Relationship Post Thingy HELP ME!
So I'm 19 and never had a girlfriend, and I'm a virgin (male) My problem (s) are this;
I'm effeminate - like I just am, I'm not a macho guy, and I think that could be because I was raised mainly by my mum, my dad doesn't like me because I chose university, and not a ''proper job'' like a plumber :L
But then I'm questioning whether I'm gay or not too. I get sexually excited by guys in the sense that when I watch porn, I find males/gay porn more fun. But then, if I watch straight porn, I also enjoy that (though not as much) - so sometimes I wonder whether I am interested in sex/nudity not gender. (is this making sense)
Although I like looking at naked males and get a sexual thrill, I would never want to have sex with a man, have a relationship with one etc...
I can pull girls in nightclubs, in the sense I can kiss them but I never want to go further - I've been single all my life and a) don't know to do the whole sex thing b) I like being single and c) I don't know my sexual orientation - when I kiss girls I don't know how I feel - I like it, and it feels good, but don't know if I am sexually attracted by it.
But because I'm effeminate, everyone thinks I'm gay, which hurts my feelings (not criticising gays, it's just demoralizing when someone questions your sexuality)
ANY ADVICE/OPINIONS!
I'm effeminate - like I just am, I'm not a macho guy, and I think that could be because I was raised mainly by my mum, my dad doesn't like me because I chose university, and not a ''proper job'' like a plumber :L
But then I'm questioning whether I'm gay or not too. I get sexually excited by guys in the sense that when I watch porn, I find males/gay porn more fun. But then, if I watch straight porn, I also enjoy that (though not as much) - so sometimes I wonder whether I am interested in sex/nudity not gender. (is this making sense)
Although I like looking at naked males and get a sexual thrill, I would never want to have sex with a man, have a relationship with one etc...
I can pull girls in nightclubs, in the sense I can kiss them but I never want to go further - I've been single all my life and a) don't know to do the whole sex thing b) I like being single and c) I don't know my sexual orientation - when I kiss girls I don't know how I feel - I like it, and it feels good, but don't know if I am sexually attracted by it.
But because I'm effeminate, everyone thinks I'm gay, which hurts my feelings (not criticising gays, it's just demoralizing when someone questions your sexuality)
ANY ADVICE/OPINIONS!
Sounds like you are a closet gay/bisexual. By definition, you are at least bi, because you can be turned on by males. Enjoying straight porn means very little, because males are involved 
I can enjoy straight porn as well but I'm definitely gay - though if the guy isn't good looking or isn't great, I won't like it. Lesbian porn would probably be a better test
As for not wanting to have sex or a relationship with a man - this could just be because you don't like the idea of being gay, rather than actually not wanting it. And the kissing - kissing alone feels good regardless of their gender, because it's the same act, so that's not a great judge of what you feel.
I have to say, you sound gay to me. At the very least, you are definitely bi.
I can enjoy straight porn as well but I'm definitely gay - though if the guy isn't good looking or isn't great, I won't like it. Lesbian porn would probably be a better test As for not wanting to have sex or a relationship with a man - this could just be because you don't like the idea of being gay, rather than actually not wanting it. And the kissing - kissing alone feels good regardless of their gender, because it's the same act, so that's not a great judge of what you feel.
I have to say, you sound gay to me. At the very least, you are definitely bi.
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