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Reply 60

queen-bee

It's unacceptable in my book and wouldn't want my boyfriend to do such a thing.

Reply 61

icdjabtjk

Original post by Anonymous

Would you consider grinding on a guy, cheating if the girl has a boyfriend?

yes if I ever saw my partner grinding on someone I'd chuck them on the spot

Reply 62

onry

its not cheating but its pretty close to the line though

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 63

hellodave5

Its a very arbitrary line. Depends on what line you set down in your own relationship... as with everything else that could be deemed cheating

Reply 64

channies

I don't know if it's defined as cheating or not but I'd be really upset nonetheless

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Reply 65

awkwardshortguy

I'd call that cheating. It's physical contact with intent to provide another man with sexual gratification.

Reply 66

bittr n swt

i wouldn't want my girl grinding on other guys dicks but sadly many girls seem to think its ok

Reply 67

danadd9

As a response I would tell her not to do it again, and if she does I'll leave her.
Clearly sets a limit and shows her how I feel about the behaviour.

Yes.

If you wouldn't do it in front of your partner then it's cheating imo.

Reply 70

Modelwork

Of course it's cheating on some level.. Anything that is deemed to be sexual would be cheating and I would think grinding on a guy is deemed to be sexual atleast by him if not by you !!

Close enough imo.

The answer depends on your partner's boundaries, naturally.

If they are cool with it, no problem.

If you know they are not, and you sneak around behind your partner's back... what kind of basis for trust in a relationship is that?

If you do that, despite knowing it would hurt them having discussed this issue beforehand, and you get caught, and get very angry they don't trust you after, since you feel entitled to their trust no matter what you do which violates their boundaries... and you think their expectations are bullsh*t anyway and they are just overreacting and soooo sensitive... please, don't get into another relationship. Save any decent person the pain. Seek a good therapist instead.

Trust is earned by being trustworthy, and not just "in one's own special way", but in a way which measures up to one's partner's standards too.

There are indeed common standards of trustworthiness which any reasonable person would accept before giving trust, and there are consequences for living up to them or failing to. One example of such a reasonable standard of trustworthiness is not behaving like the example above.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 73

Rum Ham

Yes I would consider it cheating

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Reply 74

hallg94

Yes. As far as I'm concerned, cheating isn't about the physical action, it's about the betrayal.

And when I walked out of the nightclub bathrooms to find my (now ex) boyfriend grinding up on another girl, I felt pretty betrayed! :no: