Is self-deprecating humour attractive or pitiful?

You think it's humour but it's actually a low key cry for help.

tbh i find it funny but it will end up with me considering a guy just as a friend rather than a love-interest. it's supposed to show modesty and "i'm so confident i can take the piss out of myself" traits... but in fact it is just deep rooted in insecurity... which i do not find attractive

I think it's normally funny, I like people who don't take themselves too seriously and can take the mick out of themselves.

It seems like a contradiction in itself, anyway. If self-deprecating humour comes across as pitiful then is it really still humour, or just someone seriously putting themselves down in a casual way? I suppose it's all down to the degree in which you deprecate yourself and how jokey you come across.

I do it quite often but only lightly. It just makes me feel better about myself when I make little mistakes. It's almost as if, if I'm the first person to call myself out on doing something silly then I'm not worried what other people may say about me.

It's inherent to the nature of self-deprecating humour that someone puts themselves down. The key is detecting, as much in tone as content, whether it is founded on a genuine or pretend opinion of oneself.

It makes people laugh a lot when I joke about myself. When I got drunk once I described my wodger as "suprisingly satisfactory" (when someone asked me if I had a chode) and the timing of it just brought the house down. Can't imagine it would help me get a girlfriend though!

Where do you draw the line then? Is it funny if it's something everyone would be a bit self-deprecating with, a universal situation?

It';s OK to poke fun at your insecurities sometimes isn't it? Better that than to wallow in them

I didn't say it was self-humiliating, but it is self-deprecating, obviously. Though if you consider a passing and clearly humourous negative comment about yourself to be 'humiliating' you may be suffering have an oversized ego.

Do the exact opposite of whatever the malcreants on those body building forums advise and you won't go far wrong in life.

Could you link me to one of this mysterious group's posts? I haven't seen them. Besides, I didn't say that there were no educated people on there, I said that doing the opposite of what they suggest is probably a good idea. It's also pretty rank in its discussion of sex and women.

Self-deprecating humor is a great way to get yourself friend-zoned - I should know, i'm the king of it.

You are drastically confusing intention and result. Wanting to co-operate in a mutual effort of self-improvement doesn't preclude them from being misguided, or complete morons, for that matter, which they are. I didn't say they weren't good people, I said that doing the opposite of what they suggested, because I think most of what is posted on that website is a load of crap, will yield better results than doing it.

Just to be clear, then - when you said there are educated people on that forum, you were bull****ting?

You don't think he was failing to distinguish between the intention of people there and the result? His defence of them was based on the fact that they intend to help people, which I didn't deny. What I said was that the stuff they say and the results they're likely to produce is not the same as any noble intentions they might have.

I've yet to see any evidence of phds on BB, but I was only speaking from my experience of that forum, where everything I've ever read has either been mind-numbingly stupid or just revolting.



You're the one assuming that my opinion of that particular body building forum was based on the fact that most of its membership lifts. It wasn't, it was based on the sorts of stuff that is said there.