Girls: Would you expect a guy to pay on a date?

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For a first date, yes I would. Unless he earns a lot less than me or is struggling financially, then obviously no. But if he's in a comfortable position, yes I would, for the first date.

After that 50:50. I guess it wouldn't bother me if he wanted to pay 50:50 on the first date, but it's not quite the same.

(edited 10 years ago)

Reply 21

L'Evil Fish

Original post by lauraaaaa

I'd pay whatever my 'half' cost, particularly if I'd spent more!

Say you spend 25
He spent 10

How much do you pay each?

Original post by SaFa1237

Sometimes my friends and I split the bill and even if one of us spends more, we don't mind. Obviously it's different circumstances but I wouldn't mind. :smile:

Yeah, but that's friends :tongue:

Reply 22

pandabird

Original post by JagSan

But if a guy insisted, and you said you'd split it and then his reply was 'OK', would you mind? I expect some people(not saying you!) expect the guy to insist but say they'll split for the sake of it.

Reply 23

rattusratus

no, we normally go 50/50 ish

i.e rounds in the pub or one pays for meal and one pays for cinema etc...

Reply 24

deedee123

I wouldn't say I would "expect" him to pay, but if he asked me to go on a date then i think it would be a nice gesture for him to pay. I wouldn't have a problem paying 50:50 though and i'd always taken enough money to make sure i could. I would always offer anyway.

Reply 25

wildrover

It depends if she is one of them women that shoves womens rights down peoples throats.

Reply 26

L'Evil Fish

Original post by wildrover

It depends if she is one of them women that shoves womens rights down peoples throats.

I know what you wanna shove down those throats :sexface:

Reply 27

Technetium

Original post by Funtry

You seem like an awesome girl! I'd put enough down visibly for slightly over half, so that they can see how much I've put down (say it was £30 I'd put down £20) and see what they do. I mean, I obviously can't leave it at £20, but would prefer if she paid that extra tenner!

If the date went pretty well, and we were guaranteed a second date, I'd offer to pay in full, as I know/hope that if we go on more dates she'll begin to pay for it sometimes! Then it'll sort of even out.
If it was awful, go dutch!

Aww thanks, likewise :h:

. Hmm... that's a good way to see if she'll cough up. I'll try that sometime, but the guy'll probably feel emasculated :lol:

Reply 28

username504651

Original post by L'Evil Fish

Say you spend 25
He spent 10

How much do you pay each?

I pay £25 and he pays £10 wouldn't ever expect anyone to pay for me, but that's just my opinion :smile:

Reply 29

Funtry

Original post by Technetium

Aww thanks, likewise :h:

. Hmm... that's a good way to see if she'll cough up. I'll try that sometime, but the guy'll probably feel emasculated :lol:

Aw thanks

It is! Can be quite awkward though.. Eh, if they do, then you'll know whether or not they're right for you? I mean if you like LADs then he may be good (if he takes offence), but if not, then it wouldn't matter to him that much!

Reply 30

L'Evil Fish

Original post by lauraaaaa

I pay £25 and he pays £10 wouldn't ever expect anyone to pay for me, but that's just my opinion :smile:

Hmmm... That's fair enough!

Reply 31

nombo

Is it really awful that I would expect him to pay for everything? Not that I would take advantage and order the most expensive thing, but I would still expect him to pay...how bad am I?

Reply 32

Technetium

Original post by Funtry

Aw thanks

LADs? Heavens no! haha. That's true! the first date shows whether the other person is committed to a possible relationship..

Reply 33

RalphsDisciple

On first dates, I don't like it when they pay the full bill. I want to pay my share, because otherwise I feel like I owe something to him. He might not think anything of it, but I certainly do!

Reply 34

Floalley

Original post by Funtry

If someone I was out with put down £20 for a £30 bill, I would put down £10 and hand that person £5, especially on a first date where I don't know them very well, I would feel uncomfortable allowing someone to cover any of my share.

However I agree once you get to know someone a lot better it doesn't matter so much who pays for each outing, as long as it isn't always the same person.

Reply 35

Funtry

Original post by Technetium

LADs? Heavens no! haha. That's true! the first date shows whether the other person is committed to a possible relationship..

Exactly what it's for! I guess.. Haha, well, when you said that you didn't want a guy to feel emasculated, I felt like you were saying you go for LAD's! Most guys don't mind, though if they do then just decline the offer (if it comes your way) for a second date.. :ahee:

Reply 36

DuncanMono

As an gay man, there's an odd dynamic when it comes to paying for things on dates and such. It tends to work out the one evening one party pays the bill and then another is paid for by the other. The question of paying always sours the milk a little bit. The best thing is to get your wallet out and show willing :biggrin:

Reply 37

Funtry

Original post by Floalley

I wouldn't be able to accept the fiver though, as that's different to putting the money down if that makes sense? If I put 20 pounds down, even though I'm technically giving you a fiver, I'm not physically handing you a five pound note, and that's where the difference lies.

I'm looking way too far into this.

Reply 38

minimarshmallow

For a first date I don't expect it, but I like it if it happens. I always offer to pay for what I had 3 times (asking him if he's sure etc.) though, before gratefully accepting :smile:

Dates after you're in a relationship should be paid for whoever suggested/planned the date imo.