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Finding my best friend really annoying...?

Okay so I've been friends wth her for around two years, she has been around for a much shorter time than my other close friends. We first started speaking because I got put next to her in maths and then we got super close and pretty much spent all our time together. It's odd because recently she just seems to have changed in such a way where I no longer want to be around her (nor do our other friends so it can't be just me). I still care about her, but everything she does now just seems annoying. She has started patronising people a lot and using this weird shrill voice all the time. She tries to fit the 'geek - I don't care what people think' sort of stereotype and it's fairly obvious, but in reality she clearly does care what people think because she's trying to give that image off! She also regularly reminds us that she doesn't really care how we feel and is the most useless person to turn to for advice. I just can't deal with her being around right now and I miss how she used to be, she was so much more laid back and pleasant to spend time with. It all seems to have begun from when she dramatically cut off all her hair (it used to be super long and now it's like pixie cut short), I think she wanted to change so maybe there is nothing I can do. :/ I don't want to lose her but I currently cannot stand to be around her and nor can our other friends!

Reply 1

cuckooclock

Obvious question is: have you asked her about it?

Also, sometimes traumatic personal experiences make a person do the craycray.

Reply 2

NerdFighteria

Original post by cuckooclock

Obvious question is: have you asked her about it?

Also, sometimes traumatic personal experiences make a person do the craycray.

I haven't directly asked her about it because on paper she is perfectly allowed to act like this it's just irritating. She knows something is up she asked one of our friends why everyone was annoyed at her but it's difficult to know what to say.
I know that her parents don't get along that much and she wants them to get a divorce but things are not that awful (they don't argue much really I think they just steer clear of eachother). But then again another friend of mine has a similar if not worse situation and she is completely fine. I get that different people react differently but this friend was never one to make drama or fuss over her problems before now so I don't understand/think this is the cause of the change in her? Even if we want to help her we can't because she has convinced herself that we couldn't possibly understand. She's gone into some sort of meltdown mode.
It's so frustrating it's like she's a different person.

Reply 3

superduper9

What I find confusing/strange is how girls become best friends in a flash and become ridiculously close. Then for some strange reason, they can't stand each other! This has happened to 2 of my girl mates regularly over the last year - they're like sisters one week and then can't stand the sight of the other the next!! Its quite funny at times - I guess it would be good if you had a balance, don't continue to be overly-friendly with her if you can't stand being around her. Might have to accept thats how she is now, accept that and just socialise with her when you have to!

Reply 4

NerdFighteria

Original post by superduper9

Well we didn't become best friends in a flash it was just over time in each math class we would chat and then gradually we seemed to become very close, it just sort of happened. But she is not the same person she once was and I don't know if it's because she's in an odd faze or if this is her now?
My other friends have been constant friends for about five years and if we ever argue (which is rare) it's never that serious. We've always been a fairly close group but we also have other friends outside too we're just pretty close knit. So it just bothers me, she is a nice person I know surely she can't be that different it's just unbearably irritating to be in her presence and everyone feels this way, even some of our friends that aren't as close notice. I don't know if I SHOULD just say something or... but I kindof feel like she won't understand/or be able to change!