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Going home every weekend at uni - stupid idea?

My family's moving to a completely new city (Canterbury) this summer, and I don't have any friends there and have only been to the place a few times. I feel like I want to get to know the place and set up roots there, but I only have a few weeks from when we move till my final year at uni begins. I intend to live there after I graduate.

Would it be ridiculous to go home every weekend so I can socialise/get to know people from the area? At the moment it doesn't feel like I will have much of a home there and the Christmas/Easter hols are not long enough to make friends in. I can afford the travel costs and my uni is not too far away, but am not sure if it is worth taking time out of my uni social life, or if I will be able to make many friends in Canterbury when I am only there at the weekends.
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Reply 1
Not at all imo.
Reply 2
Original post by danny111
Not at all imo.


Do you reckon I'll be able to make new friends if I'm just there for the weekends, though? :smile: My family don't know anyone there either so I can't meet new people through them and will have to start completely from scratch. We are moving solely because of work (my mother's got a really good job, but unfortunately they've relocated her permanently due to office closure).
Reply 3
Original post by Sloaney Pony
Do you reckon I'll be able to make new friends if I'm just there for the weekends, though? :smile: My family don't know anyone there either so I can't meet new people through them and will have to start completely from scratch. We are moving solely because of work (my mother's got a really good job, but unfortunately they've relocated her permanently due to office closure).


I guess that depends on how social you are...

I mainly meant I don't think it's a big deal if you go home on weekends. In Switzerland many, many students do this.
Reply 4
Original post by danny111
I guess that depends on how social you are...

I mainly meant I don't think it's a big deal if you go home on weekends. In Switzerland many, many students do this.


Well most don't go home EVERY weekend... in fact, most go home at the most every other weekend. And it depends on travel times, of course.
Reply 5
I wouldn't go back every weekend, maybe twice a month and some of the holidays, its more important to get to know people at Uni, just my opinion
I think getting to know people at uni is more important - you don't *need* to have friends 'at home'. Whereas you do need to have friends at uni!
Reply 7
Original post by RibenaRockstar
I think getting to know people at uni is more important - you don't *need* to have friends 'at home'. Whereas you do need to have friends at uni!


To clarify, I am going into my final year so already have plenty of uni friends, though I won't know some of my housemates next year so will need to take time to get to know them :smile:
Reply 8
I think it is a bit much and as others have said it's more important to make friends at uni. Maybe go home every other weekend instead?

Anyway, can you not make friends there after uni is finished? You said you may live there for a few years after. That seems like the perfect time to make good friends, rather than when you are at uni most of the time.
So you plan on moving back to Canterbury for the rest of your life once you graduate? What's the point in getting to know anyone there? You won't be there!
Reply 10
Original post by Kazbian
I think it is a bit much and as others have said it's more important to make friends at uni. Maybe go home every other weekend instead?

Anyway, can you not make friends there after uni is finished? You said you may live there for a few years after. That seems like the perfect time to make good friends, rather than when you are at uni most of the time.


I always have a lack of home friends and social life, though, as my family has a habit of moving (though we are definitely staying in Canterbury for a while) which tends to get me down even though I have a lot of uni friends.
I don't think it's a stupid idea at all.

But thinking about it another way, you'll be in university what, September until June? After that, you have the whole summer and any time you're at home after that to make friends. Do you need friends in Canterbury before June, particularly given that you won't be there?

If you felt like you needed/wanted to though, it wouldn't be a problem :smile:
Reply 12
Original post by DarkWhite
I don't think it's a stupid idea at all.

But thinking about it another way, you'll be in university what, September until June? After that, you have the whole summer and any time you're at home after that to make friends. Do you need friends in Canterbury before June, particularly given that you won't be there?

If you felt like you needed/wanted to though, it wouldn't be a problem :smile:


I'm kind of tired of having a lack of home friends (we've been moving all the time since I was about ten) - do you reckon I could find some even if I was just there for the weekends, though? Not sure how viable this is :smile:
Original post by Sloaney Pony
I'm kind of tired of having a lack of home friends (we've been moving all the time since I was about ten) - do you reckon I could find some even if I was just there for the weekends, though? Not sure how viable this is :smile:


I don't see any reason why not.

A lot of people your age working full-time will go out more on weekends than other nights, not exclusively of course.

Just be proactive with people you meet to suggest meeting at weekends :smile:
I started off going home every other weekend... then eventually it became every few weeks. It's completely up to you and I was never judged for it :smile:

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