Private school students ?

I think the perception of private school kids is that they are out of touch with society. It's probably the case for all middle class families to an extent. But yea, I probably wouldn't want to put my child in a private school, even if I was wealthy, partly because I think it's a waste of money, but also to avoid putting my child in a bubble of great privilege, where they are around people who have a very limited view of the real world, and are therefore unable to appreciate the privileges they have.

I study medicine right now, and it is a highly competitive course, and therefore it is dominated by private schools (50% privately educated in some medical schools). I speak to them all of the time, and it's not necessarily that they are bad people, but there are certain character traits that they've acquired from their upbringing and private education that I wouldn't want in my children (if I go on to have any). Traits like being naive about inequality in the country and the world, being arrogant, being excessively competitive, placing too much emphasis on work/career/wealth.

That said one of the reasons why private schools dominate so much, I think, is that they are taught some really great skills that those in state schools don't get taught as effectively, like leadership and public speaking. Often they're so confident, and like to put themselves up for positions of leadership, because they're so used to competing and persuading people with a speech.

Enlightened, compassionate? Interesting.



Would you like me to PM you the surnames of these people?



Er, no. "A snob who looks down on those with money"... what even?

Believe you me, it is a lot easier being rich than being poor. Any snobbery that rich people show is usually fuelled by disgust, whereas "snobbery" that poor people show is usually fuelled by jealousy. Kind of different things.

There is a hell of a lot wrong with immense privilege, because unsurprisingly, it leads to snobbery and general ignorance. More or less everybody at my school was firmly in the "poor people brought it on themselves, should've worked harder" camp, for instance. The vast majority of girls spent their weekends taking pictures of themselves in extortionately expensive Mayfair/Kensington clubs and then putting them on Facebook. When a friend of mine wrote an article about sexism in our school (a fair point, seeing as girls were only introduced to the school quite recently and it's still a very "laddish" sort of place), she was sent tons of hate mail and booed when she went into the cafeteria (by boys), which rather proved the point. I could go on for hours.

I had a terrible experience. Most people I've met at similar public schools (at parties and such, or through mutual friends) turned out to be pretty petty and/or sickeningly shallow. (Note the 'most', not 'all'.)

If you loved Eton (I'm guessing Eton), then great, good for you. Writing long, passive-aggressive sentences with fancy phrases like 'reeks of ignorance' and 'the attitudes in your contrived quotations' is a bit of a waste of time.

Weren't you the girl saying you knew a lot of Etonians and how spiffing they all were ?

Some people seem to think that privately educated kids are all coddled by mummy, given largely what they want and have nice, cushy upbringings and grow up to sneer at the world.

From my experience, rich kids still come from broken homes, have abusive parents, have eating/mental disorders, have behavioural problems, suffer from dyslexia/learning difficulties, experience death from an early age, get pregnant at 15 and generally have just as ****ty a time as kids from other schools.

The children therein are fundamentally no different to anyone else, just the environment in which they learn is different. Obviously you get your snobs, "nerds", cool kids, sporty kids, rebels/trouble-makers etc. but what schools don't you find them in?

I loved my school experience and wouldn't swap it for anything. Admittedly I was very naïve about the world, but I don't see that as necessarily a bad thing. You don't have to learn things first-hand to know they are true. My school-experience didn't allow me to experience the ways of the world, but it encouraged me to find out about it for myself.

Another thing to consider is that higher fees don't necessarily mean that the school is better.

Errrrrrrrrr. Generally it does.

I'd like some evidence on this.
Day fees for top schools:
MCS Oxford fees: £4876 per term
Withington Girls' School: £3480 per term
Guildford High School: £4750/£4815 per term
SPS: £6951 per term
SPGS: £6564 per term
Westminster: £7500/£8130 (6th form entry)
Wycombe Abbey: £8325 per term
NLCS: £5543 per term
KCS: £6300 per term
Habs Girls: £4518 per term
RGS Guildford: £4890 per term
LEH: £5400 per term
The Perse School: £4817 per term
Cardiff Sixth Form College: £12000 per year
Oxford High School GDST: £4096 per term
JAGS: £4210 per term
etc.
Not including boarding only schools.
Bit of a range.

I'd like some evidence on this.
Day fees for top schools:
MCS Oxford fees: £4876 per term
Withington Girls' School: £3480 per term
...................
The Perse School: £4817 per term
Cardiff Sixth Form College: £12000 per year
Oxford High School GDST: £4096 per term
JAGS: £4210 per term
etc.
Not including boarding only schools.
Bit of a range.

Day fees ? lol................anyone decent is boarding at a public school

I checked and as it turns out I lied, it's ~1100.

I went to Wellington. Would you like photographic proof?

"A little credibility", Jesus Christ. It's a bloody internet forum.

Day fees ? lol................anyone decent is boarding at a public school

Oh BTW: Cardiff is the best college in the country.

Errrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. No they are not. Either you made a typo or they are the highest by far. Either way you are dyslexic apparently.

Lol, please don't make a fool of yourself. I wrote that their fees are 12000 pounds IN A YEAR. There are 3 terms in a year, making their fees 4000 pounds A TERM.

This.
Although I wouldn't call myself rich, I think this is exactly what I wish people would understand.

Lol, please don't make a fool of yourself. I wrote that their fees are 12000 pounds IN A YEAR. There are 3 terms in a year, making their fees 4000 pounds A TERM.