First time sex advice?

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Ok firstly no advice works for everyone, everyone is different.

Also note this is just an idea, a somewhat controversial one and potentially risky one. For me myself it worked but it can sometimes backfire so its up to you.

Try having an orgasm roughly 6 hours before - this gives enough "recovery time" but also will allow you to last longer. Do it too close to the night (or whenever you plan to have sex) and your body might struggle to get aroused but this varies from guy to guy in terms of their "recovery time" and do it too far in advance and its purpose will be wasted. At the very least though you want to have an orgasm the day before.

Reply 21

danielleb22

As your both inexperienced the chances are your girlfriend is also very worried about how 'it' will go however you must remember no matter how many times you plan what's going to happen it never goes to plan for anyone... well that's unless your a professional in that sector. To be fair you've been together long enough to realise your relationship doesn't revolve around sex so its not the end of the world If things do go as you expect.. there's always next time. Take things slow and remember your doing this together for the first time (she's as nervous as you).

Reply 22

jarasta

Nervous is good, it makes you last much much longer (with me it did anyway). Protection obviously, that will help you last longer.
When you do get to the penetration. Do your thing for a while, if you feel you are getting close, stop. Do oral things or whatever on her etc. Then start again when you are all good. Foreplay as well. It will probably last long that way.

Anyway, congrats for waiting for 3years, it shows a lot of patience, understanding and love in your relationship.

(edited 10 years ago)

Reply 23

BritBoyWonder

Just relax man i think its best you let her ride you until you climax best option..

Reply 24

It's****ingWOODY

Maybe talk to her about it beforehand, I'm sure she'll understand and know what to expect.

Could also go for a solo 15 minutes before. I'd strongly advise testing this out first though, i.e. knock one out, wait 15 minutes then try and rub another one out and see how it goes. If you can get it up and keep it up during the 2nd one but it takes ages to finish, you're on.

(edited 10 years ago)

Reply 25

kkovots

Original post by Anonymous

Hey

I have been with my girlfriend for around 3 years now, and now we're both very comfortable with our education and personal life situation, we both discussed that we feel its the right time to lose our virginity together. We're both 20 years old.

However although i experimented with pornography (As us males do at some point in our lives :colondollar:

), i could never last that long.

From media shows, its always shown that girls are a bit put off from males who orgasm too quickly. I'm extremely nervous and almost scared, for when we decide to have sex. I feel like as soon as i see her nude, i may even go as i still find her just as extremely attractive as when we first met.

So basically, im scared when we first get together for sex, i'm just gonna 'blow the gun' before anything 'romantic' happens and it won't be as 'romantic' as we both wanted it.

So could anybody give some advice on my situation?
Thank you very much :smile:

Just forget man what you see on porn films!It is fake and a very dirty aspect of sex.

Sex between 2 people who love each other is an action of love.Juts be natural.There is not good lover and bad lover.Be natural and let yourself be real.Only then you will be successful and you will both enjoy it.

And don't be afraid of the lack of experience.Experience is not crucial about sex.And don't listen to friends who advise you to do this and that.Every person when he does sex is doing things different.

Reply 26

JOftw

Don't force it,bro. You've got to ease into it. Don't follow these pornstars and start drilling as fast as you can. Start off with those smooth slow stroke and eventually speed things up. If at point you feel like busting you nut slow down
And change positions.

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Reply 27

Anonymous #4

Original post by Anonymous

Congratulations on finding the right girl and waiting for the right movement.

Ok now about the time seen in porn, forget it, its not real most of the time it will be induced by pills of oter treatments so dont expect you to go for hours...

About making it romantic, having sex itself is not romance is all about, its about being together and enjoying each others company so dont jump to bed and try to hump like a sea money, besides be gentle, cuddle, kiss, hug her, tease her and keep it smooth. Dont make plans that you should go step by step, just go by instinct and pay attention to your partners response, listen to how she responds if she moans when you kiss her somewere then it shows that she liked that so spend some time there and make it pleasurable.

Finally when you both are hot enough and have a good intimate contact you can go and have sex with her. So with all this even if you finish soon you will have played long enough to make her remember the moment.

Oh and if you finish soon and she has not climaxed, dont forget to give her a oral or even play with her till she climaxes.

Reply 28

Juichiro

Original post by Amtrac

Dude first times are never great sexually (although yours will be special emotionally). I lasted about 30 seconds in mine (loads of foreplay though), I also had a little struggle getting a boner (partly nerves because I was 18 and she was quite a hot 22 year old who I didn't tell I was a virgin!). It will be way easier with a gf of 3 years and you are both virgins. That's actually really cool and is the ideal way to lose it.

Honestly, just have fun. It's a very natural thing to do and you'll pick it up quickly, even if you are fast then it doesn't matter - do it again that day or the day after etc.

Don't think about porn when it comes to actual sex! Most girls don't want you to tear their anus up or jizz all over their face (well some do..but whatever). Kudos for waiting 3 years, there is no way in hell that I could have that level of self-restraint.

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Reply 29

Sole7

She will be just as nervous as you are, and in reality you will either last a few seconds or not be able to ejaculate at all due to nerves. Getting good at sex comes later, don't worry about it for now.
Perhaps have a few drinks beforehand if you feel nervous

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Reply 30

urmalison

Original post by Anonymous

don't worry about lasting... before and after sex are equally as important to make the whole thing romantic :P

(edited 10 years ago)

Reply 31

Wilsoncw1997

One advice, DON'T read cosmo tips!!!

Reply 32

urmalison

Original post by SimpleBo

If you are married do not have sex

If you are married make sure you do not abort the baby or let her abort it

No they should discuss on what to call the baby