Ask a trans man!

What's awful?

The bunnies and mice. Surely that's obvious.

I don't really have a question but I'd just like to say thank you for creating this thread I've never met anyone who identifies as a trans man or trans woman, but reading all this has been fascinating Very interesting and I know someone has already said this but nothing has disturbed me so far

Hope your family come around (but it's their loss if they don't)

and good luck with finding a partner - ooh! a quick question! How do you tell people who you are dating/thinking of being intimate with that you have female genitalia? And have you had people reject you immediately when they find out?

But yeah. Thank you, it's a great thread

This is not exactly related to being trans because I like being female and am cisgender. But I hate my chest and people say I have body dsyphoria about it. Did you get a reduction or complete removal?

I'm a tomboy like 60% of the time and like wearing stripy topsand stuff but not with a big chest..it's like nonono

I sound silly..but are there any ways I can make my chest look smaller

I do have a question for you though..do you feel comfortable around people who are hostile or do you just ignore them?

Bravo for being proud of yourself..I grew up with an FTM trans (Although we're not close) and it must have been scary at times

EDIT: I meant FTM. I get confused

Anyway, I can show you. Note that I was originally very flat, but I've had some muscle growth there. Until I can get rid of the belly flab, it may be mistaken for slight moobness; this would also stop me widening at the hips as much.

Come on, dude, that neither counts as flab nor could be mistaken for moobness. Also, erm, lookin' good.

Thanks I guess I'm a bit controlling with a pinch of paranoia.

Before testosterone, I was rakey and never had to be careful about anything. Testosterone gave me an appetite, and I quickly gained some middle. I calorie controlled, but my body is a bit naff about sugar, so I collapsed and accidentally stabbed myself on a plate and got blood everywhere, which was amusing because I made the place look like someone had been murdered when a new housemate was arriving

I am s*-scared about ending up overweight and gaining moobs. It really would screw me up, big time. A large number of trans men are overweight due to appetite increasing from testosterone, because we haven't grown up learning how to control a larger appetite like cis (non-trans) men have. We suddenly end up in the deep end and have to work out how to try and tell our bodies "No. Enough cake."

Hence how I'm trying to work out nowadays, weighing myself with scales that calculate body fat percentage, putting up things on a spreadsheet with a graph... As I say, I'm s*-scared about losing control over my weight.

Edit: Just realised that this comes back to dysphoria focus. I am not too dysphoric about my genitals, but it comes with a price.

If you find out how to say no to cake, do let me know.

Complete removal. It's very rare to hear about trans men getting breast reductions - I think it might be applicable in extreme cases when it's worth the fun of the first surgery, and they can get it a lot earlier than the full whammy (which they can then do when they have the funds/NHS has okayed it). Also, the complete thing does need to be with someone who specialises in that surgery, not just breast removals (for things like cancer patients) - the aim is to make a male chest, not just a breastless one.

Anyway, I can show you. Note that I was originally very flat, but I've had some muscle growth there. Until I can get rid of the belly flab, it may be mistaken for slight moobness; this would also stop me widening at the hips as much.




Not a silly question at all. I guess you might end up getting a reduction in the long-term?

I got my binders from T-Kingdom, but this uses Asian norms - smaller bodies, and smaller breasts. I had to get medium, and at the time I was as thin as a stick, with breasts that were A's on a large day. However successful they were for me, I have seen pictures of large-breasted trans men showing that they don't really do the trick. On the other hand, you're not wanting to be as flat as a table - theirs might be better for you, as it won't be so aggressive.

The other popular one is Underworks, which is from USA, so more suited to Western body norms.

These aren't the cheapest things in the world, I grant you. A cheaper method people use are bandages - not a good idea. These are designed to tighten, and greatly increase all the risks of binding (pneumonia, broken ribs, etc.).

If you see a free binder giveaway place, please don't take one. They are all short of binders, and FtMs need them, when tomboys and cosplayers keep taking them!

Finally... Tight binding over a long time will damage tissue and give you a case of le saggy breasts. This obviously isn't a problem for trans men who are intending to get them removed anyway, but for you it will be, so make sure to not overdo it. Also, don't bind when asleep.



I haven't had people (other than family) be hostile to my face. Were someone to be, I would ignore them expecting them to shut up. If they didn't shut up, then I would stand my ground hard.

I did once have someone be a knob to me on facebook publicly, many years ago. He said something about me being a "chick with a dick", so I replied "I'm not a chick... And I don't have a dick... So you kind of failed there." I do my best to put people in place as swiftly as possible, with a bit of snark if I can, and that usually deals with situations.

I have become angry on the internet (on Tumblr), but this wasn't name-calling or anything like that. It was carrying on the argument with the lava beneath the surface, making it very public and obvious that I did not find the conversation acceptable. The one time I got close to blowing my top there, I left the scene until I'd cooled off. My Dad brought me up with the view that the one who blows their top and forgets all sense of reason automatically loses.

How long have you been on hormones for? And has that changed your facial structure? Do you have to shave? Could you grow a beard?

Sorry... quite a few questions there. Just quite interested that's all!

2 1/2 years. I do need to shave, but currently it's patchy. I think facial hair should be finished by the 3 years on T mark, at which point I intend to sport some. It might help stop me looking like a child. I've seen fallen_acorns little timeline, so I'll do one myself. Note that unlike her, I cannot give any pre-transition pictures.

If you know me from real life, common courtesy dictates that you do not spread or publicise my username, nor go on a creepo stalk of my past posts. Many things I say I intend only to be connected to my profile, and not traceable to the living me. Thanks.

aw, you look lovely + I love that the last photo just has a snake right in the middle.. no questions asked, just.. snake.

Complete removal. It's very rare to hear about trans men getting breast reductions - I think it might be applicable in extreme cases when it's worth the fun of the first surgery, and they can get it a lot earlier than the full whammy (which they can then do when they have the funds/NHS has okayed it). Also, the complete thing does need to be with someone who specialises in that surgery, not just breast removals (for things like cancer patients) - the aim is to make a male chest, not just a breastless one.

Anyway, I can show you. Note that I was originally very flat, but I've had some muscle growth there. Until I can get rid of the belly flab, it may be mistaken for slight moobness; this would also stop me widening at the hips as much.




Not a silly question at all. I guess you might end up getting a reduction in the long-term?


These aren't the cheapest things in the world, I grant you. A cheaper method people use are bandages - not a good idea. These are designed to tighten, and greatly increase all the risks of binding (pneumonia, broken ribs, etc.).

If you see a free binder giveaway place, please don't take one. They are all short of binders, and FtMs need them, when tomboys and cosplayers keep taking them!

Finally... Tight binding over a long time will damage tissue and give you a case of le saggy breasts. This obviously isn't a problem for trans men who are intending to get them removed anyway, but for you it will be, so make sure to not overdo it. Also, don't bind when asleep.

I did once have someone be a knob to me on facebook publicly, many years ago. eople in place as swiftly a.

Every picture needs a snake in it. I should have photoshopped a snake into the rest...

Complete removal. It's very rare to hear about trans men getting breast reductions - I think it might be applicable in extreme cases when it's worth the fun of the first surgery, and they can get it a lot earlier than the full whammy (which they can then do when they have the funds/NHS has okayed it). Also, the complete thing does need to be with someone who specialises in that surgery, not just breast removals (for things like cancer patients) - the aim is to make a male chest, not just a breastless one.

Anyway, I can show you. Note that I was originally very flat, but I've had some muscle growth there. Until I can get rid of the belly flab, it may be mistaken for slight moobness; this would also stop me widening at the hips as much.




Not a silly question at all. I guess you might end up getting a reduction in the long-term?

I got my binders from T-Kingdom, but this uses Asian norms - smaller bodies, and smaller breasts. I had to get medium, and at the time I was as thin as a stick, with breasts that were A's on a large day. However successful they were for me, I have seen pictures of large-breasted trans men showing that they don't really do the trick. On the other hand, you're not wanting to be as flat as a table - theirs might be better for you, as it won't be so aggressive.

The other popular one is Underworks, which is from USA, so more suited to Western body norms.

These aren't the cheapest things in the world, I grant you. A cheaper method people use are bandages - not a good idea. These are designed to tighten, and greatly increase all the risks of binding (pneumonia, broken ribs, etc.).

If you see a free binder giveaway place, please don't take one. They are all short of binders, and FtMs need them, when tomboys and cosplayers keep taking them!

Finally... Tight binding over a long time will damage tissue and give you a case of le saggy breasts. This obviously isn't a problem for trans men who are intending to get them removed anyway, but for you it will be, so make sure to not overdo it. Also, don't bind when asleep.



I haven't had people (other than family) be hostile to my face. Were someone to be, I would ignore them expecting them to shut up. If they didn't shut up, then I would stand my ground hard.

I did once have someone be a knob to me on facebook publicly, many years ago. He said something about me being a "chick with a dick", so I replied "I'm not a chick... And I don't have a dick... So you kind of failed there." I do my best to put people in place as swiftly as possible, with a bit of snark if I can, and that usually deals with situations.

I have become angry on the internet (on Tumblr), but this wasn't name-calling or anything like that. It was carrying on the argument with the lava beneath the surface, making it very public and obvious that I did not find the conversation acceptable. The one time I got close to blowing my top there, I left the scene until I'd cooled off. My Dad brought me up with the view that the one who blows their top and forgets all sense of reason automatically loses.

so, so jealous of your chest mate

I went for my 2nd appt at the GIC last month and was told I was far too mentally unstable to proceed with anything yet (severe clinical depression even with meds and some sort of therapy). I have stupid amounts of guilt for keeping my family in the dark currently (I'm terrified of telling them). Unfortunately it's easy to go without telling them because I'm away for univ.

What was your name before and what did you change it to? How did you pick a new name, were there any reasons behind it?