I was in a long distance relationship for 3 years; he lived halfway around the world, and we had only met once, but we kept it going via communication online, which was how we met in the first place.
In some ways, long distance can be amazing. You get the thrill of being able to visit such exotic places just to see the love of your life. You get the anticipation as the days get closer and closer till the next time you can see them. And when the day finally comes, you get to appreciate spending every moment that you do with them, because neither of you know when the next time will be. It's a great feeling knowing that someone miles away would be counting down the days to see you, and wish that you were there in their arms. You will wake up every morning feeling more motivated than ever, and you will never get tired of hearing their voice, because that will be the sound of heaven to you.
However, there have been some down sides. Sometimes it can become a bit obsessive; I can honestly say that not a day had passed where I thought to myself
'Oh I wish he was here with me right now' 'Why can't he live any closer?' 'I'm so jealous of everyone who gets to see him everyday'
And even after we finally got to spend some quality time together, I would feel even more depressed after every phone call, FaceTime that followed.
'I wish I was with him again' 'I don't think I'll ever feel that happy again' 'So now we've met, when will the next time be? Would I have to wait another 3 years?'
Just the thought of not knowing where it is going to end up, and all the uncertainty, can bring you down so much.
Every love song you hear will remind you of him/her, and you will mentally cry whenever you hear his/her name, or see a picture of you two together, because you will remember that day that you spent with them and you would feel down, as the build up to that day has all gone and passed. You will feel pain whenever you see him/her in photos with people that they could possibly be flirting with, because you would never know what goes on when you aren't there with them. You begin to get paranoid. Is he/she cheating? Does he/she still love me as much as they did before? There's so much that you don't get to see about this person. You don't know their weird habits, how they carry themselves in public, what they like doing in the spare of the moment. So many things you thought you knew about them, but in fact, its as if you don't know this person at all.
Sure, long distance relationships are a great experience while they last, but I wouldn't do it again. My heart was broken when I found out that he was dating someone else. And the worst part was that I found out through his new girlfriend, as he kept denying it. Now I have realised that there are actually more fish in the sea. I don't wake up every morning wishing I was somewhere else, because I've grown to be happy with my current life and situation. I don't sit by the phone waiting for him to call.
Maybe long distance is for some people, and I do believe that it can work. I guess I was just unlucky enough to have ended up falling in love with such an a**hole.