Why are doctors so awkward and smug?

OP, though my TSR days are early, I have noticed that most posters here seem to worship medics, especially GPs. Now, I understand and respect the health profession, but these TSR people, they don't like nothing bad said about them - they are like the pinnacles of academic conformity...

Your doctor seem a little bit awkward - it was OK of him to ask where your parents are from but maybe he should have clarified that he needs to know for medical reasons rather than just coming out with it.

I hope your knees OK (and I don't need to clarify that I mean that sincerely unlike other TSR-ites...)

But yes, beware the TSR bias in some cases.

I think you've made a whole heap of assumptions here and made an array of excuses for the guy because he's a doctor. I'd rather he kept things professional even if that meant sitting in silence while he gathered his thoughts, I genuinely felt offended by the end which affected my answers for the questions that DID relate to my knee. I even forgot to ask him a couple of questions that I really wanted answered because he left me flustered constantly second-guessing what I was going to say next.


I'm not asking for him to be BFFs with me but come on have some common sense. You might be comfortable with someone asking you about your country of origin but I'm not and I think it's a personal question to ask a stranger outright. He has all my info on file which he had in his hand so that wasn't a question relating to my knee just him being nosey.

You think that's weird. I went to my doctors to see the skin specialist to check a mole. He looked and then I sat opposite him, his chair was pretty close and he smirked at me as he told me to rub 'lady moisturiser' all over my body. He also held my hand for a rather long time when he shook it.

Also, I went as I had pain in my eye and said I'd read up about something on online that describes my symptoms. She lectured me on self-diagnosis, then proceeded to trawl through eye conditions on Wikipedia and diagnosed me with the one I mentioned.

You find it weird that a person whose whole entire career revolves around skin takes an interest in the stuff? Imagine meeting a gastroenterologist asking you what your poo looks like to the nth degree - evidently awkward but pretty necessary!

No but seriously, dermatologists need to be a bit on the sensitive and caring side like that, even if that seems weird to you. Unlike most illnesses, skin problems are very visible, affect all age groups, including young people who naturally get a lot of related problems as a result of their skin conditions - anxiety, depression, etc.

I think half the problem is that you come across as a bit of a socially awkward teenager yourself. It's none of your business? Who even says that in real life, even if it is factually correct?

My dad's a doctor and I've noticed this about him too.

I'm anything but awkward I'm a social butterfly and I often find it easy to interact and approach people and in the same sense people find me approachable. I smile at strangers who stare at me on the bus/train and I'm very upbeat and always down for a laugh.

However this man has crossed a line and I felt disrespected in every sense of the word. He was gauche and totally unprofessional and it was visible that he was enjoying giving me the third degree. As for saying it's none of your business well it's true isn't it? He needs to realise that he cannot say something offensive and then proceed to ask personal questions without clarifying the purpose of his question. Truth is that half the stuff he asked me had nothing to do with my knee and the rest were of a dubious quality.

I realise my title is a generalisation but hear me out. Almost every doctor I've had the unfortunate experience of interacting with has been either socially inept or generally just awkward. Often they fail to detect and respond appropriately to virtually all cues.


Well why did I create this thread now? Because I just came out of my 4 months post OP appoinment for my knee surgery with the head of the fracture/trauma clinic and I feel like I've gone through a car autowash only having come out worse off at the end of the conveyor.


I attended the appoinment with my brother he's been there with me the last time I went too. And right off the bat the doctor recognised my brother and asked if he was my best friend or something of that effect (can't actually recall word for word) implying that we were dating. My brother told him that we were siblings and the guy blushed and followed it up with a "I'm sorry". Not the best start so you might think the doctor will keep his line of questioning fixed on my surgery rather than my personal life.

He then asked me to roll my jeans and he started passing his hand up and down my knee while he was asking me quite generic questions. His hand was slipping on my legs because I used some E45 to moisturise around the scars b4 I left the house. He asked me out of the blue "have you moisturised" as he smirked with a smug look on his face. I didn't know how to respond so I stayed quiet and briefly glanced over at my brother.

The weird questions didn't end there, he proceeded to ask me for my country of origin or rather "where are your parent's from?" as he so rudely put it. Now I don't know what brought that question on because I was born in the UK and I don't have an accent in fact I can count on a single hand how many times someone has asked me that question. So I was taken aback by it and I responded with a "it's none of your business". He visibly became disgruntled at my response and after 10minutes of generic stuff he told me that I should continue with the physio and take it easy on the knee because I have a long way to go. I thanked him and proceeded to roll my jeans down and put my shoes on and headed for the exit as fast as I could. What a creep right... I forgot to mention the weird looks and the long pauses he took for whatever reason...


Thoughts?

I realise my title is a generalisation but hear me out. Almost every doctor I've had the unfortunate experience of interacting with has been either socially inept or generally just awkward. Often they fail to detect and respond appropriately to virtually all cues.


Well why did I create this thread now? Because I just came out of my 4 months post OP appoinment for my knee surgery with the head of the fracture/trauma clinic and I feel like I've gone through a car autowash only having come out worse off at the end of the conveyor.


I attended the appoinment with my brother he's been there with me the last time I went too. And right off the bat the doctor recognised my brother and asked if he was my best friend or something of that effect (can't actually recall word for word) implying that we were dating. My brother told him that we were siblings and the guy blushed and followed it up with a "I'm sorry". Not the best start so you might think the doctor will keep his line of questioning fixed on my surgery rather than my personal life.

He then asked me to roll my jeans and he started passing his hand up and down my knee while he was asking me quite generic questions. His hand was slipping on my legs because I used some E45 to moisturise around the scars b4 I left the house. He asked me out of the blue "have you moisturised" as he smirked with a smug look on his face. I didn't know how to respond so I stayed quiet and briefly glanced over at my brother.

The weird questions didn't end there, he proceeded to ask me for my country of origin or rather "where are your parent's from?" as he so rudely put it. Now I don't know what brought that question on because I was born in the UK and I don't have an accent in fact I can count on a single hand how many times someone has asked me that question. So I was taken aback by it and I responded with a "it's none of your business". He visibly became disgruntled at my response and after 10minutes of generic stuff he told me that I should continue with the physio and take it easy on the knee because I have a long way to go. I thanked him and proceeded to roll my jeans down and put my shoes on and headed for the exit as fast as I could. What a creep right... I forgot to mention the weird looks and the long pauses he took for whatever reason...


Thoughts?