Should i tell my straight best friend that I love him?

Should I? I've known him for 5 years now and was in love with him the week we met. We lived together for 2 years and now we've moved away (after uni) but we still talk to each other a lot. If I were a girl I'm sure he'd love me as much I love him.

Recently I found out that he's probably going to date a girl and I feel so jealous and horrible that I don't want to keep my feelings in the dark but I just want to tell him and have him deal with it, because well why should I sit around and feel sad about it?

Anyway, what do you think? I don't want to make him feel bad or annoyed at me but I just feel like I should "get justice" and bring the truth out. At least if he rejects me (as in doesn't want to be friends with me) I can finally get over him.

Anyway, what do you think? I don't want to make him feel bad or annoyed at me but I just feel like I should "get justice" and bring the truth out.

Do it, then tell us how it went.

Does he know you're gay?

I personally think you should tell him before its too late... Go for it and its valentine day tomorrow so thats a even better day to tell him.

There's no "justice" to get. It's really wasting your time telling him you fancy him if he's not gay. It will just make things awkward. Sorry, dude.

This is a tough situation, I don't even know how to answer but I wish you the best of luck in whatever you chose to do.

You sound like you really need to 'make peace' with yourself about your feelings for him

I don't think telling him will be easy (you shouldn't do it on Valantine's day - if he does freak out, it'll freak him out more!). You should realise all the possible consequences it might have; he might want to cut contact with you, get weird around you or act totally normally - you don't know! Even if you think you know someone inside out, it's pretty hard to predict how he'll be.

It's by no means a unique situation, i'm sure people on here will be able to share their stories but in the end it's what's right for you. 5 years is a loooong time to hold feelings for someone and you obviously care for him but again, you sound like you need (for want of a better term) to 'make peace' with yourself about it. If I was in your situation, I don't know if I would be brave enough but if I was brave enough, I'd say go for it

Why does he need to acknowledge the pain'?

He hasn't done anything but play for a different team.

Personally I don't see what can be gained, especially since you don't even see him much any more?

What are you yourself doing to move on? Pining for someone like that isn't healthy.

Tell him if you absolutely must but yeah, seems an unnecessary shooting in the foot. I wouldn't advise anyone to just out tell a friend "oh yeah btw I totally love you n ****".

Best of luck either way man but I think you know how this will go, you want to tell him in the slimmest thinnest fools hope he'll reciprocate but that won't happen.