Hello TSRians,
I have a HUGE dilemma. So there's this guy, that has like me since primary school, and we lost contact for over 5 years. But Fate has brought as back together to meet during college, which was completely random. He's never had a gf, I'm his first. He is, obviously, very good looking, and has a pure heart. It's inevitable nearly all the girls want him, but he chose me. We've been together its been nearly 7 months now, but there have been mnay problems.
Ok so, his family are very religious (well I dont think so, more cultural than religious, they seem to get it mixed up, but thats another story) I wasn't aware of this. We both have the same religious background but i guess me and my family (mainly me) are not practising.
His family are strictly against relationships and free mixing with the opposite gender. So half way our relationship, we got caught. He's got a sibling that attends our college, who is the biggest ungrateful snitch i've ever met. She always snitches on him and whatever he does. This lead to a big issue as his mum contacted mine, and made a very big deal out of it. The obviously defamed me and made me look so bad to my mum, saying how I've 'ruined' her perfect son and im leading him to hell etc etc. Turns out his mother is VERY OVER PROTECTIVE. The things this lady done to ruin my life... well I could go on, but yeah whatever. I hate her, in fact, his whole family.
But my boyfriend is literally crazy for me, I tried leaving him in respect of his mother but he didnt care. He was so persistant of getting back with me he was ruining his education as well as distracting me from mine. I mean, it was hard seeing him at that state, he eve tried drugs to get over me but it was impossible. My feelings were so strong for him and still are.
So i gave it another shot, we got back, but this time, on the low. No one, not even our friends, knew about us. We kept it going for another 2 months without anyone know, never being seen in ublic either. But eventually, we made it obvious. Tragically, we got caught again. His mother, again contacted mine. My mother wasn't taking any sh*t, so things got really rough between our family and his. We are still together. My family has advised me to leave him, as there will be no possible future with him. I take my relationships very seriously and only stick with someone i know i will be able to have a future with. We're both crazy for each other, and we can't seem to leave one another.
His idea was that as soon as we both graduate from uni, we both get married and move away from everyone, go to another country and start our life there. As we've graduated we can then get a job and become financially stable and so on.
But like, I;m not sure if it's a good idea.we have thought it through, we just have to wait 3 years down the line. and for the time being carry on how we are right now. Keeping our relationship a secret. I trust him very much, he trusts me too. If he wasn't serious about this, i dont think he would go through all that. There was so much more that has happened between his family, all of which will be too much to type.
So, what do I do?