This discussion is now closed.
Check out other Related discussions
- gay/bi muslims
- Muslim and horny
- Oral while fasting
- should i tell my brown muslim parents that i'm bisexual?
- Being a muslim girl (is sometimes hard)
- Need help from Muslims ONLY - I don't wanna be bi...
- Gay and Muslim
- Does EVERYONE get horny?
- Muslim looking for partner :(
- my best friend is sexually attracted to me
- Love in Islam: Qs for Muslim brothers and sisters!
- attracted to but deeply repulsed by guys at the same time
- Being black (Somali), gay and Muslim
- Lesbian
- do women need sexual release as much as man?
- Is it normal for a girl to masturbate twice a day?
- For girls only-
- Muslim girls at Leeds Uni?
- relationship
- Prefer circumcised or not circumcised?
How do Muslim girls deal with their natural sexual desires?
Scroll to see replies
Original post by Ggmu!
If it was a rule it'd apply to both so who you'd be attracted to is irrelevant.
Posted from TSR Mobile
Posted from TSR Mobile
Tbh I am not strongly religious and usually follow the girls wishes.
I am sorry that saw your post right a way, I am in the same condition as you. I am Muslim boy aging 24. To say in short and clear. Do masturbate a lot just to keep away myself from Zina but I am failed as some points talking to girls thinking about them in sexual way, viewing porn etc and worst of all, I always feel wet down there and dirty.
Being Muslim. With honesty, I want to share my emotions as well, have fallen in love twice but result is same girl left me because I cant have her with me to have sex with me I refuse I fear that my wife would sense me that I have done sex before and you know I am so emotional that I heart start crying whenever I see a beautiful girl, at first do cry because I could have her but now I pray for her in my heart and do say Mash-Allah upon her beauty. I have tears in my eyes on seeing such beauty but still I do think if she is so beautiful from having distance from me what if there is no distance between us?
I hope that you are getting what I am trying say here, right now you will are seeing two sides of me one is bad, weak, so sexual and one side of me is towards deein such as saying Mash-Allah. In the end, I would like to say, that keep balance in your life if you think you are getting out of control take first towards deein. InshahAllah, Allah will help you.
To have sexual feeling towards opposite gender its totally normal. I pray to Allah only He can help us(You, Me and others).
Here is my advise.
1. Take little steps which your right hand is built for.
2. Discuss with your doctor or have someone to share your feeling. Once your feeling is out you will feel relax and confident.
3. Don't talk to boys individually, talk to them in public.
4. Remember Allah in your activities. Always recite BismalAllah before doing anything even if you are doing masturbating. It is a lot harder then it sounds but you will feel change in you after some time.
Here is my example.
Before today, I think it was life 3years back when I often masturbates such that I feel pain in my body, views porn almost everyday, tries to touch girls deliberately but now I am in bit better condition because I took some steps in order to keep myself safe from doing bad deeds.
Being Muslim. With honesty, I want to share my emotions as well, have fallen in love twice but result is same girl left me because I cant have her with me to have sex with me I refuse I fear that my wife would sense me that I have done sex before and you know I am so emotional that I heart start crying whenever I see a beautiful girl, at first do cry because I could have her but now I pray for her in my heart and do say Mash-Allah upon her beauty. I have tears in my eyes on seeing such beauty but still I do think if she is so beautiful from having distance from me what if there is no distance between us?
I hope that you are getting what I am trying say here, right now you will are seeing two sides of me one is bad, weak, so sexual and one side of me is towards deein such as saying Mash-Allah. In the end, I would like to say, that keep balance in your life if you think you are getting out of control take first towards deein. InshahAllah, Allah will help you.
To have sexual feeling towards opposite gender its totally normal. I pray to Allah only He can help us(You, Me and others).
Here is my advise.
1. Take little steps which your right hand is built for.
2. Discuss with your doctor or have someone to share your feeling. Once your feeling is out you will feel relax and confident.
3. Don't talk to boys individually, talk to them in public.
4. Remember Allah in your activities. Always recite BismalAllah before doing anything even if you are doing masturbating. It is a lot harder then it sounds but you will feel change in you after some time.
Here is my example.
Before today, I think it was life 3years back when I often masturbates such that I feel pain in my body, views porn almost everyday, tries to touch girls deliberately but now I am in bit better condition because I took some steps in order to keep myself safe from doing bad deeds.
im so glad to find other girls like me...masturbation is addictive i cant keep myself away from it
Original post by Anonymous
Hi
I am a muslim female and i completely understand your point ,I am 21 years old and have never been in a proper relationship ,I usually refuse guys that have intentions other than marriage .I know i might get a lot of hate for this but i usually deal with my sexual desires by masturbating ,I know its not allowed and it's wrong but I can't help it ,the only thing that actually helps me .I am a virgin so i try not to finger too deeply ,but yes i am guilty of watching porn and i masturbate every other day.I feel so guilty when i finish but i can't help it .
I am a muslim female and i completely understand your point ,I am 21 years old and have never been in a proper relationship ,I usually refuse guys that have intentions other than marriage .I know i might get a lot of hate for this but i usually deal with my sexual desires by masturbating ,I know its not allowed and it's wrong but I can't help it ,the only thing that actually helps me .I am a virgin so i try not to finger too deeply ,but yes i am guilty of watching porn and i masturbate every other day.I feel so guilty when i finish but i can't help it .
Original post by Anonymous
Hi
I am a muslim female and i completely understand your point ,I am 21 years old and have never been in a proper relationship ,I usually refuse guys that have intentions other than marriage .I know i might get a lot of hate for this but i usually deal with my sexual desires by masturbating ,I know its not allowed and it's wrong but I can't help it ,the only thing that actually helps me .I am a virgin so i try not to finger too deeply ,but yes i am guilty of watching porn and i masturbate every other day.I feel so guilty when i finish but i can't help it .
I am a muslim female and i completely understand your point ,I am 21 years old and have never been in a proper relationship ,I usually refuse guys that have intentions other than marriage .I know i might get a lot of hate for this but i usually deal with my sexual desires by masturbating ,I know its not allowed and it's wrong but I can't help it ,the only thing that actually helps me .I am a virgin so i try not to finger too deeply ,but yes i am guilty of watching porn and i masturbate every other day.I feel so guilty when i finish but i can't help it .
Ugh. You have NO reason to feel guilty because it is NATURAL!
There's no clear ruling on masturbation in Islam. It seems like it's deliberately left ambiguous. Maybe for just these types of situations. Whereas zina is clearly haraam so do abstain from it.
However, person considering herself Muslim should not be putting up these kind of religious/societal questions out in the open to any Jack and Jill (there are genuine Islamic forums for it, ya' know). It only brings the not-required free advise and scorn of people who are not from our culture/religion/society. They obviously do not hold the same values as we do. :-)
However, person considering herself Muslim should not be putting up these kind of religious/societal questions out in the open to any Jack and Jill (there are genuine Islamic forums for it, ya' know). It only brings the not-required free advise and scorn of people who are not from our culture/religion/society. They obviously do not hold the same values as we do. :-)
(edited 9 years ago)
I'm having the same problem. I'm also a Muslim 22 year old female at university. Recently a white non-Muslim guy from uni started flirting with me and we started texting back and forth and somehow it ended up with us sexting each other. I explained to him I'm a virgin and I've never done that before and I wouldn't sleep with him and he seemed disappointed that I wouldn't because I think he liked me. Trouble is I'm a bit religious and my family is very religious and I wear hijab as well as a abaya (long black covering over my clothes) and I don't know how it got this far with this boy to be honest. I feel like he has backed off a bit now since I explained about being muslim and how I wouldn't date or sleep with him. I really feel emotionally and physically attracted to him though and I know if I could I would sleep with him. I'm just finding it really hard to control my desires. I have masturbated from about 14 as well but try not to do it too often because I know it's wrong but I find that it helps me to stay away from porn or desiring men too much. He always says things like I really turn him on etc but I just feel really guilty about it so I haven't texted him for a few days and neither has he. I miss him a lot though and find it hard not to think about him. I just really want to be in a relationship with someone who likes me for me and not because they have to get married so they can have halal sex. Anyways I just wanted to share my experience with you, I know the other posters will just try to either tell me to get married or leave Islam which are both not options I would consider. I'm about to finish my degree and then start another one which will take another four years and I'm dreading not being able to get married for that long because I want to finish my education first. I know it sucks but there isn't really much else we can do except wait it out until we meet someone we like to marry. At the moment I am trying to get over this really sweet guy because I know it's never going to go anywhere. But it's hard knowing that I'll probably be 26 or older before I get to get married. Im going to be living out for my second degree and I'm a bit worried that I might fall into doing something wrong while I'm there.
Another reason why some aspects of religion, namely trying to repress natural desires that Allah supposedly gave you (
), can be so damaging and pointless.
), can be so damaging and pointless.
Original post by Plantagenet Crown
Another reason why some aspects of religion, namely trying to repress natural desires that Allah supposedly gave you (), can be so damaging and pointless.
), can be so damaging and pointless.Just a question, are you Catholic?
Original post by Plantagenet Crown
Another reason why some aspects of religion, namely trying to repress natural desires that Allah supposedly gave you (), can be so damaging and pointless.
), can be so damaging and pointless.Trying to repress? The Sunnah is to marry as early as possible. If we cannot practice the Sunnah, there's always going to be problems...for a Muslim. Don't blame the religion. The religion is perfect but we just cannot apply it
Original post by RoyalBlue7
Trying to repress? The Sunnah is to marry as early as possible. If we cannot practice the Sunnah, there's always going to be problems...for a Muslim. Don't blame the religion. The religion is perfect but we just cannot apply it
What if she is 16 and has not found a man who is suitable?
Original post by Samina Z. MD
There's no clear ruling on masturbation in Islam. It seems like it's deliberately left ambiguous. Maybe for just these types of situations. Whereas zina is clearly haraam so do abstain from it.
However, person considering herself Muslim should not be putting up these kind of religious/societal questions out in the open to any Jack and Jill (there are genuine Islamic forums for it, ya' know). It only brings the not-required free advise and scorn of people who are not from our culture/religion/society. They obviously do not hold the same values as we do. :-)
However, person considering herself Muslim should not be putting up these kind of religious/societal questions out in the open to any Jack and Jill (there are genuine Islamic forums for it, ya' know). It only brings the not-required free advise and scorn of people who are not from our culture/religion/society. They obviously do not hold the same values as we do. :-)
Is that a bad thing, some non-Muslims will say immature or inappropriate things and simply insulting Islam for being repressive is incredibly unhelpful, but what you suggest is much worse.
If you go to an Islamic forum and ask this, you will just get the most inexperienced Muslim virgin boys telling you that it is Sunnah to get married young and get your needs met that way, but really deep down, they do not care about the girl so much as they hate the idea that she might lose her virginity before them or before marriage.
Even look at this thread, there are 23 separate anonymous posters, that shows there is something seriously wrong with how Muslim women are seen by their “brothers”.
I suppose that was where the whole marrying 6 year olds and having sex with them aged 9 came in handy - well at least for the men, I cannot believe it was for the poor little girls.
Islam (indeed not only Islam but Christianity and Judaism) has much to answer for regarding the imposition of fear about healthy sexual activities such as masturbation. It is very normal for us to get urges and to need to act on them be that alone or with another person(s) and so long as everyone wants to it's all good but religion comes in and says otherwise. How can this be healthy for our species?
There is more to answer still when you take into account genital mutilation which religion seems to be so fond of (FGM and circumcision).
Islam (indeed not only Islam but Christianity and Judaism) has much to answer for regarding the imposition of fear about healthy sexual activities such as masturbation. It is very normal for us to get urges and to need to act on them be that alone or with another person(s) and so long as everyone wants to it's all good but religion comes in and says otherwise. How can this be healthy for our species?
There is more to answer still when you take into account genital mutilation which religion seems to be so fond of (FGM and circumcision).
Original post by yo radical one
What if she is 16 and has not found a man who is suitable?
I don't get you...you mean if someone cannot get married?
Original post by RoyalBlue7
I don't get you...you mean if someone cannot get married?
Lots of reasons why she might not get married then
She might want to study and graduate rather than just being a stay at home wife, and even then, the suitors found for her at that age might be immature and clearly incapable of making good husbands. I don't know how old you are, but think back to when you were 16, most 16 year old boys were totally moronic.
Original post by yo radical one
Lots of reasons why she might not get married then
She might want to study and graduate rather than just being a stay at home wife, and even then, the suitors found for her at that age might be immature and clearly incapable of making good husbands. I don't know how old you are, but think back to when you were 16, most 16 year old boys were totally moronic.
She might want to study and graduate rather than just being a stay at home wife, and even then, the suitors found for her at that age might be immature and clearly incapable of making good husbands. I don't know how old you are, but think back to when you were 16, most 16 year old boys were totally moronic.
Yeah I didn't deny that there are all sorts of reasons and circumstances. But the Sunnah is clear about this. One cannot blame religion for "repressing natural desires" when it really does not.
Original post by RoyalBlue7
Yeah I didn't deny that there are all sorts of reasons and circumstances. But the Sunnah is clear about this. One cannot blame religion for "repressing natural desires" when it really does not.
I agree it is clear, and I myself tend to avoid phrases such as "repressing natural desires" but you must see that problems would be created if a 16 year old girl were to just get married. It's pretty sad but, you do hear about Muslim divorcees who are still in their teens or early 20's and you think that if they had not been married off so young, they would not be in that position.
Original post by starlight4711
Just a question, are you Catholic?
No, why?
Original post by yo radical one
I agree it is clear, and I myself tend to avoid phrases such as "repressing natural desires" but you must see that problems would be created if a 16 year old girl were to just get married. It's pretty sad but, you do hear about Muslim divorcees who are still in their teens or early 20's and you think that if they had not been married off so young, they would not be in that position.
I cannot judge what I do not know but I expect it to be better than unwanted teenage pregnancies, abortions, etc and there shouldn't be any problem divorcing...
The religion prohibits sex outside marriage. The problem Muslims have is they give way too importance to marriage, and divorce is seen as haram
(edited 9 years ago)
Related discussions
- gay/bi muslims
- Muslim and horny
- Oral while fasting
- should i tell my brown muslim parents that i'm bisexual?
- Being a muslim girl (is sometimes hard)
- Need help from Muslims ONLY - I don't wanna be bi...
- Gay and Muslim
- Does EVERYONE get horny?
- Muslim looking for partner :(
- my best friend is sexually attracted to me
- Love in Islam: Qs for Muslim brothers and sisters!
- attracted to but deeply repulsed by guys at the same time
- Being black (Somali), gay and Muslim
- Lesbian
- do women need sexual release as much as man?
- Is it normal for a girl to masturbate twice a day?
- For girls only-
- Muslim girls at Leeds Uni?
- relationship
- Prefer circumcised or not circumcised?
Latest
Trending
Last reply 4 days ago
My friend might be getting extra time and i hate it.Last reply 4 days ago
Just found out about UCL stat test but can't afford to sit itLast reply 2 weeks ago
Dad keeps criticising my university degree choiceLast reply 2 weeks ago
Is this pathetic or genuinely something to be upset aboutTrending
Last reply 4 days ago
My friend might be getting extra time and i hate it.Last reply 4 days ago
Just found out about UCL stat test but can't afford to sit itLast reply 2 weeks ago
Dad keeps criticising my university degree choiceLast reply 2 weeks ago
Is this pathetic or genuinely something to be upset about
