Girls - Does the guy have to be good at guitar to be attractive

Basically i have low self confidance issues,

Confidence. It's spelt confidence.

Basically i have low self confidance issues, mainly because anything that i do cos i like i know there is someone better than me in my close circle of friends

Example: I play guitar, i'm ok at it, been playing on and off, self taught for 3 years, and i know many people who are much better than me beacuse they play more regually than i do and even though i know they are going to be better beacuse they've put more time in it, i still have low confidance, the phrase i use is that i'm both inspired and indimidated by guitarists that are better than me

I'm trying to find something which can give me some confidance and i keep comming back to either singing or guitar as this year those two things have helped me through some tough times (i'm not particually good at either, but it helps me cope), but when ever i try to do them i stop practising quite quick;y because i know i'm not that good, and i know that you get better the more you do it but can never stick at em for longer than 30 minutes a piece

Basically i have low self confidance and get indimated quite easily, i need to find a way i can either cope with that or be rid of it all together

The best way to gain natural confidence is to actually face your fear and practice the actual thing which you find difficult: Chatting up girls. Don't expect girls to jump into your lap from playing guitar; they are human beings with thoughts and feelings, talk to them, and gain practice feeling comfortable doing that.

I would do that if i had the confidance to toactually get up off my ass and do it, the problem with me is, is that i talk myself down a lot, i'm the kinda person that days "why would a girl bother talking to me i'm not the best looking guy out there" and when unless i've just been notcing the wrong girls, it's normally the good looking guys that get all the attention, even if it's just talking

I used to be exact same when I started uni but then I forced myself into these situations and realised they aren't actually that scary, even in bars/clubs if you get rejected then it just doesn't matter, it's not a comment on you. Girls aren't always instantly attracted to the guys that you think are better looking than you, there's so much more than looks to take into account and you will realise this when you gain some practice. Do you have any female friends?

Step 1: Learn to face your fear, girls aren't a different species, it's not like making contact with an alien race.

Step 2: Play guitar if you want to.

What are you gonna do, run up to girls and serenade them randomly? You need to know girls well enough to be put into a position where it's appropriate to play guitar. It seems like you're trying to jump straight to the finish. Work on your confidence, the only way to do that is to talk to girls

The bizzare thing is, once i'm past the ice breaker i'm fine 98% of the time, i just find it really hard to actually go and break the ice, i overthink things, it's kinda the way my brain works, i have a very analytical brain, i over think things, also have anxiety issues so that causes me to think over things as well