1) there has to be dative covalent bond, because, if you look at the molecule , each atom has to gain a full outer shell of electrons e.g 8 electrons, carbon has 4 outer shell electrons and oxygen 6, therefore, if carbon shares 2 of its electrons and oxygen also share 2 of its electrons, then this leaves the oxygen with 8 outer shell electrons (see picture above, red dots are oxygen electrons and green are carbon electrons), but unfortunately carbon with have only 6, so therefore to get that to 8, oxygen, has to share 2 of it own electrons with carbon, hence giving the 8-8 outer shell for both carbon and oxygen, however the 2 oxygen electrons haven't bonded with carbon electrons, because there is no carbon electrons left to share as they have already covalently bonded with some of the oxygen electrons , therefore both electrons have to come from the oxygen, hence a dative covalent, bond which the definition, is shared pair of electrons that both come from the same atom. Some molecules such as NH4 you should learn that they are dative covalent bonded, however no to test if they are you will have to draw out the dot and cross diagram.
2) Removing of the hydrogen is oxidation, because it is removal of electrons, oil rig, oxidation is lost, and reduction is gain, and in this the atom is losing an electron from the hydrogen, to leave you with ethanal. If you need further explaination just ask.