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Do I have an obligation to socialise with partners friends even though I don't want

I realise I may get biased views on here as students are generally party animals who won't understand me but here goes. I have a 4 month old and since having him I have really missed relaxing watching tv or reading a book in the evening as my baby doesn't sleep until 11 and doesn't sleep much during the day. We are going to a wedding tomorrow so got a babysitter for the weekend and are staying at a hotel. I went for a meal and a drink with my partners friends but by 7, after a long drive and feeling rather greasy and tired I didn't feel like socialising. I did try and socialise but looked tired and just really wanted to have a long soak, curl up in bed and watch tv. I told the group I would be having an early night. My boyfriend is really annoyed that I've gone up and said it's embarrassing for him. I don't care if people think I'm anti social, I shall have a full day of socialising tomorrow. But do u think my partner is right to be angry and upset?
He isn't right to be angry or upset. He should appreciate the fact you get along with his friends! If he is, just give it a while and let him cool down. He'll come to his senses in a bit.
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Old_Simon
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He probably feels that since you had your baby that he has no space or life with you at all. Bed at 11 ?
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Profesh
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Is the child his? If not, perhaps you ought to cut your losses and replace him with someone halfway competent.
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Mezza362
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He is the child's father and is most ways is lovely but when he is up for a night of socialising he always wants me to. I understand that but I think it's unfair that he doesn't just accept I don't want to and not try and make me feel guilty and day it's embarrassing. It's not embarrassing anyway. If he feels that way that's his problem
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llys
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Original post by Mezza362
He is the child's father and is most ways is lovely but when he is up for a night of socialising he always wants me to. I understand that but I think it's unfair that he doesn't just accept I don't want to and not try and make me feel guilty and day it's embarrassing. It's not embarrassing anyway. If he feels that way that's his problem


I'd agree with that. I'd also agree with Old Simon, however: your boyfriend probably was just looking forward to getting more normal time with you for once. (Not your fault or his, just something that can happen when 2 become 3.)
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Girl too "tired" to be social so goes upto her room for a long soak. Immediately logs onto social media and starts chatting to all and sundry. If I was the bf I would dump you.
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awe
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Original post by Old_Simon
Girl too "tired" to be social so goes upto her room for a long soak. Immediately logs onto social media and starts chatting to all and sundry. If I was the bf I would dump you.


Because being active, happy, alert, 'attractive', extroverted, entertaining, physically awake/dancing, etc = required for posting on TSR? Not in the slightest. How can you be so callous?
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Girl too "tired" to be social so goes upto her room for a long soak. Immediately logs onto social media and starts chatting to all and sundry. If I was the bf I would dump you.


Social media can be a whole lot different to physically socialising.

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Original post by Mezza362
I realise I may get biased views on here as students are generally party animals who won't understand me but here goes. I have a 4 month old and since having him I have really missed relaxing watching tv or reading a book in the evening as my baby doesn't sleep until 11 and doesn't sleep much during the day. We are going to a wedding tomorrow so got a babysitter for the weekend and are staying at a hotel. I went for a meal and a drink with my partners friends but by 7, after a long drive and feeling rather greasy and tired I didn't feel like socialising. I did try and socialise but looked tired and just really wanted to have a long soak, curl up in bed and watch tv. I told the group I would be having an early night. My boyfriend is really annoyed that I've gone up and said it's embarrassing for him. I don't care if people think I'm anti social, I shall have a full day of socialising tomorrow. But do u think my partner is right to be angry and upset?


He is probably disappointed that since there is no baby around you did not make the best of it to go all out.


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