Broken up with, out of the blue

My girlfriend broke up with me a few hours ago. It was completely out of the blue but she felt like we wouldn't really work in the future, although she's only been thinking of breaking up with me for a few days.

We were happy together and she told me she still loves me and I still love her. We even had plans for this evening but she's since left and I'm currently a mess in my bedroom.

Any words of comfort during this time? Thanks.

My advice would be quite simply to indulge yourself in something. Your emotions are going to be all over the place, and you'll probably be feeling a real cocktail of things right now. Your family and friends will also be there for you to talk to, but I think it's times like these when there's nothing better than some creature comforts, so whatever they are, go for it

It'll take a while for the dust to settle and over the next few days are when it'll be more helpful to talk to those close to you.

The best thing to do now is to welcome and accept any emotions you are feeling. Upset? Angry? Sad? These are all normal and completely acceptable! Indulge in things that you like to do. Favourite tv programs, favourite food, exercise, games... just don't touch alcohol or any other drug as these will only enhance and exacerbate the emotions you are feeling.

Next step, avoid all contact with her! Hide/delete her on facebook, delete her number etc, you don't want to be reminded of her. Give yourself time to feel these emotions and then you need to pick yourself up and get on with life! You don't need her to carry on with life, you have yourself and all of your dreams and ambitions

Thanks, I deleted her number and took her off facebook. I just feel so shocked at it all, things were going great. Just this morning she was telling me she loved me and now this...

She was my rock. My family and friends live a way out of town so I don't seem them as often as I'd like and most of my socialising was with her (sad, I know), now she's gone I feel so lost, but I'm making an effort to spend time with more people. Thanks for your help .

Lets...lets...get this ironed out.

She was never your rock. Never ever ever ever ever ever rely on anyone else so intensively unless you're married honestly, cause they will nearly always disappoint you, then you'll be left disorientated and unstable.

Make something/someone more reliable/ genuine be your rock. Like your parents/ family member someone who is ALWAYS ALWAYS going to be there for you. Phone them, email them, skype them whatever just maintain contact.

If you don't have that/ or too time consuming/ can't be arsed, then to be honest, you don't need a rock. All you need is to be strong.

Like you said, make new friends, build new relationships, and never rely/ or truly give your heart to someone you don't have a definite commitment to, like marriage...even then you know.

Just be more aware, and you'll feel less like you do now.

I know it's probably quite hard, but you have to move on, find a new crush or something, or maybe this gives you more time to focus on other things in life, there's a benefit to everything

Good luck.

Relationships have taught me the same thing you are about to learn, that you can't trust everything everyone says. Accept what people say, but leave your emotions one step back.

She's pretty honest and I believe her. I think what she feels now is quite sudden and she told me almost straight away as it was a certain feeling.

She was my rock. My family and friends live a way out of town so I don't seem them as often as I'd like and most of my socialising was with her (sad, I know), now she's gone I feel so lost, but I'm making an effort to spend time with more people. Thanks for your help .