone else! People only notice me as the girl who never says anything, but if you get to know me I'm bubbly and laugh a lot. But no one gets to know me because it's obvious I want different things to them.
So because I don't drink and I don't like social situations, and don't like big groups of people, I can't fit in.
I'm a good person: I'm honest, polite, keep myself to myself, have humility, I'm friendly to anyone who speaks to me, humble, generous, loyal, reasonably intelligent, faithful, forgiving ...Yet I feel punished for it because I'm not like everyone else. Basic qualities like this that make you a decent human being don't seem to mean anything anymore. It's all about who's the prettiest, the chattiest, the most extroverted, who can put on the best fake laugh, who knows the most people.
My favourite things to do are watching films and TV series boxsets, thinking, going for walks, the internet or just talking with someone who is close to me. Mainly solitary activites, but I wish I had someone to do them with me. I love LotR, PotC, Doctor Who, Merlin, Sherlock. I hear people saying "I like LotR! I'm such a geek!" And I'm like =| It's like they're putting it out there that they like a popular thing and then going all self depreciating for it! Like there's something wrong with liking LotR? Like they're pretending to be "afraid" or "embarrassed" of liking something, when really they're just saying it so everyone will think they're deep and interesting ... ah. I bet you're all reading this and not understanding at all.
I just.... I don't know what to do. I don't have any friends anymore. I've been so ostracised by society that I feel like it's a whole different world? It's made me extremely bitter and I wish I could find someone else like me to make me restore faith in humanity. Someone who doesn't like partying and drinking and big groups. Someone who just wants to be best mates and do things together. I don't know. I can't find ANYONE boy or girl who is compatible with me! They all want big social lives. Every time I find someone I get on with, they move when they realise I don't want to be in the centre of things, I don't want a big group of friends, I don't want to go for meals in posh places and dress up and go partying and drape myself over boys. I'm a tomboy at heart and those things don't appeal to me at all. I want to wear comfortable clothes and have a laugh with one or two people. I don't want to be noticed, I just want to amuse myself in the background, if that makes sense.
I suppose I know that I just want a simple life. That's all. I don't want all the big "wooooo". I'm a really homely, cosy person ... if you can describe someone as cosy. I just mean, I'm really down to earth. I look at other people and they're like aliens, they want so much and want the high life. They want to go to Oxford and be doctors and go partying and have loads of friends and money and all that. Whereas I just want to stay in with ice cream and a good film.
What am I going to do? How can I find someone quiet and likes things like me? I am so abnormal and a reject ... I know that I'd make a brilliant friend to someone out there, but I can't find them ....
I am really unhappy because I don't fit in anywhere and I despair at our society.
I may as well describe myself. I don't like talking, I prefer to listen or just observe. I'm shy, quiet, bit socially awkward. I have never been to a party in my life - mainly because I haven't been invited, but I wouldn't go to one if I was. I can't socialise or do small talk unless I get on really well with said person. I HATE having attention on me. I'm the person who's always sat in the corner, watching everyone else. Sometimes in amusement or disbelief. It's not like I'm a boring person because I'm quiet, in fact I'd say I get amused at things way more than anyone else! People only notice me as the girl who never says anything, but if you get to know me I'm bubbly and laugh a lot. But no one gets to know me because it's obvious I want different things to them.
So because I don't drink and I don't like social situations, and don't like big groups of people, I can't fit in.
I'm a good person: I'm honest, polite, keep myself to myself, have humility, I'm friendly to anyone who speaks to me, humble, generous, loyal, reasonably intelligent, faithful, forgiving ...Yet I feel punished for it because I'm not like everyone else. Basic qualities like this that make you a decent human being don't seem to mean anything anymore. It's all about who's the prettiest, the chattiest, the most extroverted, who can put on the best fake laugh, who knows the most people.
My favourite things to do are watching films and TV series boxsets, thinking, going for walks, the internet or just talking with someone who is close to me. Mainly solitary activites, but I wish I had someone to do them with me. I love LotR, PotC, Doctor Who, Merlin, Sherlock. I hear people saying "I like LotR! I'm such a geek!" And I'm like =| It's like they're putting it out there that they like a popular thing and then going all self depreciating for it! Like there's something wrong with liking LotR? Like they're pretending to be "afraid" or "embarrassed" of liking something, when really they're just saying it so everyone will think they're deep and interesting ... ah. I bet you're all reading this and not understanding at all.
I just.... I don't know what to do. I don't have any friends anymore. I've been so ostracised by society that I feel like it's a whole different world? It's made me extremely bitter and I wish I could find someone else like me to make me restore faith in humanity. Someone who doesn't like partying and drinking and big groups. Someone who just wants to be best mates and do things together. I don't know. I can't find ANYONE boy or girl who is compatible with me! They all want big social lives. Every time I find someone I get on with, they move when they realise I don't want to be in the centre of things, I don't want a big group of friends, I don't want to go for meals in posh places and dress up and go partying and drape myself over boys. I'm a tomboy at heart and those things don't appeal to me at all. I want to wear comfortable clothes and have a laugh with one or two people. I don't want to be noticed, I just want to amuse myself in the background, if that makes sense.
I suppose I know that I just want a simple life. That's all. I don't want all the big "wooooo". I'm a really homely, cosy person ... if you can describe someone as cosy. I just mean, I'm really down to earth. I look at other people and they're like aliens, they want so much and want the high life. They want to go to Oxford and be doctors and go partying and have loads of friends and money and all that. Whereas I just want to stay in with ice cream and a good film.
What am I going to do? How can I find someone quiet and likes things like me? I am so abnormal and a reject ...
I know that I'd make a brilliant friend to someone out there, but I can't find them ....I'm a social regret too, although unlike you I enjoy being a recluse. I'm going Uni soon and I have no family so I'm just looking forward to doing that.
(edited 11 years ago)
Just because you're a bit of an introvert, does not mean that you're a social reject. You sound like a pretty awesome person
Original post by Anonymous
I've been bottling this up for ages and I just want to let it all out.
I am really unhappy because I don't fit in anywhere and I despair at our society.
I may as well describe myself. I don't like talking, I prefer to listen or just observe. I'm shy, quiet, bit socially awkward. I have never been to a party in my life - mainly because I haven't been invited, but I wouldn't go to one if I was. I can't socialise or do small talk unless I get on really well with said person. I HATE having attention on me. I'm the person who's always sat in the corner, watching everyone else. Sometimes in amusement or disbelief. It's not like I'm a boring person because I'm quiet, in fact I'd say I get amused at things way more than anyone else! People only notice me as the girl who never says anything, but if you get to know me I'm bubbly and laugh a lot. But no one gets to know me because it's obvious I want different things to them.
So because I don't drink and I don't like social situations, and don't like big groups of people, I can't fit in.
I'm a good person: I'm honest, polite, keep myself to myself, have humility, I'm friendly to anyone who speaks to me, humble, generous, loyal, reasonably intelligent, faithful, forgiving ...Yet I feel punished for it because I'm not like everyone else. Basic qualities like this that make you a decent human being don't seem to mean anything anymore. It's all about who's the prettiest, the chattiest, the most extroverted, who can put on the best fake laugh, who knows the most people.
My favourite things to do are watching films and TV series boxsets, thinking, going for walks, the internet or just talking with someone who is close to me. Mainly solitary activites, but I wish I had someone to do them with me. I love LotR, PotC, Doctor Who, Merlin, Sherlock. I hear people saying "I like LotR! I'm such a geek!" And I'm like =| It's like they're putting it out there that they like a popular thing and then going all self depreciating for it! Like there's something wrong with liking LotR? Like they're pretending to be "afraid" or "embarrassed" of liking something, when really they're just saying it so everyone will think they're deep and interesting ... ah. I bet you're all reading this and not understanding at all.
I just.... I don't know what to do. I don't have any friends anymore. I've been so ostracised by society that I feel like it's a whole different world? It's made me extremely bitter and I wish I could find someone else like me to make me restore faith in humanity. Someone who doesn't like partying and drinking and big groups. Someone who just wants to be best mates and do things together. I don't know. I can't find ANYONE boy or girl who is compatible with me! They all want big social lives. Every time I find someone I get on with, they move when they realise I don't want to be in the centre of things, I don't want a big group of friends, I don't want to go for meals in posh places and dress up and go partying and drape myself over boys. I'm a tomboy at heart and those things don't appeal to me at all. I want to wear comfortable clothes and have a laugh with one or two people. I don't want to be noticed, I just want to amuse myself in the background, if that makes sense.
I suppose I know that I just want a simple life. That's all. I don't want all the big "wooooo". I'm a really homely, cosy person ... if you can describe someone as cosy. I just mean, I'm really down to earth. I look at other people and they're like aliens, they want so much and want the high life. They want to go to Oxford and be doctors and go partying and have loads of friends and money and all that. Whereas I just want to stay in with ice cream and a good film.
What am I going to do? How can I find someone quiet and likes things like me? I am so abnormal and a reject ... I know that I'd make a brilliant friend to someone out there, but I can't find them ....
I am really unhappy because I don't fit in anywhere and I despair at our society.
I may as well describe myself. I don't like talking, I prefer to listen or just observe. I'm shy, quiet, bit socially awkward. I have never been to a party in my life - mainly because I haven't been invited, but I wouldn't go to one if I was. I can't socialise or do small talk unless I get on really well with said person. I HATE having attention on me. I'm the person who's always sat in the corner, watching everyone else. Sometimes in amusement or disbelief. It's not like I'm a boring person because I'm quiet, in fact I'd say I get amused at things way more than anyone else! People only notice me as the girl who never says anything, but if you get to know me I'm bubbly and laugh a lot. But no one gets to know me because it's obvious I want different things to them.
So because I don't drink and I don't like social situations, and don't like big groups of people, I can't fit in.
I'm a good person: I'm honest, polite, keep myself to myself, have humility, I'm friendly to anyone who speaks to me, humble, generous, loyal, reasonably intelligent, faithful, forgiving ...Yet I feel punished for it because I'm not like everyone else. Basic qualities like this that make you a decent human being don't seem to mean anything anymore. It's all about who's the prettiest, the chattiest, the most extroverted, who can put on the best fake laugh, who knows the most people.
My favourite things to do are watching films and TV series boxsets, thinking, going for walks, the internet or just talking with someone who is close to me. Mainly solitary activites, but I wish I had someone to do them with me. I love LotR, PotC, Doctor Who, Merlin, Sherlock. I hear people saying "I like LotR! I'm such a geek!" And I'm like =| It's like they're putting it out there that they like a popular thing and then going all self depreciating for it! Like there's something wrong with liking LotR? Like they're pretending to be "afraid" or "embarrassed" of liking something, when really they're just saying it so everyone will think they're deep and interesting ... ah. I bet you're all reading this and not understanding at all.
I just.... I don't know what to do. I don't have any friends anymore. I've been so ostracised by society that I feel like it's a whole different world? It's made me extremely bitter and I wish I could find someone else like me to make me restore faith in humanity. Someone who doesn't like partying and drinking and big groups. Someone who just wants to be best mates and do things together. I don't know. I can't find ANYONE boy or girl who is compatible with me! They all want big social lives. Every time I find someone I get on with, they move when they realise I don't want to be in the centre of things, I don't want a big group of friends, I don't want to go for meals in posh places and dress up and go partying and drape myself over boys. I'm a tomboy at heart and those things don't appeal to me at all. I want to wear comfortable clothes and have a laugh with one or two people. I don't want to be noticed, I just want to amuse myself in the background, if that makes sense.
I suppose I know that I just want a simple life. That's all. I don't want all the big "wooooo". I'm a really homely, cosy person ... if you can describe someone as cosy. I just mean, I'm really down to earth. I look at other people and they're like aliens, they want so much and want the high life. They want to go to Oxford and be doctors and go partying and have loads of friends and money and all that. Whereas I just want to stay in with ice cream and a good film.
What am I going to do? How can I find someone quiet and likes things like me? I am so abnormal and a reject ...
I know that I'd make a brilliant friend to someone out there, but I can't find them ....OP, I understand what you mean. I know you may feel like a social outcast or ostracised from society but thats just a misunderstanding you have from not wanting to talk or express yourself with others, and thats why you have no friends. If you continue to blame the world you won't make any friends. If you want a friend, start talking with people and even if you lack confidence now it will be easier if you keep trying.
(edited 11 years ago)
You honestly sound like an awesome person and i understand how you feel. You've pretty much just described me as im into the majority of those things you have posted and i repeatedly see myself as an 'observer' too, but trust me you are not alone as alot of TSR members will share your feelings too. Also ice cream and a good film, what a perfect evening!
Just like others in this thread, if you want to chat about it, i'd be happy to talk to you.
Just like others in this thread, if you want to chat about it, i'd be happy to talk to you.
(edited 11 years ago)
Original post by Anonymous
I've been bottling this up for ages and I just want to let it all out.
I am really unhappy because I don't fit in anywhere and I despair at our society.
I may as well describe myself. I don't like talking, I prefer to listen or just observe. I'm shy, quiet, bit socially awkward. I have never been to a party in my life - mainly because I haven't been invited, but I wouldn't go to one if I was. I can't socialise or do small talk unless I get on really well with said person. I HATE having attention on me. I'm the person who's always sat in the corner, watching everyone else. Sometimes in amusement or disbelief. It's not like I'm a boring person because I'm quiet, in fact I'd say I get amused at things way more than anyone else! People only notice me as the girl who never says anything, but if you get to know me I'm bubbly and laugh a lot. But no one gets to know me because it's obvious I want different things to them.
So because I don't drink and I don't like social situations, and don't like big groups of people, I can't fit in.
I'm a good person: I'm honest, polite, keep myself to myself, have humility, I'm friendly to anyone who speaks to me, humble, generous, loyal, reasonably intelligent, faithful, forgiving ...Yet I feel punished for it because I'm not like everyone else. Basic qualities like this that make you a decent human being don't seem to mean anything anymore. It's all about who's the prettiest, the chattiest, the most extroverted, who can put on the best fake laugh, who knows the most people.
My favourite things to do are watching films and TV series boxsets, thinking, going for walks, the internet or just talking with someone who is close to me. Mainly solitary activites, but I wish I had someone to do them with me. I love LotR, PotC, Doctor Who, Merlin, Sherlock. I hear people saying "I like LotR! I'm such a geek!" And I'm like =| It's like they're putting it out there that they like a popular thing and then going all self depreciating for it! Like there's something wrong with liking LotR? Like they're pretending to be "afraid" or "embarrassed" of liking something, when really they're just saying it so everyone will think they're deep and interesting ... ah. I bet you're all reading this and not understanding at all.
I just.... I don't know what to do. I don't have any friends anymore. I've been so ostracised by society that I feel like it's a whole different world? It's made me extremely bitter and I wish I could find someone else like me to make me restore faith in humanity. Someone who doesn't like partying and drinking and big groups. Someone who just wants to be best mates and do things together. I don't know. I can't find ANYONE boy or girl who is compatible with me! They all want big social lives. Every time I find someone I get on with, they move when they realise I don't want to be in the centre of things, I don't want a big group of friends, I don't want to go for meals in posh places and dress up and go partying and drape myself over boys. I'm a tomboy at heart and those things don't appeal to me at all. I want to wear comfortable clothes and have a laugh with one or two people. I don't want to be noticed, I just want to amuse myself in the background, if that makes sense.
I suppose I know that I just want a simple life. That's all. I don't want all the big "wooooo". I'm a really homely, cosy person ... if you can describe someone as cosy. I just mean, I'm really down to earth. I look at other people and they're like aliens, they want so much and want the high life. They want to go to Oxford and be doctors and go partying and have loads of friends and money and all that. Whereas I just want to stay in with ice cream and a good film.
What am I going to do? How can I find someone quiet and likes things like me? I am so abnormal and a reject ... I know that I'd make a brilliant friend to someone out there, but I can't find them ....
I am really unhappy because I don't fit in anywhere and I despair at our society.
I may as well describe myself. I don't like talking, I prefer to listen or just observe. I'm shy, quiet, bit socially awkward. I have never been to a party in my life - mainly because I haven't been invited, but I wouldn't go to one if I was. I can't socialise or do small talk unless I get on really well with said person. I HATE having attention on me. I'm the person who's always sat in the corner, watching everyone else. Sometimes in amusement or disbelief. It's not like I'm a boring person because I'm quiet, in fact I'd say I get amused at things way more than anyone else! People only notice me as the girl who never says anything, but if you get to know me I'm bubbly and laugh a lot. But no one gets to know me because it's obvious I want different things to them.
So because I don't drink and I don't like social situations, and don't like big groups of people, I can't fit in.
I'm a good person: I'm honest, polite, keep myself to myself, have humility, I'm friendly to anyone who speaks to me, humble, generous, loyal, reasonably intelligent, faithful, forgiving ...Yet I feel punished for it because I'm not like everyone else. Basic qualities like this that make you a decent human being don't seem to mean anything anymore. It's all about who's the prettiest, the chattiest, the most extroverted, who can put on the best fake laugh, who knows the most people.
My favourite things to do are watching films and TV series boxsets, thinking, going for walks, the internet or just talking with someone who is close to me. Mainly solitary activites, but I wish I had someone to do them with me. I love LotR, PotC, Doctor Who, Merlin, Sherlock. I hear people saying "I like LotR! I'm such a geek!" And I'm like =| It's like they're putting it out there that they like a popular thing and then going all self depreciating for it! Like there's something wrong with liking LotR? Like they're pretending to be "afraid" or "embarrassed" of liking something, when really they're just saying it so everyone will think they're deep and interesting ... ah. I bet you're all reading this and not understanding at all.
I just.... I don't know what to do. I don't have any friends anymore. I've been so ostracised by society that I feel like it's a whole different world? It's made me extremely bitter and I wish I could find someone else like me to make me restore faith in humanity. Someone who doesn't like partying and drinking and big groups. Someone who just wants to be best mates and do things together. I don't know. I can't find ANYONE boy or girl who is compatible with me! They all want big social lives. Every time I find someone I get on with, they move when they realise I don't want to be in the centre of things, I don't want a big group of friends, I don't want to go for meals in posh places and dress up and go partying and drape myself over boys. I'm a tomboy at heart and those things don't appeal to me at all. I want to wear comfortable clothes and have a laugh with one or two people. I don't want to be noticed, I just want to amuse myself in the background, if that makes sense.
I suppose I know that I just want a simple life. That's all. I don't want all the big "wooooo". I'm a really homely, cosy person ... if you can describe someone as cosy. I just mean, I'm really down to earth. I look at other people and they're like aliens, they want so much and want the high life. They want to go to Oxford and be doctors and go partying and have loads of friends and money and all that. Whereas I just want to stay in with ice cream and a good film.
What am I going to do? How can I find someone quiet and likes things like me? I am so abnormal and a reject ...
I know that I'd make a brilliant friend to someone out there, but I can't find them ....I know this is clichéd, but you actually sound pretty similar to me. I am lucky enough to have a nice group of friends who are also similar, and who I genuinely laugh until I cry with on many occasions. I understand that you want the simple life, I'm sure that you're not a 'reject', just a little different
You can PM me if you want a friendly chat 
You have a lot more in common with a lot of people than you may think
PM me if you just want a chat or something
PM me if you just want a chat or something
Original post by Orihime
I know how you feel, I belong in a different era.
Oh if only there was such a thing as time travel.
Oh if only there was such a thing as time travel.
hmm. I feel like this sometimes. Which era would you go to?
Original post by MancBoy
I totally agree with the LOTR part and people claiming that their geeks. The worst is when they call themselves geeks because they watch the Big Bang Theory 
"No! Im a complete geek if i watch BBT! And when i go to clubs, i wear my normal slutty outfit, but i wear those 3d glasses from the cinema and taaa da. Im a geek."
(edited 11 years ago)
Original post by Anonymous
I've been bottling this up for ages and I just want to let it all out.
I am really unhappy because I don't fit in anywhere and I despair at our society.
I may as well describe myself. I don't like talking, I prefer to listen or just observe. I'm shy, quiet, bit socially awkward. I have never been to a party in my life - mainly because I haven't been invited, but I wouldn't go to one if I was. I can't socialise or do small talk unless I get on really well with said person. I HATE having attention on me. I'm the person who's always sat in the corner, watching everyone else. Sometimes in amusement or disbelief. It's not like I'm a boring person because I'm quiet, in fact I'd say I get amused at things way more than anyone else! People only notice me as the girl who never says anything, but if you get to know me I'm bubbly and laugh a lot. But no one gets to know me because it's obvious I want different things to them.
So because I don't drink and I don't like social situations, and don't like big groups of people, I can't fit in.
I'm a good person: I'm honest, polite, keep myself to myself, have humility, I'm friendly to anyone who speaks to me, humble, generous, loyal, reasonably intelligent, faithful, forgiving ...Yet I feel punished for it because I'm not like everyone else. Basic qualities like this that make you a decent human being don't seem to mean anything anymore. It's all about who's the prettiest, the chattiest, the most extroverted, who can put on the best fake laugh, who knows the most people.
My favourite things to do are watching films and TV series boxsets, thinking, going for walks, the internet or just talking with someone who is close to me. Mainly solitary activites, but I wish I had someone to do them with me. I love LotR, PotC, Doctor Who, Merlin, Sherlock. I hear people saying "I like LotR! I'm such a geek!" And I'm like =| It's like they're putting it out there that they like a popular thing and then going all self depreciating for it! Like there's something wrong with liking LotR? Like they're pretending to be "afraid" or "embarrassed" of liking something, when really they're just saying it so everyone will think they're deep and interesting ... ah. I bet you're all reading this and not understanding at all.
I just.... I don't know what to do. I don't have any friends anymore. I've been so ostracised by society that I feel like it's a whole different world? It's made me extremely bitter and I wish I could find someone else like me to make me restore faith in humanity. Someone who doesn't like partying and drinking and big groups. Someone who just wants to be best mates and do things together. I don't know. I can't find ANYONE boy or girl who is compatible with me! They all want big social lives. Every time I find someone I get on with, they move when they realise I don't want to be in the centre of things, I don't want a big group of friends, I don't want to go for meals in posh places and dress up and go partying and drape myself over boys. I'm a tomboy at heart and those things don't appeal to me at all. I want to wear comfortable clothes and have a laugh with one or two people. I don't want to be noticed, I just want to amuse myself in the background, if that makes sense.
I suppose I know that I just want a simple life. That's all. I don't want all the big "wooooo". I'm a really homely, cosy person ... if you can describe someone as cosy. I just mean, I'm really down to earth. I look at other people and they're like aliens, they want so much and want the high life. They want to go to Oxford and be doctors and go partying and have loads of friends and money and all that. Whereas I just want to stay in with ice cream and a good film.
What am I going to do? How can I find someone quiet and likes things like me? I am so abnormal and a reject ... I know that I'd make a brilliant friend to someone out there, but I can't find them ....
I am really unhappy because I don't fit in anywhere and I despair at our society.
I may as well describe myself. I don't like talking, I prefer to listen or just observe. I'm shy, quiet, bit socially awkward. I have never been to a party in my life - mainly because I haven't been invited, but I wouldn't go to one if I was. I can't socialise or do small talk unless I get on really well with said person. I HATE having attention on me. I'm the person who's always sat in the corner, watching everyone else. Sometimes in amusement or disbelief. It's not like I'm a boring person because I'm quiet, in fact I'd say I get amused at things way more than anyone else! People only notice me as the girl who never says anything, but if you get to know me I'm bubbly and laugh a lot. But no one gets to know me because it's obvious I want different things to them.
So because I don't drink and I don't like social situations, and don't like big groups of people, I can't fit in.
I'm a good person: I'm honest, polite, keep myself to myself, have humility, I'm friendly to anyone who speaks to me, humble, generous, loyal, reasonably intelligent, faithful, forgiving ...Yet I feel punished for it because I'm not like everyone else. Basic qualities like this that make you a decent human being don't seem to mean anything anymore. It's all about who's the prettiest, the chattiest, the most extroverted, who can put on the best fake laugh, who knows the most people.
My favourite things to do are watching films and TV series boxsets, thinking, going for walks, the internet or just talking with someone who is close to me. Mainly solitary activites, but I wish I had someone to do them with me. I love LotR, PotC, Doctor Who, Merlin, Sherlock. I hear people saying "I like LotR! I'm such a geek!" And I'm like =| It's like they're putting it out there that they like a popular thing and then going all self depreciating for it! Like there's something wrong with liking LotR? Like they're pretending to be "afraid" or "embarrassed" of liking something, when really they're just saying it so everyone will think they're deep and interesting ... ah. I bet you're all reading this and not understanding at all.
I just.... I don't know what to do. I don't have any friends anymore. I've been so ostracised by society that I feel like it's a whole different world? It's made me extremely bitter and I wish I could find someone else like me to make me restore faith in humanity. Someone who doesn't like partying and drinking and big groups. Someone who just wants to be best mates and do things together. I don't know. I can't find ANYONE boy or girl who is compatible with me! They all want big social lives. Every time I find someone I get on with, they move when they realise I don't want to be in the centre of things, I don't want a big group of friends, I don't want to go for meals in posh places and dress up and go partying and drape myself over boys. I'm a tomboy at heart and those things don't appeal to me at all. I want to wear comfortable clothes and have a laugh with one or two people. I don't want to be noticed, I just want to amuse myself in the background, if that makes sense.
I suppose I know that I just want a simple life. That's all. I don't want all the big "wooooo". I'm a really homely, cosy person ... if you can describe someone as cosy. I just mean, I'm really down to earth. I look at other people and they're like aliens, they want so much and want the high life. They want to go to Oxford and be doctors and go partying and have loads of friends and money and all that. Whereas I just want to stay in with ice cream and a good film.
What am I going to do? How can I find someone quiet and likes things like me? I am so abnormal and a reject ...
I know that I'd make a brilliant friend to someone out there, but I can't find them ....You sound like a sweet person...why dont i have people like you near me?? Instead of the fake tan sluts! Im sick of those types of girls!
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You're normal.
If you enjoy doing what you're doing - simple things - then keep doing them. And don't feel like every one is an alien cause you think they are that way when you first look at them or talk to them. You'll buy a wall between you and potential friends.
Sometimes i enjoy staying somewhere, being quiet and just look at all those people living too fast and how they behave but this is it : they're living in the society. Maybe you don't trust me but lots of people think like you do and just like to enjoy being home eating an ice cream in front of the television for hours and those people are the same you can see at the parties. Beside this, we also enjoy being surrounded by our friends and when we're with them and feel good and confortable, we're also the small groups of friend who like to laugh all together in the background.
If you want to talk about it deeper, PM me!
If you enjoy doing what you're doing - simple things - then keep doing them. And don't feel like every one is an alien cause you think they are that way when you first look at them or talk to them. You'll buy a wall between you and potential friends.
Sometimes i enjoy staying somewhere, being quiet and just look at all those people living too fast and how they behave but this is it : they're living in the society. Maybe you don't trust me but lots of people think like you do and just like to enjoy being home eating an ice cream in front of the television for hours and those people are the same you can see at the parties. Beside this, we also enjoy being surrounded by our friends and when we're with them and feel good and confortable, we're also the small groups of friend who like to laugh all together in the background.
If you want to talk about it deeper, PM me!
Continue to do what you love, live life the way you want and do the things you think are right You'll meet the right ppl over time 
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You'll meet the right ppl over time Posted from TSR Mobile
Original post by Anonymous
I've been bottling this up for ages and I just want to let it all out.
I am really unhappy because I don't fit in anywhere and I despair at our society.
I may as well describe myself. I don't like talking, I prefer to listen or just observe. I'm shy, quiet, bit socially awkward. I have never been to a party in my life - mainly because I haven't been invited, but I wouldn't go to one if I was. I can't socialise or do small talk unless I get on really well with said person. I HATE having attention on me. I'm the person who's always sat in the corner, watching everyone else. Sometimes in amusement or disbelief. It's not like I'm a boring person because I'm quiet, in fact I'd say I get amused at things way more than anyone else! People only notice me as the girl who never says anything, but if you get to know me I'm bubbly and laugh a lot. But no one gets to know me because it's obvious I want different things to them.
So because I don't drink and I don't like social situations, and don't like big groups of people, I can't fit in.
I'm a good person: I'm honest, polite, keep myself to myself, have humility, I'm friendly to anyone who speaks to me, humble, generous, loyal, reasonably intelligent, faithful, forgiving ...Yet I feel punished for it because I'm not like everyone else. Basic qualities like this that make you a decent human being don't seem to mean anything anymore. It's all about who's the prettiest, the chattiest, the most extroverted, who can put on the best fake laugh, who knows the most people.
My favourite things to do are watching films and TV series boxsets, thinking, going for walks, the internet or just talking with someone who is close to me. Mainly solitary activites, but I wish I had someone to do them with me. I love LotR, PotC, Doctor Who, Merlin, Sherlock. I hear people saying "I like LotR! I'm such a geek!" And I'm like =| It's like they're putting it out there that they like a popular thing and then going all self depreciating for it! Like there's something wrong with liking LotR? Like they're pretending to be "afraid" or "embarrassed" of liking something, when really they're just saying it so everyone will think they're deep and interesting ... ah. I bet you're all reading this and not understanding at all.
I just.... I don't know what to do. I don't have any friends anymore. I've been so ostracised by society that I feel like it's a whole different world? It's made me extremely bitter and I wish I could find someone else like me to make me restore faith in humanity. Someone who doesn't like partying and drinking and big groups. Someone who just wants to be best mates and do things together. I don't know. I can't find ANYONE boy or girl who is compatible with me! They all want big social lives. Every time I find someone I get on with, they move when they realise I don't want to be in the centre of things, I don't want a big group of friends, I don't want to go for meals in posh places and dress up and go partying and drape myself over boys. I'm a tomboy at heart and those things don't appeal to me at all. I want to wear comfortable clothes and have a laugh with one or two people. I don't want to be noticed, I just want to amuse myself in the background, if that makes sense.
I suppose I know that I just want a simple life. That's all. I don't want all the big "wooooo". I'm a really homely, cosy person ... if you can describe someone as cosy. I just mean, I'm really down to earth. I look at other people and they're like aliens, they want so much and want the high life. They want to go to Oxford and be doctors and go partying and have loads of friends and money and all that. Whereas I just want to stay in with ice cream and a good film.
What am I going to do? How can I find someone quiet and likes things like me? I am so abnormal and a reject ... I know that I'd make a brilliant friend to someone out there, but I can't find them ....
I am really unhappy because I don't fit in anywhere and I despair at our society.
I may as well describe myself. I don't like talking, I prefer to listen or just observe. I'm shy, quiet, bit socially awkward. I have never been to a party in my life - mainly because I haven't been invited, but I wouldn't go to one if I was. I can't socialise or do small talk unless I get on really well with said person. I HATE having attention on me. I'm the person who's always sat in the corner, watching everyone else. Sometimes in amusement or disbelief. It's not like I'm a boring person because I'm quiet, in fact I'd say I get amused at things way more than anyone else! People only notice me as the girl who never says anything, but if you get to know me I'm bubbly and laugh a lot. But no one gets to know me because it's obvious I want different things to them.
So because I don't drink and I don't like social situations, and don't like big groups of people, I can't fit in.
I'm a good person: I'm honest, polite, keep myself to myself, have humility, I'm friendly to anyone who speaks to me, humble, generous, loyal, reasonably intelligent, faithful, forgiving ...Yet I feel punished for it because I'm not like everyone else. Basic qualities like this that make you a decent human being don't seem to mean anything anymore. It's all about who's the prettiest, the chattiest, the most extroverted, who can put on the best fake laugh, who knows the most people.
My favourite things to do are watching films and TV series boxsets, thinking, going for walks, the internet or just talking with someone who is close to me. Mainly solitary activites, but I wish I had someone to do them with me. I love LotR, PotC, Doctor Who, Merlin, Sherlock. I hear people saying "I like LotR! I'm such a geek!" And I'm like =| It's like they're putting it out there that they like a popular thing and then going all self depreciating for it! Like there's something wrong with liking LotR? Like they're pretending to be "afraid" or "embarrassed" of liking something, when really they're just saying it so everyone will think they're deep and interesting ... ah. I bet you're all reading this and not understanding at all.
I just.... I don't know what to do. I don't have any friends anymore. I've been so ostracised by society that I feel like it's a whole different world? It's made me extremely bitter and I wish I could find someone else like me to make me restore faith in humanity. Someone who doesn't like partying and drinking and big groups. Someone who just wants to be best mates and do things together. I don't know. I can't find ANYONE boy or girl who is compatible with me! They all want big social lives. Every time I find someone I get on with, they move when they realise I don't want to be in the centre of things, I don't want a big group of friends, I don't want to go for meals in posh places and dress up and go partying and drape myself over boys. I'm a tomboy at heart and those things don't appeal to me at all. I want to wear comfortable clothes and have a laugh with one or two people. I don't want to be noticed, I just want to amuse myself in the background, if that makes sense.
I suppose I know that I just want a simple life. That's all. I don't want all the big "wooooo". I'm a really homely, cosy person ... if you can describe someone as cosy. I just mean, I'm really down to earth. I look at other people and they're like aliens, they want so much and want the high life. They want to go to Oxford and be doctors and go partying and have loads of friends and money and all that. Whereas I just want to stay in with ice cream and a good film.
What am I going to do? How can I find someone quiet and likes things like me? I am so abnormal and a reject ...
I know that I'd make a brilliant friend to someone out there, but I can't find them ....I have to say, I'd say I'm more confident, extroverted than you, and definately more social, but I don't like parties, I don't like huge groups, and I don't go out drinking. I don't think that is that big a deal - nearly everyone I'm friends with is like that, I have a hell of a lot of friends and we're all into the stuff you just described - watching films and hanging out with each other, not going out drinking and partying. I've never had a problem getting along with people because I prefer this life - in fact, lots of people seem to agree.
Hang in there, really. There's nothing else for it. But you need to be more confident - I'm sorry, but that is the only way you'll end up with friends. You just need to find people who appreciate the same things as you.
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