I'm a black girl jealous of my white boyfriend

You sound foolish

All that you can do is continue to work hard and watch your life start to sort itself out!

That being said, use your boyfriend for what he's there for: a source of love and support. Get your worries and problems off of your shoulders if need be (in a non-confrontational way, obviously), and hopefully, working together, you can reach your targets even sooner.

Best of luck!

If he's so great, shouldn't you just be happy to have him?

When things are going tits up, why do people always look for someone else to blame?

Can't get a job, must be because I don't have white, male, straight, cisgender, able-bodied privilege.

I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months and we're both very much in love. Things are going fairly well in our relationship and he's always treated me like a princess. However, since I've been having trouble with other parts of my life, I have started constantly comparing myself to my boyfriend and getting depressed and jealous about how much easier he has it in life, because he basically has that "white, male, straight, cisgender, able-bodied privilege".

He's always found it much easier to get jobs than I have, and I can't help thinking that it's because of the race thing, especially as I've been told a few times by some people that I probably get rejected from some jobs for being black, and it feels very annoying to have that barrier.

He's always found it easier to pull girls compared to my terrible track record with guys, cos we all know how much higher white males tend to rank in society's attractiveness scale than black women. Although, maybe this one shouldn't matter that much as we now have each other, but I can't help sometimes cringing at the thought of him with loads of other girls in the past.

I suffer from depression (mostly cos of this and other crap I've gone through) and he doesn't. And then there's all this other stuff about us girls having to put up with sexism, whereas for guys not so much.

I know I can't get mad at my boyfriend over this, since he can't help the way he is any more than I can help the way I am. And always I knew that getting into an interracial relationship would never be the easiest, but this comparison stuff is definitely something I never expected to encounter, and it's a bit bothersome. I'm just trying to concentrate on working on myself and my life the best I can despite the constant barriers I face everyday, but it's so hard.

Just wondering if anyone out there reading this could relate at all to do, and what did you do to make yourself feel better?

Perhaps I do, perhaps it's partly just the depression talking, but it's a fact that society treats certain people better than others. I just need to find a way to feel less bothered about it.

Ermm you do know it's very rare for you to be discraminated against because of your race/sex? You're not getting the jobs because of you as a person not because of every other thing blameable.

How do you know? Can you read these recruiters' minds? A recession means they can afford to be extra picky, and many perfectly capable people aren't getting jobs as a result.

Anyway, I know it could be just bad luck, and not all too do with my race. After all, some white people in life struggle too.