Feel like things are ruined between me and my girlfriend

If you don't mind us asking, what is it that you argue about?

Hmm that's concerning. Going on a break rarely works. That's code for "i've found someone else i like and want a fling, but i want to come back to you when the fun is gone".

Hmm that's concerning. Going on a break rarely works. That's code for "i've found someone else i like and want a fling, but i want to come back to you when the fun is gone".

Yeah I completely understand, she did assure me that we would not be seeing anyone else whilst on a break but I get what you are saying, I'd just like to say I trust her enough and I think she respects me enough to not do anything like that

I would be wary. I don't think i could ever go on a break, either they're the same person when you get back together and nothing has changed, or they're a different person and you could just end up feeling alienated.

Kinda sounds like she's always having to take control. Is that true or is it just bad interpretation? :P

I don't like to say it because it's probably very frustrating to read, but I don't know if this is a relationship that has much of a real future, based on two things; firstly, it hasn't been going on for very long and yet a few months in issues started to arise. I think it's great that you have obviously worked at rebuilding after these big arguments, however that is quite early, I feel, for genuine problems to begin and for that reason don't see how it could go on much longer. You would have to make a real effort to change things, but to me it sounds as though by suggesting a break she isn't really looking to learn how to change, or interested in you promising to change. By suggesting a break, she is almost definitely wanting to experience life without you for a little while, just to see what that is like and if it is 'that' bad.

I'm not sure what else you could do. There may be little things, and you could try really hard to put a big happy face on and hope that just sticks permanently until it becomes true, however it does not sound as though she is quite prepared to do that. I think this seems to have a deadline already, unfortunately. =/ Apologies if I've misunderstood or assumed anything, there just doesn't seem to be much hope here in my understanding.

I really appreciate that comment, thank you. I'm just scared to lose her, things were going so well for a while and it was great but I don't know anymore to be honest. I would like to be optimistic enough to believe that things will get better, they will get back to how they were cause it is usually minor things that cause arugments, things that could be easily changed but the more I think about it the more I think you may be right. Thank you

You're welcome. I agree with the other response that says things seem a little one-sided, and to me it's as though you are working quite hard emotionally and literally to keep things going well, whereas she perhaps is doing so on the surface but doesn't really believe it. =/ Which again, is a little hopeless really. Sorry to bring you down! It's wonderful you are optimistic but can also look realistically at the situation when you need to.
And I know what you mean about the arguments - tiny little things that escalate, and you don't quite know they've done so until it's too late to go back to being happy. However whilst the things are tiny, it's the frequency of the serious arguing that matters, and at the end of the day those are the things that have the biggest affect on a partner. That negativity, even if it came out of nowhere, will build up and become a bit hard to ignore even if you're trying your best. Good luck, though, I hope I'm wrong if you continue with the relationship. ^^

Thank you, I have a lot to think about with all of it to be honest. Yeah I kinda am thinking the things you are saying and totally get that and hate feeling like I may be wasting my time, it's just so many mixed messages I'm getting and I just don't know for sure how she is feeling and it's killing me

Ask her! After six months, you deserve the right to ask her. There is nothing wrong with asking for an update on someone else's feelings if they aren't making them even just a little clear. There's a strange thought, especially in young relationships I think, that it is 'taboo' to be forward about these things, but we aren't mind readers. P: Particularly because of the difficulties had, you really should just ask her how exactly she feels about the relationship right now, without honey-coating things and without trying to tell you what she thinks you 'want' to hear. Make it obvious you're looking for the truth, not just automatic buzzwords to reassure you.