Guys, can someone please give me some advice on this? I've posted on here before with no reply
My boyfriend and I after many years of being together have now gone Long Distance and we're really struggling
The distance is really taking its toll on me and its getting really upsetting, I really don't know what to do.
I don't feel like he's taking our LDR very seriously.
We barely speak anymore, I try to message him every day either through fb or through text just to remind him that he means a lot to me or that I'm thinking of him and he barely ever replies to me, sometimes the only time he texts me is if I text him first and sometimes he doesn't even reply.
Then we barely ever phone or skype at all now. Something always gets in the way and I don't mind that he's got other stuff on but sometimes I feel like I am really the bottom of his priority list whereas he's at the top of mine, I'm always the first thing to be chucked to one side and whenever I talk to him about things that are bothering me with this LDR he always makes really really crappy excuses like "I've got a lot of uni work to do, I miss home I'm finding this hard" And I just feel like telling him well, everyone feels like that but no one else is ignoring people. I mean if he's got that much uni work on (and I get it I really do, I find uni quite difficult time wise as well) it literally takes two seconds to send a text every now and again.
Sometimes, he'll tell me that we'll skype tonight and I get really excited and he either won't skype me or something will get in the way again, which I just find really hurtful actually. Whenever, we talk about this he gets really defensive saying that I'm always blaming him but then nothing ever changes, so we keep having the same argument all because he's not willing to let me know as soon as he can if he can't skype or phone or whatever that night! But he's never willing to change anything to make it any easier for me whereas I've constantly got to accommodate him!
I know I'm not perfect, I do, because I keep having a go at him and I'm sometimes coming across a little bit clingy because I get upset when he chooses his friends over me when we haven't skyped/talked/messaged each other for days and I know that's really bad for me to be like that but sometimes, it does upset me how he feels he has to go to EVERY social event but not skype me ever
I mean I want him to socialise I really do but sometimes it feels really crappy when I'm left behind because of that. I dunno. Can someone help? How do I stop being like this? Getting hurt by him so often? What can I do to change this?