What's WRONG with being a virgin?!

A girl who has had 15 sexual partners before the age of 20.
A girl who has decided to save herself until marriage.
A guy who would prefer a virgin girlfriend.
A guy who wouldn't.
Someone who decides not to have sex at all.

Do you know what the problem with all these people is?

Nothing.

The only problem is people who bash other peoples choices when it doesn't even affect them.

I read her post as If she means "good" in the sense that you haven't just thrown away your virginity, we live in a society where it is rare for a 20+ year old to be a virgin. I agree with her it certainly isn't a bad thing to be a virgin.

This is what I mean

That's the point, though, people have to stop making generalisations like "women prefer this" or "men prefer that". Just because you can't imagine something doesn't mean it doesn't hold true.

It is impossible to do a census or get any kind of reliable information on this sort of thing, especially considering people often lie on surveys about sex anyway. If you want to be more experienced go right ahead. If you don't don't.

But there's nothing inherently wrong with having sex. It's not bad to have a lot of sex, and it's not bad to have no sex. Trying to claim that you have some moral higher ground because you have chosen not to have sex while others your age have - it makes no sense.

You're in denial if you think that most girls in their 20s would prefer a virgin unless they were one themselves or very religious. "Prefer" doesnt mean it will be a complete deal breaker if they liked the guy, just that they would rather he wasn't. It also becomes a bigger issue the older they and the guy get.

But there's nothing inherently wrong with having sex. It's not bad to have a lot of sex, and it's not bad to have no sex. Trying to claim that you have some moral higher ground because you have chosen not to have sex while others your age have - it makes no sense.

Not this again.

Plenty of girls don't like guys who've slept around. You've seen why lots of guys today have said they don't like girls who sleep around - it implies (even if none of these are true) commitment issues, STDs, etc etc etc. Now flip the genders. The concept of the "dashing alpha male player who's amazing in bed and can get any girl he wants" is something that turns most girls in my social circle off. In my experience, not as many girls want to be the next notch on someone's bedpost. But everyone has a different opinion on this and people have different friends, so we cannot draw such sweeping conclusions.

Cut out the generalisations. Like I said, anecdotal evidence doesn't count for much here because everyone has a different social circle, and it is practically impossible to do a meaningful study on this sort of thing. Seriously, just cut them out already.

Because not being a virgin means sleeping around. They might not like guys who have slept with a lot of girls, but to say girls prefer guys who are complete virgins instead of guys with some experience is laughable.

Even if "experienced guys" had just been in multiple relationships I know girls who'd be turned off by that - again see why guys today have given reasons as to why they don't like girls who've even just had multiple boyfriends and are not virgins, and flip the genders. Girls can be attracted to "purity" and "being their first" as well, you know.

Also, you've failed to address my main point, which is that generalisations as to what "society expects" or "girls like" or "boys like" regarding this are damn near useless, there's a good chance they're not true, and actually incredibly harmful given that people's private sex lives are meant to be just that. Private. Which they can't be if others keep going on about "what the opposite sex find attractive." Insisting what a particular gender MUST prefer is ridiculous.

People's sex lives should be private but let's face it, sex talk tends to come out amongst friendship groups, even yours. How else would you know what they prefer?

So if someone said that most girls prefer a guy who is taller than them or guys prefer girls who aren't fat, you also find that ridiculous?

People's sex lives should be private but let's face it, sex talk tends to come out amongst friendship groups, even yours. How else would you know what they prefer?

So if someone said that most girls prefer a guy who is taller than them, you also find that ridiculous?