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What's your honest opinion about bisexuality? What does it mean to you?

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Original post by Iamyourfather
Fair enough.

No so much 'open to bi-curiosity' but thoughts at least? You haven't thought another man was attractive?


You are walking into an embarrassing situation. Give it up, love!
Original post by Eveiebaby
You are walking into an embarrassing situation. Give it up, love!

How is it embarrassing? :s-smilie:
Original post by Iamyourfather
Fair enough.

No so much 'open to bi-curiosity' but thoughts at least? You haven't thought another man was attractive?


There is a difference between recognising that a particular chap will be attractive to ladies and finding them attractive yourself.


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Original post by LexiswasmyNexis
There is a difference between recognising that a particular chap will be attractive to ladies and finding them attractive yourself.


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This. My dad can appreciate that Johnny Depp is an attractive man, but he isn't attracted to him.
Original post by LexiswasmyNexis
There is a difference between recognising that a particular chap will be attractive to ladies and finding them attractive yourself.


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There isn't that much of a difference I think. Being attracted to a guy and finding them attractive are more different i.e finding someone physically attractive doesn't necessarily mean you're sexually attracted to them.

You can still think a guy is attractive without having the desire to bone them. If you think a guy is attractive to ladies, he's attractive in your opinion.

You also haven't answered the first Q :tongue:

Original post by minimarshmallow
This. My dad can appreciate that Johnny Depp is an attractive man, but he isn't attracted to him.


Perhaps that's what he meant but not what he said. I didn't ask if he was attracted to males, I asked whether thinks some are attractive.
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Original post by Iamyourfather
There isn't that much of a difference I think. Being attracted to a guy and finding them attractive are more different i.e finding someone physically attractive doesn't necessarily mean you're sexually attracted to them.

You can still think a guy is attractive without having the desire to bone them. If you think a guy is attractive to ladies, he's attractive in your opinion.

You also haven't answered the first Q :tongue:



Perhaps that's what he meant but not what he said. I didn't ask if he was attracted to males, I asked whether thinks some are attractive.


It isn't something I think about to be honest. I don't think 'he is attractive. He is not'.

In any case, thinking a guy is attractive to others would not, to my mind, make me 'bi-curious'. I have no interests in 'experimenting' because I find the idea of doing so pretty repulsive.

I have thought about it in the sense that I was trying to get to the bottom of why I find it so distasteful.


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Original post by Iamyourfather




Perhaps that's what he meant but not what he said. I didn't ask if he was attracted to males, I asked whether thinks some are attractive.


By the way, that is exactly what I said.


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Original post by LexiswasmyNexis
It isn't something I think about to be honest. I don't think 'he is attractive. He is not'.

In any case, thinking a guy is attractive to others would not, to my mind, make me 'bi-curious'. I have no interests in 'experimenting' because I find the idea of doing so pretty repulsive.

I have thought about it in the sense that I was trying to get to the bottom of why I find it so distasteful.


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I understand. Like I said before bi-curious doesn't necessarily mean you want to go out and perform such acts. It could be a thought or an idea.

I still think all of us (well those who are not asexual) have at least a tiny percentage of bi-curiosity. Humans are a curious species.
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Original post by Samrah96
Well i was actually referring to other people feeling uncomfortable, dont get me wrong i'm not saying bisexual people shouldn't be allowed in changing rooms, but people might feel weird knowing that this person could be looking at them in that way. Again, i dont mean to offend just putting it out there.


Oh okay sorry. :colondollar:

.. Well like straight people I guess they have their preferences.. Not going to fancy everyone they see lol :smile:..
As a former bisexual who's now pretty straight I say sexual orientation is all socialisation, or certainly can be so.
I don't think I realised until I was 12 or 13 that most people were only attracted to one gender/sex (depending on how you define hetero). Bisexual is my default setting - I like a lot of people entirely regardless of gender and for different reasons. I 'came out' so to speak at 15 but I don't know a single person who was surprised - I've never been subtle about it. I don't mind people who are out as bi as a stopover to coming out as gay, but I do want to make it clear that not all bisexuals will one day 'see the light' and go one way or another. I have found that girls I know are far more comfortable with bi girls than gay girls which I find a bit strange, but c'est la vie.


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Original post by hannahchan
Oh okay sorry. :colondollar:

.. Well like straight people I guess they have their preferences.. Not going to fancy everyone they see lol :smile:..


But the potential for perv/unwanted desires/'subtle' harassment is there. That potential is enough to segregate genders.


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Original post by LexiswasmyNexis
But the potential for perv/unwanted desires/'subtle' harassment is there. That potential is enough to segregate genders.


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We do segregate genders almost all of the time.
Do you mean segregate sexual orientations? I don't think it's an issue. Most changing rooms I've used have cubicles anyway, there's even unisex ones at my uni's sports centre.
Original post by minimarshmallow
We do segregate genders almost all of the time.
Do you mean segregate sexual orientations? I don't think it's an issue. Most changing rooms I've used have cubicles anyway, there's even unisex ones at my uni's sports centre.


I'm saying exactly what I wrote. We generally segregate genders based on that potential.

I'm not saying we should segregate sexual orientation- I don't see the point..

But I was pointing out that the potential for those things I listed remains, so you cannot simply wash it away with 'bisexual people don't fancy everybody'. I don't fancy 80yr old women, but I'm still not allowed to walk into a female changing room which is full of them.


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Original post by LexiswasmyNexis
I'm saying exactly what I wrote. We generally segregate genders based on that potential.

I'm not saying we should segregate sexual orientation- I don't see the point..

But I was pointing out that the potential for those things I listed remains, so you cannot simply wash it away with 'bisexual people don't fancy everybody'. I don't fancy 80yr old women, but I'm still not allowed to walk into a female changing room which is full of them.


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Well said :smile:
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Bisexuality is more common than realised, because people seem to think that you are either gay, straight or bi. It is however more of a sliding scale. I identify as bi but i find it easier to have emotional attachments to men but find women (often) more attractive. You dont have to be exactly 50-50 to be bi.

Also we have the best threesomes :wink:
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Maybe I can help by telling you my story.I have always been in long term relationships with guys and then I met this girl at work and we fell in love with each other.This is 2 weeks after I broke up with my bf of 3yrs(italian too).We have been going out for 1 year 3 months now but I am starting to get this horrible feeling that even though I love her I don't think its enough.See I want a family and kids later on(not now)and I miss things with guys.But I do really love her,I just can't imagine myself with her in the future.Things that I have never needed to think about before in my life like kids and family I am forced to think about now because its not possible.I could never have kids and a family with a girl,I'm sorry that I feel like that too but its true.She has always liked girls and never doubted it but I have always been with guys and I always doubt it.I know it can't go on like this forever but its so hard to break up with someone you love because you can't see things being the same in the future.The worst thing about it is;I miss guys sexually,I find myself frustrated which is strange because making love with my girlfriend is so much more powerful...Anyway I hope I helped a little.I am still lost as to what to do but sure it'll work out.
Hi. Firstly I sense u worried u bisexual. I believe nothing in earth is black and white we are all born on sexual spectrum from o-100%gay or straight. I am 46 and aware all my life bi tho never expressed it as gay people when young told me I was in denial and straight bf acted like it was titillation them so hid it. Dif. Today hun b who u want love who u want. Much lovexxxx

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