Think I'm in the wrong friendship group

So I'm a 17 year old girl, in a girls school and have been in this friendship group for the past 5 years. Our group of friends are the kinds of people who don't really socialise with boys, who are kind of quiet around others and are very proper and are generally goody two shoes, but lately I've been feeling like I don't fit in.
They all don't drink, have sex or go to late night parties etc like I really want to, and it's gotten to the point where I feel incredibly jealous of others who party all the time and I just don't get to! I've tried fitting in but it's no use, it's as if I give off a saddo vibe that doesn't get me invited to any of the places I want to go to. Even my boyfriend, who has always been the geeky stay at home type now stays out late, drinks and parties and I feel like an outsider, like I'm not enjoying my teenage life 'properly'.
What should I do? Should I distance myself and try to tag along with others? and how do I do that without seeming desperate e.g. without inviting myself to the parties?
Thanks!

Reply 1

username91207

You're asking on the wrong forum to be honest, 99% of TSR's userbase have the opposite problem to you :erm:

Reply 2

gr8wizard10

Original post by snowyowl

You're asking on the wrong forum to be honest, 99% of TSR's userbase have the opposite problem to you :erm:

Exactly this ^

This forums is for people who want to learn and go to top universities/get good jobs. This really isn't the place to ask.

Reply 3

Crumpet1

Quite honestly, although you might feel like you're missing out, your current friendship group is exactly what you need at this time. Get your A levels, go to university, and go as wild as you like in Fresher's Week. Sex and drink and late parties will be readily available in a year or two, and for the rest of your life ... your ability to afford them, however, will be determined by how you perform in your exams, and your current friends are likely to help you with that. In a few years you'll look back and thank them.

Reply 4

Crumpet1

Original post by maskofsanity

Load of crap. You can have a great social life during A-levels and still get AAA.

OP - why don't you go with your boyfriend?

You can if you're clever. For most people though, they have to prioritise one over the other. Personally I got the balance wrong.

Reply 5

Chief Wiggum

Original post by Anonymous

Can you not go to parties with your boyfriend? :smile:

Reply 6

GB6991

Original post by maskofsanity

Load of crap. You can have a great social life during A-levels and still get AAA.

OP - why don't you go with your boyfriend?

Who said AAA is good enough? Some of us need A*AA at the very least.

Reply 7

tory88

You can be part of more than one friendship group, you know? So definitely don't distance yourself from your existing friends if you still would like to be friends with them. Why not tag along with your boyfriend to some of his parties?

Reply 8

username952210

Original post by Anonymous

I'll show you a party :wink:

Reply 9

Luxray

Original post by tory88

I agree.

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

I actually have the exact same problem except I'm a dude aged 16 - While my social group has guys and girls who achieve generally high grades (I do too, not trying to brag) I just feel its all too 'safe' at the moment. I've never been drunk or gone to a mad party before and I really want to, but everyone has their friendship groups already and I never get invited to any of those cool parties. Know how you feel to be missing out in life somehow :frown:

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

thanks for the advice, and i've tried asking my bf if I can go with him but he says no, that it'd be weird to invite me if everyone there knows each other, which is kind of fair enough.