Things that you put you off a woman?

"Cool." Heh.

Yes, see, that's why I said "rarely do these qualities mingle well", not "no one society deems intelligent or ambitious ever does drugs or alcohol ever."

Well I was like that with a guy not too long ago, but just because I liked him a lot - doesn't mean I'm not a feminist. I don't mind being told what to do sometimes, but it depends on the context.

The dynamics of a relationship can often be more complex than just 'submissive/dominant' as you're suggesting.

Well I was like that with a guy not too long ago, but just because I liked him a lot - doesn't mean I'm not a feminist. I don't mind being told what to do sometimes, but it depends on the context.

The dynamics of a relationship can often be more complex than just 'submissive/dominant' as you're suggesting.

Sorry but subsuming your will to that of some guy you are into and "doing what you are told" rather does mean you are not a feminist.

You're one sad dude. What is the point in going out with someone just because they like you and for no other reason?

I dislike:

Girls who dress in manly clothes so baggy trousers, trainers, etc

Tattoos and piercings. I just find it to be "eww". Reminds me of druggie slags from Camden.

Dumb girls. How can I like you if I can't hold a conversation with you?

Whiny and needy girls. Just plain irritiating. Go jump off a bridge.

Really short girls. I'm unusual in that I prefer a taller girl. It's not a big deal however if I like her other attributes then extreme shortness is fine.

Fat girls. now when I say fat I mean double chin fat. Curvier girls are great but if you're so fat that your face is deformed then I am not going out with you. It's not just a looks thing, being fat shows you have a lazy outlook on life whereas I'm a very sporty and fit person so we wouldn't match.

Girls who don't make an effort. Even if you don't look so great if you at least try I will appreciate that for there is a lot girls can do to improve their looks. Again it shows that they are lazy and cba which is undesirable.

Overly fake girls. Fine for a bit of fun but I'm not bringing you home to the parents.

Girls who smoke. Don't want my future wife to die on me in 20-40 years plus it makes your hair stink.

Gossip
Insecurity
How they flirt around so much

I couldn't go out with a girl who was not:
-ambitious
-highly intelligent
-funny
-cute
-lacking in insecurities
-outgoing
-fun-loving
-willing to experiment with drugs and alcohol
-into festivals and travelling

What dynamic do you believe in.



and this is exactly what I mean with the too much feminist thing.

We've already established that you aren't looking for an equal relationship, so its no surprise you don't want to date a feminist.

I know you guys aren't the only ones that have said this, but this is the only real thing guys desire that I don't get.

You can be confident, outgoing, explorative and have amazing personal qualities, but still be honest enough to accept the fact you are imperfect and inadequate. In fact, I'd respect someone for having the self-honesty to say there will always be aspects of myself I will struggle with. Because it's true.
I don't think anyone can look in the mirror at any point in their life and say 'I am entirely free from insecurities', even on their death-bed. In fact I think I would be repusled by a girl/ guy who had the brashness to make such a claim.

The point at which you lose all your self-effacement and insecurity is often the point at which you become obnoxious and un-endearing. A girl with insecurities has a story to tell, and undoubtedly you too will also have insecurities and a similar story. From the point you accept eachother as weak and try to understand eachother, there is an emotional journey you go on that enriches both your lives.

I can never understand why people are so afraid to show some vulnerability as well as their more charming and self-confident aspects.

Some vulnerability can be endearing, healthy and above all, human.

Umm I don't like being told what to do generally. Please don't make me spell this out for you. And I am most definitely a feminist. If a woman wants to be submissive, then that's fine, as long as she had the choice. And often, even in today's society, women still don't get that choice.

No it's just kind of depressing when a guy becomes more feminist than a girl and proceeds to flame her for not adhering to their fundamentalism

I noticed some of you said tattoos... So if they had a little one on their ankle that'd still be a no?


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I didn't flame her, I just said she wasn't a feminist. Is that a flame?

Dislike/allergy of cats.

i wouldn't say anything puts me off a girl as such.

i am going to sound quite desperate here (but who can blame me when i am 22 and yet to have a girlfriend), the best thing about a girl is if she likes me back. being semi-attractive helps but i think most girls are semi-attractive these days (or at least makeup makes them appear at least semi-attractive) that looks don't really come into it. if you see what i'm saying?

yes i dont like loud, fat chavs but i dont hang around that type anyway. i judge it on what i see at uni and i like what i see in the vast majority of cases. so it comes down to whether she likes me.

Crazy cat lady right here


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Okay now I feel stupid thought it was referring to something else haha.

Note to self: look up fancy-sounding words before assuming they mean what you think they do.