Ladies- Worst chat up lines and persistent/sleazy guy stories?

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UNILAD types who hang round in groups and act in a sleazy way to show off and have a laugh to their mates, make suggestive comments or sniff hair/grind against a girl until she gets angry and reacts and then they will go to their mates "oooh look we've got a fiesty one here, I like this one" etc

What my housemate calls a "loner with a boner" ie a socially awkward guy operating on his own, invariably acting in a creepy way. Sometimes they are just shy and intense guys who are obviously losers who hang around, make stuttering conversation, don't disappear and make it really awkward. The more sinister version is guys in their 30s that come to student night clubs on their own and float round the dance floor trying it on with one girl after another.

But also one thing I've picked up from girls I know that have graduated and are in the world of work, is there are always cases where there's a single/divorced older man who forms a clingy attachment to a younger woman and tries to paint himself as her older and wiser guide in life....

I found out and have deduced that even with all my life experiences that there is always someone dumber than you can possibly believe

I hope that's not me aha

As someone who is probably a lot older than you all (applying for grad medicine) that last paragraph really made me laugh - so true & so tragic.

i guess he was trying to startsomething GET IT

no

okay I'm sorry

I've asked this before - at what age do you become a dirty old man? On a student forum, all other kind of equality-type relationships get a lot of support (same sex/mixed race/disability etc) but it seems ok to call any guy over the age of 25 trying to get laid; a pervert.

My remark was meant to be lighthearted rather than a vicious attack on (older) men so apologies if I've offended you.

To answer your question though, I would argue that a guy who REPEATEDLY goes out with/attempts to go out with women who are much younger, to the exclusion of women nearer his own age, might arguably fall into that category. Anyone can fall in love with someone of a different age once or twice but to repeatedly focus on people much younger is a bit weird. In men or women.

Oh no, it's almost impossible to offend me. I was asking in the same spirit.

Good :-)




Interesting. Why, though? Let's say I only wanted to go out with other men, to the exclusion of women - that wouldn't really be considered weird.

In my book it would if the guys you wanted to date were miles younger than you :-)

Define "miles". Given that an undergraduate would commonly be about 20-21.

What's your opinion/experience?

My opinion is that I understand entirely where the sentiment comes from. There is something amiss with 40 year olds hunting 20 years olds. On the other hand, I know people happily married with those kind of age differences. There is also the elephant in the room that is equality - which seemingly is demanded for everything except these kind of situations. It would seem wrong to deny a 40 year old a job normally done by 20 year olds if he/she were fully capable of it.

My experience is that this kind of thing is often completely driven and judged by physical appearances. If you have a 40 year old male mature student who looks like a teacher or someone's dad - there will be negative fallout. No matter what he does, even if he is successful in the short term, he will get a lot of stick.

On the other hand, if he looks young (and looking young and good-looking is even better) he will probably be able to get away with almost anything. Other male students will be comfortable in his company as he doesn't appear out of place (and have little concept of how much older he is), females, if so inclined will not mind engaging in intimacy as he won't appear much different as a physical specimen.

Agree with you on the looks thing and I would say that a complicating factor is that a 20 year old may not have the experience to see the 'issues' behind the charm of an older, good-looking, charismatic guy. If there ARE issues of course - as you rightly point out, there are happy age-gap relationships.

Am a little confused as to the equality issue - how is that relevant when there is no legislation discriminating against age gaps? By equality do you mean that people feel free to criticise openly in a way that they wouldn't about interracial/gay relationships?