I don't believe in Valentine's Day -

Hey Guys,

I go to the University of Westminster and I'm doing my final project on student's attitudes on Valentine's Day and Online Dating -

I personally don't believe in Valentine's Day because I think you should appreciate the ones you love everyday..

Wehhh I know, but that's how I feel.. for now anyway

What do you guys think? Do you believe in Valentines Day? (do you practice it for yourselves or just do it if you're with someone that thinks you should do something for it?)

Also as a student now - would you try Online Dating?

(edited 11 years ago)

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Reply 1

miser

I believe in it. I believe it's two weeks on Thursday.

Reply 2

AvocatInTraining

What do you mean? Believe that it exists or believe that it is a day for lovers, or the story behind it? Your question is too vague. Wth do you mean?????

Reply 3

BerylRD

I'm glad some of us still believe in it I guess :smile:

would you ever try online dating?

Reply 4

michaelwirth78

A story was told to all student when I was in 11 standard in our class. I forget the most of character name of valentine story but I remember just little bit about the name character of valentine "Saint Valentine" I forget story but I believe in valentine day.

Reply 5

BerylRD

Original post by AvocatInTraining

What do you mean? Believe that it exists or believe that it is a day for lovers, or the story behind it? Your question is too vague. Wth do you mean?????

Sorry for being too vague - that it is a day for lovers and that you and your partner should do something for it because it is Valentine's Day?

Reply 6

AvocatInTraining

Original post by BerylRD

Sorry for being too vague - that it is a day for lovers and that you and your partner should do something for it because it is Valentine's Day?

No you don't have to, I'd do it on another day. Pluys you should be loving your partner everyday. It's liek mothers day. Why should culture decide when to love your GF/BF/HUSBAND/WIFE???

Reply 7

Pinkhead

Valentine's day is for losers.

Reply 8

ilem

Personally I call it Valium Day :u:

Reply 9

redferry

I hate valentines day, it is just stupid and an excuse for couples to be all grim in public and I feel bad when in a couple doing stuff because it rubs it in everyone's faces 'look at how happy we are!'.
I might try online dating but I think I would find the whole thing too embarrassing.

Reply 10

The_Internet

I don't like valentines day - mainly because I've always been forever alone :colone:

Reply 11

Cania

Original post by redferry

Did it occur to you that maybe we do nice things for our partners on Valentine's Day because we like making them happy? I can assure you that it's nothing to do with making single people feel bad - why would it be? Your relationship status is nothing to do with me, my boyfriend or anyone else.
I actually think it's pretty self-centered to assume that people do things just to spite you :s-smilie:

I never understood that attitude.

OP - It's a fun excuse to do something nice for each other. My boyfriend and I celebrate it (it was actually his suggestion). We agree not to buy things that go up in price massively (flowers, chocolate etc). This year we have a £10 budget and he's being really sweet and planning a romantic day for us that won't cost much at all.

I think it's a good reminder to appreciate each other. It's all well and good saying you should do that every day, but human beings get wrapped up in things - work, family etc. I'm pretty sure Christians are pretty happy about Jesus' birth and life every day, but they still have dedicated holidays. I don't really see the difference...

Reply 12

redferry

Original post by Cania

I never understood that attitude.

So, it is still rubbing it in others faces! Whether you mean it to or not. It is a side effect of valentines day and quite a sad one. Similar to the way I hate PDAs, I hate Valentines day. People should be more considerate, you don't have to constantly be holding hands to love someone etc. Given how unhappy some people get about being single it is just unnecessary and lacking in thought.

Also I think my partner is more than happy doing things with me the rest of the year. Over the past few years being single for me Valentines day is a day traditionally spent with friends doing something like cooking, or going to an all you can eat. My boyfriend is away this year and I will be carrying on the tradition, but I would hope to do so even if he wasn't. Plus I will not be sending him anything or texting/emailing him about it, because it is a load of rubbish and I do not feel the need to validate my relationship with some stupid day.

Reply 13

username447608

I dont ever celebrate valatines day, I think its over commercialised. Yes i can see that its quite sweet and cute and I think its down to personal taste but im not going to buy my boyfriend a big teddy saying I love you and I dont want him to buy me some over the top bright red card. Its just not us I dont like how people feel forced to buy their partner something and when your single quite frankly its ****.

Me and my boyfriend are not a soppy overly affectionate couple we love each other but we dont do flowers and poems all that stuff

Reply 14

Plumstone

My boyfriend frequently and spontaneously does really sweet things for me and I do the same for him; I'd hate it if we were restricted to only being romantic to each other on Valentine's Day.

For this reason, we tend to completely ignore Valentine's day. The fact that the media and shops seem to think it's only the guy who's meant to get flowers/chocolate etc for the girl and she's not expected to do anything is also unfair in what's meant to be a balanced relationship. Personally, I think it's all quite contrived.

As for the online dating; no, I wouldn't; I prefer more organic ways of getting to know people.

Reply 15

Ribbits

My mother/father/children are dead, how thoughtless and horrible for people to celebrate mother and father's day openly - you can't move for all the reminders in shops and the media! What a stupid thing. You can appreciate your family every day in private away from me. Christmas is terrible: how dare people be so happy, assigning a whole day to it, when I suffer severe SAD and have negative memories from an unfortunate childhood. Why do I have to be aware of it? Reminded of my suffering? No one should ever create any festival or celebration day for anything, it will always be pointless when you could just do it throughout the year anyway. They will always be exclusive to some group too... why can't I go to every family's traditional annual barbeque?! Just because I'm not related, that's horrible. Actually, public open happiness should be banned altogether. Some people are unhappy so that's not fair.

It's really not noticeable, if it doesn't mean anything to you it is very very easy to ignore. 19 years went by without me knowing it was Valentine's day or being affected by it. Life's too short to get upset over nothing.

Edit: It is hideously contrived and commercialised, like most things. Everyone has their own taste, ideas and ways of appreciating though. My boyfriend and I do still use it as another excuse to do something original and sweet for each other.

(edited 11 years ago)

Reply 16

Dragonfly07

I don't like valentine's day because I don't think it's genuine. It's a day where men have to buy lots of gifts for their wives/girlfriends and put them on a pedestal (what does the woman have to do?).

And what about single people? They just stand there on the sidelines watching all the so called love going on and being depressed.

I think valentine's day is more hassle than it's worth.

Reply 17

the bear

i go to card shops and write SLAG in pencil on the back of those massive valentine cards they have there

Reply 18

dave_123

I for one have enjoyed previous valentines whilst also being romantic and loving through out the rest of the year, both my ex and current partner have always agreed on nothing more than a night out / in no gifts or extravagant shows of affection.

It's only commercial if you buy into it otherwise it's just a nice excuse to spend some more time together.

I don't by into this not showing open affection because it might upset singletons , i've been single on Valentines my self and i didn't go around resenting others who had a loved one to enjoy it. I guess i didn't think about it at all and if i did i probably thought "good for them"

I can see why people don't like it and if it's not your thing fine but i'll be taking my other half (kinda) out for a nice meal then home for a night in. Why? Because i enjoy doing it and ya'no why not? It also doesn't stop me from doing similar things though out the year either.

Reply 19

russellsteapot

I find it quite false and pointless if I'm honest. I can understand why some people might choose to involve themselves in it (social expectation) but I've never gone for it myself. If I'm with someone, I don't need an overmarketed special (expensive) day to celebrate that fact. We already have birthdays and Christmas in that category, I don't need another one. Last year (whilst in a relationship) I went to see Noel Gallagher 200 miles away with my friend. Not solely because it was Valentine's Day but that was an added bonus. My (ex) girlfriend actually wanted to argue about it and made a huge deal of me being in a grotty hotel in Aberdeen on Valentine's Day. The expectation annoys me more than anything else. If someone wants to make a big deal out of it, go ahead, but don't involve people who aren't remotely interested. I'm actually mildly on the romantic side, not wishing to come across as a cold, heartless misery.

There are few celebrations more ghastly than Valentine's Day. Can't think of any off the top of my head but I'm sure they exist. It's World Leprosy Day tomorrow, has everyone bought their cards?