Sometimes I wish I could just give up on careers and just become a housewife...

I'm not really sure which section this thread belongs, so I apologise in advance if I've got it wrong and if mods want to move it

Basically I'm a 21 year old female and for the past few years I've been having constant bad luck with education and careers. I didn't do as well as I'd hoped in my GCSEs, then I failed my A Levels so couldn't go to uni. I tried Open Uni but gave up, and I applied to apprenticeships and access courses but got rejected from them all. I have done volunteering in lots of different things, and I have worked a few paying jobs, but they've mainly been just temporary ones. Right now I work a lowly admin job that my dad helped me get as he knows the boss, but my boss won't pay me until I've been working there for at least two months (it's his policy that I'm struggling to argue with him about), which I haven't yet so I'm still living off parents' money. I don't like the job very much anyway, sometimes I loathe it, but I don't really have anything better to be doing with my time and the job market is terrible right now so I feel I have to stick at it for a while at least for the work experience.

It's annoying because I've had all these different career ideas, but haven't been able to follow through with any because I'm just constantly getting rejections and doors slammed in my face all the time, and always discovering that I'm not as suited for something as I thought. All this work and careers nonsense really gets on top of me and stresses me out. It's even gotten me so depressed to the point where sometimes I just dream about jumping on the train tracks instead of getting on the train on the way to work. I'm starting to loathe this society that puts so much emphasis on needing to be successful and finding the job you love, yet it won't even give me the chance to in the first place!

I know feminists and whatnot will probably get angry at me for this, but sometimes I wish I lived in an era where I didn't have to worry about all that stuff, but could simply just marry a man, look after him and our kids and be set for life. But I know that unless I'm lucky enough to marry a rich man, that's not a realistic goal to have these days. I do have a boyfriend who I love, he's a few years older than me and has always had much steadier work than I have, but his job isn't the best paying so I probably couldn't rely on him.

Well, I guess my main issue here is struggling to ever become completely financially independent in this terrible economy that we live in, as well as just wondering what my purpose in life should be. Apart from my boyfriend and a few other things, most things in my life are just crap and I hate it

Does anyone relate to how I feel or have any advice?

I'm not really sure which section this thread belongs, so I apologise in advance if I've got it wrong and if mods want to move it

Basically I'm a 21 year old female and for the past few years I've been having constant bad luck with education and careers. I didn't do as well as I'd hoped in my GCSEs, then I failed my A Levels so couldn't go to uni. I tried Open Uni but gave up, and I applied to apprenticeships and access courses but got rejected from them all. I have done volunteering in lots of different things, and I have worked a few paying jobs, but they've mainly been just temporary ones. Right now I work a lowly admin job that my dad helped me get as he knows the boss, but my boss won't pay me until I've been working there for at least two months (it's his policy that I'm struggling to argue with him about), which I haven't yet so I'm still living off parents' money. I don't like the job very much anyway, sometimes I loathe it, but I don't really have anything better to be doing with my time and the job market is terrible right now so I feel I have to stick at it for a while at least for the work experience.

It's annoying because I've had all these different career ideas, but haven't been able to follow through with any because I'm just constantly getting rejections and doors slammed in my face all the time, and always discovering that I'm not as suited for something as I thought. All this work and careers nonsense really gets on top of me and stresses me out. It's even gotten me so depressed to the point where sometimes I just dream about jumping on the train tracks instead of getting on the train on the way to work. I'm starting to loathe this society that puts so much emphasis on needing to be successful and finding the job you love, yet it won't even give me the chance to in the first place!

I know feminists and whatnot will probably get angry at me for this, but sometimes I wish I lived in an era where I didn't have to worry about all that stuff, but could simply just marry a man, look after him and our kids and be set for life. But I know that unless I'm lucky enough to marry a rich man, that's not a realistic goal to have these days. I do have a boyfriend who I love, he's a few years older than me and has always had much steadier work than I have, but his job isn't the best paying so I probably couldn't rely on him.

Well, I guess my main issue here is struggling to ever become completely financially independent in this terrible economy that we live in, as well as just wondering what my purpose in life should be. Apart from my boyfriend and a few other things, most things in my life are just crap and I hate it

Does anyone relate to how I feel or have any advice?

I'm not really sure which section this thread belongs, so I apologise in advance if I've got it wrong and if mods want to move it

Basically I'm a 21 year old female and for the past few years I've been having constant bad luck with education and careers. I didn't do as well as I'd hoped in my GCSEs, then I failed my A Levels so couldn't go to uni. I tried Open Uni but gave up, and I applied to apprenticeships and access courses but got rejected from them all. I have done volunteering in lots of different things, and I have worked a few paying jobs, but they've mainly been just temporary ones. Right now I work a lowly admin job that my dad helped me get as he knows the boss, but my boss won't pay me until I've been working there for at least two months (it's his policy that I'm struggling to argue with him about), which I haven't yet so I'm still living off parents' money. I don't like the job very much anyway, sometimes I loathe it, but I don't really have anything better to be doing with my time and the job market is terrible right now so I feel I have to stick at it for a while at least for the work experience.

It's annoying because I've had all these different career ideas, but haven't been able to follow through with any because I'm just constantly getting rejections and doors slammed in my face all the time, and always discovering that I'm not as suited for something as I thought. All this work and careers nonsense really gets on top of me and stresses me out. It's even gotten me so depressed to the point where sometimes I just dream about jumping on the train tracks instead of getting on the train on the way to work. I'm starting to loathe this society that puts so much emphasis on needing to be successful and finding the job you love, yet it won't even give me the chance to in the first place!

I know feminists and whatnot will probably get angry at me for this, but sometimes I wish I lived in an era where I didn't have to worry about all that stuff, but could simply just marry a man, look after him and our kids and be set for life. But I know that unless I'm lucky enough to marry a rich man, that's not a realistic goal to have these days. I do have a boyfriend who I love, he's a few years older than me and has always had much steadier work than I have, but his job isn't the best paying so I probably couldn't rely on him.

Well, I guess my main issue here is struggling to ever become completely financially independent in this terrible economy that we live in, as well as just wondering what my purpose in life should be. Apart from my boyfriend and a few other things, most things in my life are just crap and I hate it

Does anyone relate to how I feel or have any advice?

I feel exactly the same, kids need their mum to be at home to make sure they grow up properly! I don't understand why women would choose work over their kids, I know it's probably hard money wise, but still I would choose my family over money any day! I also enjoy cleaning and cooking so that's a bonus haha!

Okay so you've mentioned that academically you're not really getting anywhere, which is fair enough. I understand that an easy life can seem appealing, but surely there is something you are passionate about which has potential to turn into a career?

And if not, you as a 'housewife' or whatever, you still need to have hobbies to keep you going, ways of making new friends. My mum was very fortunate to marry my dad who earns quite a lot meaning that she can kind of just do what she wants! So she does a lot of gardening, works part time in a school helping with special needs, and also does reflexology and similar types of therapy

First of all21 is very young. One of my friends started her undergraduate degree at 24 and another at29. If you want to do better and get out of a cycle of low paid jobs I'd suggest knuckling down and taking GCSEs then A-levels at a night school so you can progress on to uni afterwards. Or if you're dead set against going the academic route look into an apprenticeship you could do. It would be tough but it sounds like you're unhappy in your life and might as well try and create more opportunities for yourself.

Won't you just get bored? I have a friend who when she was married, stayed at home to bring up their children. She said that she's bored mentally and wants a meaningful conversation with an adult.

im basically a housewife on summer holidays from uni and trust me it's not as easy as it sounds

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I feel exactly the same, kids need their mum to be at home to make sure they grow up properly! I don't understand why women would choose work over their kids, I know it's probably hard money wise, but still I would choose my family over money any day! I also enjoy cleaning and cooking so that's a bonus haha!

I'm not really sure which section this thread belongs, so I apologise in advance if I've got it wrong and if mods want to move it

Basically I'm a 21 year old female and for the past few years I've been having constant bad luck with education and careers. I didn't do as well as I'd hoped in my GCSEs, then I failed my A Levels so couldn't go to uni. I tried Open Uni but gave up, and I applied to apprenticeships and access courses but got rejected from them all. I have done volunteering in lots of different things, and I have worked a few paying jobs, but they've mainly been just temporary ones. Right now I work a lowly admin job that my dad helped me get as he knows the boss, but my boss won't pay me until I've been working there for at least two months (it's his policy that I'm struggling to argue with him about), which I haven't yet so I'm still living off parents' money. I don't like the job very much anyway, sometimes I loathe it, but I don't really have anything better to be doing with my time and the job market is terrible right now so I feel I have to stick at it for a while at least for the work experience.

It's annoying because I've had all these different career ideas, but haven't been able to follow through with any because I'm just constantly getting rejections and doors slammed in my face all the time, and always discovering that I'm not as suited for something as I thought. All this work and careers nonsense really gets on top of me and stresses me out. It's even gotten me so depressed to the point where sometimes I just dream about jumping on the train tracks instead of getting on the train on the way to work. I'm starting to loathe this society that puts so much emphasis on needing to be successful and finding the job you love, yet it won't even give me the chance to in the first place!

I know feminists and whatnot will probably get angry at me for this, but sometimes I wish I lived in an era where I didn't have to worry about all that stuff, but could simply just marry a man, look after him and our kids and be set for life. But I know that unless I'm lucky enough to marry a rich man, that's not a realistic goal to have these days. I do have a boyfriend who I love, he's a few years older than me and has always had much steadier work than I have, but his job isn't the best paying so I probably couldn't rely on him.

Well, I guess my main issue here is struggling to ever become completely financially independent in this terrible economy that we live in, as well as just wondering what my purpose in life should be. Apart from my boyfriend and a few other things, most things in my life are just crap and I hate it

Does anyone relate to how I feel or have any advice?

what's hard about it

what's hard about it

Personally I think that if you become a housewife especially without any education to fall back on, then your setting yourself up for trouble. What will happen if your husband decides to leave or maybe you want to leave? What if you already have children? You need to have an education because:
1. It sets a good example for your children
2. You need to be able to support yourself in case anything happens (without good qualifications, this will be tough)

Of course life would be easier if we could all just marry someone rich and be a housewife but in modern times people divorce a lot and that would devastate anyone without a descent degree or work experience.

I feel exactly the same, kids need their mum to be at home to make sure they grow up properly! I don't understand why women would choose work over their kids, I know it's probably hard money wise, but still I would choose my family over money any day! I also enjoy cleaning and cooking so that's a bonus haha!