[Please Help] Lonely! Don't socialise outside of school.

I am 16 and a boy and I talk to lots of people at school in lots of 'friend groups' but I don't have anyone's numbers and don't message them on Facebook.

Also, I can sometimes start a conversation at school with people but I've got no idea what to say to people on Facebook or phone to boys or girls.

I don't go to clubs or anything which I don't want to and I am looking for something that isn't join a club because it's too late atm and I don't like sport or music etc.

I never get invited to parties which is bad! Don't know how to fix this.
What would you recommend?

So what can I do instead?

I am 16 and a boy and I talk to lots of people at school in lots of 'friend groups' but I don't have anyone's numbers and don't message them on Facebook.

Also, I can sometimes start a conversation at school with people but I've got no idea what to say to people on Facebook or phone to boys or girls.

I don't go to clubs or anything which I don't want to and I am looking for something that isn't join a club because it's too late atm and I don't like sport or music etc.

I never get invited to parties which is bad! Don't know how to fix this.
What would you recommend?

So what can I do instead?

You need to be more confident, and behave more aggressively when you talk to people is it like a 5 minute thing or do you spend the whole break with them? If you keep just making small talk and hang around people for a short amount of time, you will NEVER establish a strong friendship because you just appear to them as an acquaintance. To get strong friendships you need to spend more time with them until it becomes normal to hang around them. Selecting people is also important too because you want to make sure they suit your social status don't aim too high because no one likes a social climber. But don't aim too low cause you won't be too happy. Find the people that you feel you are most interested in. If you have at least 2 big things in common with the people you are talking to the friendship will last longer and be stronger. Your main problem I think is confidence if you can break that bond than you should be fine.

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Your story is really sad to hear but I honestly think that you need to force yourself to interact with people otherwise you will never have good bonds with people

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break and lunch; just walk up to a group of people and hope to start a conversation; i don't think so...

I know it's a horrible feeling being lonely, but honestly if you can sort this out now you will be a much more confident person. Don't worry if it doesn't work out though - you are by no means the only one in your situation. Most people don't come into their own, as it were, until the end of university, even the ones who appear confident now.

The only way to do it is to thoroughly believe that you are not socially inferior to people. Teenagers are like animals - they pack together, and sense weakness. If you aren't sure they want to be friends with you they will immediately know that. However, if you go and sit by them at lunch, or approach them (in subtle ways - upsetting the order of things doesn't work either), then they will like you.

I know it's easier said than done, but you just have to do it. Some advice, from experience;



This advice may not seem very practical to you at the moment, so what I would do in your situation is;



Hope this makes sense - sorry for rambling on. It's all just a massive game really. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

thanks for that especially on social group and friends and how to act confident.

I do sometimes talk to people at school but also I don't know how to turn people who you talk to to friends you see outside of school.

what advice can you give?