Dating 2 people?

What you're suggesting doesn't sound that bad. But it probably depends how well you know them and how much they have invested in the relationship.

Could you let them know that you plan to do this?

Obviously neither of them has any right to you, but it seems a bit mean to two time somebody who really likes you (rather than breaking it off with them or going out with them exclusively).

I've recently ventured into online dating after not having much luck in the real world. I've been chatting to a guy I quite like for a few days now and we're going for drinks on Friday. However there's another guy who also seems quite nice who's suggested going out next week.

Is it bad form to keep my options open and go on a date with each of them and see who I like more?

You're probably a better judge than me of the situation.

Are they both just in the stage of "seeing how it goes", or does either of them seem to really like you and seem heavily invested in you?

Rather than considering whether they should get hurt, I'd look at whether they will. If either of them will get hurt, you should probably either go with them exclusively or break it off with them.

Unless you could be sneaky and see them both, then if you don't like one or both of them, break it off with them without telling them you saw the other guy

Initially, sure

However, if Friday seems nice and asks you out again before the next date then I think you should cancel the second guy

I've recently ventured into online dating after not having much luck in the real world. I've been chatting to a guy I quite like for a few days now and we're going for drinks on Friday. However there's another guy who also seems quite nice who's suggested going out next week.

Is it bad form to keep my options open and go on a date with each of them and see who I like more?


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I think the soonest I'd be able to see the second guy is Wednesday (he's busy all weekend and I'm busy Monday and Tuesday), if I decided I liked Friday, would that be enough notice to cancel? I wouldn't know what to say, I'm very inexperienced when it comes to any sort of dating haha

I have no experience of dating, so I probably shouldn't even be advising you.

You should listen to the others, if anyone.

I just have some experience of feeling crappy when somebody I like strings me along while going out with other people...

You're not going out with anyone so it's fine to date around a little, but you will sorta need to be able to chose one and cut the other off once you feel a relationship is on the cards, or drop both of them quickly and painlessly should neither interest you for a relationship.

Also if it comes up whatever you do, don't lie about the fact you are keeping your options open in a pro-active manner.

Online dating is tough

It is likely that they are also considering a number of girls from the site

If Friday seems nice when you meet him, contact Next Week on Saturday and say that you are sorry but need to cancel

He will be disappointed but not surprised

Yeah

That's what I figured, I know men generally play a numbers game when it comes to online dating, so it's likely I'm not the only one he's speaking to.

I would say that if you see Friday and then you do see Next Week then, imo, seeing Friday again would be a bit tacky

But that is just my opinion

It could be that they are both into casual initially

No I agree, if I was interested in Friday (god I better not accidentally call him that now ) and I wanted to see him again then I wouldn't meet Next Week, I just don't know how id explain cancelling

No I agree, if I was interested in Friday (god I better not accidentally call him that now ) and I wanted to see him again then I wouldn't meet Next Week, I just don't know how id explain cancelling


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