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Christ that was a horrible feeling!

OK, so I asked this girl I like if she wanted to go for a drink tonight. She said no coz she already had plans sorry. Well that was a horrible feeling anyway. I expected her to be doing something tonight anyway just because people do stuff on Friday. Anyway I just want some help with something. What she said, is it possible that I might get to take her out next Friday if I ask her early enough in the week? Because the 2 things that make me hope there is a chance is that she did not say 'No thanks' or just 'No' and she did say sorry. Does that mean that, like, she has not outright rejected me?

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Reply 1

username47781

Maybe shes just too busy tonight, you could always instead say wanna go for a drink sometime when your free, if she still says no, least you tried.

Reply 2

pumpkin7

yeah, you will probably find that most people won't cancel already made plans with friends, so either ask her early in the week, or chose a different day.
i don't think she rejected you, she just had something else to do :smile:

Reply 3

matt@internet

Yeah thats what I think (or hope). For some reason a mate reckons that if she really liked me she would have cancelled her plans (I don't think so)

Reply 4

matt@internet

I tell you I felt much better after going to the gym though.

Reply 5

xoxo_GossipGirl

Well she either really did have plans, or she was making an excuse not to see you and letting you down gently, try again, and if she says she's busy again, maybe she's trying to give you a hint =)

Reply 6

Sexy Plexi

Hell, don't feel disheartened! Just cos she's busy doesn't mean she might not like you. When I get asked out I usually can't free up time for about 5 days sometimes, just cos I organise a lot of nights out with mates (uni...what a bugger! ahaha) or I have to work. Take it at face value; don't just automatically assume she's brushing you off. Ask her again and then you'll have a better idea. Besides, more important is how she acts around you.. body language etc. Ask other people if you're not sure if the feelings mutual. Chill. Ooh, and no, I wouldn't cancel pre-made plans with mates to go out with someone. That someone will still be there tommorrow and it's just plain rude! Unless I didn't really wanna partake in such plans in the fist place, if you get me?

Reply 7

Biffy Clyro

Go for it- its a Friday night tonight so nearly everyone would have plans?

Just ask her if she'd like to "sometime", and ask if she has a preference.

I wouldn't say: "Do you want to go for a drink tonight?" again (on a different day obviously) as it is likely she will be busy and I doubt you would want to ask her for a third time

Reply 8

naivesincerity

I never get optimistics where women are concerned, sometimes, 'cos there isn't that much to be optimistic about, sometimes, to not deal with inevitable disappointment

Reply 9

matt@internet

So what should I say next time then? And when should I ask? Like between Mon - Wed?

Maybe your just ugly

If she just said "no, sorry" then I wouldn't bother - if she liked the idea of you taking her out she would have suggested another time.

Reply 12

matt@internet

Well acording to 'The Rules' (yes I have read a lot of it, total load of **** basically) it is the mans job to 'hunt' if they will so she was not supposed to suggest another time :wink:

Reply 13

Ron Stoppable

Mystery says: You telegraphed too much interest too early.

Reply 14

matt@internet

Ron Stoppable

Mystery says: You telegraphed too much interest too early.

What?

Reply 15

Pink Lady

No, ignore him!
What you are doing is fine.It is perfectly normal for a girl to not cancel her plans to go on a date with a guy as it shows she is'nt going to be clingy, and that she has a life. She asked you about next Friday which suggests she is interested, as if she was trying to fob you off it would've been far more vague ie "Maybe some other time".

Just ask her on Tues. I don't think you showed too much interest at all.
Good luck

Reply 16

Pink Lady

You played it well, from what I gather

Reply 17

matt@internet

I didn't say she asked me about anything. I just said fair enough and had to go to get something signed by my teacher. She just said sorry. But yeah, so i should ask her early in the week, mabye Tuesday?

Reply 18

Sexy Plexi

Uh huh, like other posters have said just when you're next talking to her drop it into the conversation ie "Would you fancy going out for a drink sometime or doing something together?" NO specified date and you'll know one way or the other whether or nor she's interested in you. It may or may not be the answer you wanna hear but you haven't go anything to lose. If it's no, move on, if it's yes wahey! And I know how it feels, I've made the first move in the past...nerve-wracking as hell! Good luck x