Trans boyfriend?

- most of all, be prepared for bad times.. life as a trans person, can be hard.. even in later stages of transitioning, im yet to meet a fellow trans woman, or man, who doesnt have bad days, days where things dont seem to great, when eveything gets to much, or just when he/she encounters other/transhpobic people.. - so just try and be supportive and understanding, and there to comfort if things get a bit much..

Luckily he's sensible and talks about his feelings. I've had mental health problems myself so have some understanding of just feeling god-awful sometimes, think we'd be strong enough.

She likes you and you herim

Thanks for being so positive, but gotta correct this bit hunny - he is sooo not a 'she'.

She sooo is.

I will stop referring to girl->guy transsexuals as female when they become a male.

Your girlfriend-to-be is still female, regardless of what her body looks like.

She sooo is.

I will stop referring to girl->guy transsexuals as female when they become a male.

Your girlfriend-to-be is still female, regardless of what her body looks like.

She sooo is.

I will stop referring to girl->guy transsexuals as female when they become a male.

Your girlfriend-to-be still has XX chromosomes, regardless of what her body might look like.

Don't wanna debate this here, gender is in your head, and it's considered massively rude and upsetting to not respect a trans person's pronouns/identity. If you want a flame war, please take it elsewhere, because that is what this will become.

be polite. it is no hassle to you - and avoids upsetting others.

I do not care how rude people think I am, and hopefully never will.

Gender isn't decided in your head. I can convince myself that I'm, say, god incarnate, but it doesn't make it so.

However, I don't wish to argue either because it's off topic and I don't want to derail the thread.

This gives me hope that my 'unusual guybits' will not stop me finding someone awesome some day

keep being awesome

you are a wonderful person she is very lucky x




queer doesnt mean lesbian.. - it could imply bisexual, pansexual, demisexual, or even no defined sexuality, just 'queer' - or something entierly different..


+ to the op.. just an open dialog.. thats all you can aim for, - be honest, and understanding.. and listen to them - but im sure you will do all that and more

- most of all, be prepared for bad times.. life as a trans person, can be hard.. even in later stages of transitioning, im yet to meet a fellow trans woman, or man, who doesnt have bad days, days where things dont seem to great, when eveything gets to much, or just when he/she encounters other/transhpobic people.. - so just try and be supportive and understanding, and there to comfort if things get a bit much..

I cannot leave this comment as it is without thanking you. I was not having a good day, and as I was bored and moping in my house, scrolling through this thread, my eyes alighted on something wonderful..

That cat running into the cling film-ed cat flap. Jesus Christ I'm still laughing.

I'm a lesbian so I'll date a trans man. Erm......

I'm a lesbian so I'll date a trans man. Erm......

I know it don't make sense, the important factor is if she's a lesbian, wouldn't she be attracted to females? I know I sound ignorant here but I'm just confused, if someone is transitioning from female to male wouldn't his lesbian partner, find him unattractive, post op, as a lesbian is well, attracted to females, rather than males?

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Queer does not necessarily mean lesbian. I'm not sure if OP fully clarified her sexual orientation.
She also said that the things that will change aren't the things she's attracted to, and she loves his new voice.

Oh I was just a bit confused, I know queer don't mean just lesbian, but I'd have though 99% of the time it did, I have nothing against lesbians or gays or transgenders but I'd be a little confused, as in this case, I don't really understand, it's confusing me even more now. How is she queer if the person is a F2M? I sound nieve, but I am curious.

Queer for me personally means 'not straight' - I've liked girls, guys and genderqueer people in the past (genderqueer in this case = not identifying as male/female).
I find people who choose to define as queer are more likely to be flexible with who they date/find attractive than just going for the same sex. Sorry for any confusion I've caused, I forget that 'queer' isn't commonly used outside of the LGBTQ community.
Anyway, yea - we would be in a straight relationship, but I won't stop being queer, just as my sexuality wouldn't change if I went out with a cis (non trans) guy.

Oh, so your saying, you would go out with someone you like, regardless of gender(or gender change) I think I understand now, good for you, I think I get it now I think that it's kind of like being bisexual, but not exactly, if that sounds right.

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Pansexual is the technical term for what you're describing. Whether that is what OP identifies as it up to her (although people tend to have about as much trouble with understanding pansexuality as with understanding queer in this situation. At least people have heard of queer).