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How do I get social status to attract girls?
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Original post by datpiff
Here were the main scenes when I were in university:
* Popular party animals/popular girls - always going out on the piss in fancy dress, going into lectures hungover, into everything mainstream, has a Facebook full of pictures of various nights out. Hard to keep up with and pretty bitchy and cliquey.
* The mature students - talk about kids, bills, mortgages, the wife/husband, university work, etc. usually sound people who are pretty boring to a 18-30 year old.
* The Asians - very tight groups who don't tend to usually socialise with others outside of the group outside of university. Very hard to be considered one of the gang.
There were loads more but I can't be arsed to type anymore
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* Popular party animals/popular girls - always going out on the piss in fancy dress, going into lectures hungover, into everything mainstream, has a Facebook full of pictures of various nights out. Hard to keep up with and pretty bitchy and cliquey.
* The mature students - talk about kids, bills, mortgages, the wife/husband, university work, etc. usually sound people who are pretty boring to a 18-30 year old.
* The Asians - very tight groups who don't tend to usually socialise with others outside of the group outside of university. Very hard to be considered one of the gang.
There were loads more but I can't be arsed to type anymore
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Ha this is very true
Original post by aaaarroonnn
Not everyone can be popular, else there would be no popularity. Trying to be popular can't end well, I guess popularity comes naturally to people, confidence, looks, interests etc.
Yes, but confidence and an interesting personality are possible to be obtained through hard work. Looks on the other hand, are not changeable, except the way you dress. I think it's better to try to be more sociable and popular rather than give up and be lame and lonely.
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All about infiltrating those social circles. It's a lot of work though and to be honest there are plenty of hot girls outside these social circles anyway if you know where to find them.
Plus the popular girls tend to be club hags, good for a bit of fun but don't expect a relationship out of it. She'll be out getting rammed in the club on the weekend regardless.
Plus the popular girls tend to be club hags, good for a bit of fun but don't expect a relationship out of it. She'll be out getting rammed in the club on the weekend regardless.
Original post by Jebedee
All about infiltrating those social circles. It's a lot of work though and to be honest there are plenty of hot girls outside these social circles anyway if you know where to find them.
Plus the popular girls tend to be club hags, good for a bit of fun but don't expect a relationship out of it. She'll be out getting rammed in the club on the weekend regardless.
Plus the popular girls tend to be club hags, good for a bit of fun but don't expect a relationship out of it. She'll be out getting rammed in the club on the weekend regardless.
Club hags definitely aren't worth it. Girls who are 18-24 who are mad about going yo the club at least once a weekend. Best to leave these girls be and let them get the party put of their system. They leave either once younger girls get on the scene and they start getting all the attention, they get sick of drinking crap alcohol or when they get sick of ******** men approaching them.
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What kind of bull**** university do you go to where this childish popularity thing still exists? Wow...people got over that by the time sixth form rolled around for me. 
Edit: Oh, the people posting here haven't even gone to university yet
, but obviously they know everything about it. 
...*sigh* there's never a shortage of armchair experts on this site :/
Edit: Oh, the people posting here haven't even gone to university yet
, but obviously they know everything about it. ...*sigh* there's never a shortage of armchair experts on this site :/(edited 10 years ago)
Original post by datpiff
Nah it's true to a degree. It all depends on the social status of the female you're talking to, but if they're fit then of course they'll have other ladies and gents circling round them. You have to be careful not to look like a gay boyfriend. Females (especially 18-25s) I find put a massive importance on friends and social circles
It's sad really how far looks get you.
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It's sad really how far looks get you.
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Good old cliques. Well everyone I've met on my course have been sound, but I swear the only people who live in my halls are the "wagwarn bruv, safe fam" types who spend their time walking from flat to flat in large groups, but then again I am at an inner city Uni so what do you expect lol.
Funnily enough as well - and quite ironically - the people in my first flat, that I was removed from were all middle class and liked going out drinking not just smoking 24/7
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Original post by TheGuy117
What kind of bull**** university do you go to where this childish popularity thing still exists? Wow...people got over that by the time sixth form rolled around for me.
Edit: Oh, the people posting here haven't even gone to university yet, but obviously they know everything about it. ...*sigh* there's never a shortage of armchair experts on this site :/
Edit: Oh, the people posting here haven't even gone to university yet
, but obviously they know everything about it. ...*sigh* there's never a shortage of armchair experts on this site :/It exists everywhere to a degree, but not like school. In every workplace you have your cliques and your people who have higher social status.
Oh and a lot of people in my experience who come to uni from sixth form are less mature than the people who took the college route. The sixth formers never really get out of sixth form mode until the start of the 2nd year when **** gets real.
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Original post by datpiff
It exists everywhere to a degree, but not like school. In every workplace you have your cliques and your people who have higher social status.
Oh and a lot of people in my experience who come to uni from sixth form are less mature than the people who took the college route. The sixth formers never really get out of sixth form mode until the start of the 2nd year when **** gets real.
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Oh and a lot of people in my experience who come to uni from sixth form are less mature than the people who took the college route. The sixth formers never really get out of sixth form mode until the start of the 2nd year when **** gets real.
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I'm going to sound like such an *******, but did you go to a good uni? If not, that might be the reason why this bull**** still existed?
Original post by TheGuy117
I'm going to sound like such an *******, but did you go to a good uni? If not, that might be the reason why this bull**** still existed?
Irrelevant.
Social circles and groups exist everywhere. In every workplace and everywhere in British society. Social status incredibly important unfortunately. Especially in a reserved country such as the UK.
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Original post by datpiff
Irrelevant.
Social circles and groups exist everywhere. In every workplace and everywhere in British society. Social status incredibly important unfortunately. Especially in a reserved country such as the UK.
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Social circles and groups exist everywhere. In every workplace and everywhere in British society. Social status incredibly important unfortunately. Especially in a reserved country such as the UK.
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Whatever, man.
Original post by TheGuy117
Whatever, man.
So your telling me people don't form friendship circles? You're the one I call bull**** on. Are you trying to troll me because I can never tell on this site these days. Have trolls gotten smarter?
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Original post by datpiff
So your telling me people don't form friendship circles? You're the one I call bull**** on. Are you trying to troll me because I can never tell on this site these days. Have trolls gotten smarter?
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How is being in friendship circles equal to having people with "higher" or "lower" social status? There are so many people, courses, classes, timetables, societies etc. etc. at uni, that there is actually no possible way at all for **** like this to form. I've never had a job so I can't comment on if this **** exists in the workplace, I'll find out in a few years I guess.
Just be you, you can't make people like you 'better' it just happens. Makes me cringe seeing people brown nosing friendship groups, you'd probably end up worse if you try too hard Just be nice to people and get involved in more societies that you like, the right girl will turn up 
Also my boyfriend's never been very popular, most people like him and he's an easy-going guy but I didn't fancy him for his social status? Other girls do fancy him too so I'm not biased
Just be nice to people and get involved in more societies that you like, the right girl will turn up Also my boyfriend's never been very popular, most people like him and he's an easy-going guy but I didn't fancy him for his social status? Other girls do fancy him too so I'm not biased
Original post by hoochiebear
Just be you, you can't make people like you 'better' it just happens. Makes me cringe seeing people brown nosing friendship groups, you'd probably end up worse if you try too hard Just be nice to people and get involved in more societies that you like, the right girl will turn up
Also my boyfriend's never been very popular, most people like him and he's an easy-going guy but I didn't fancy him for his social status? Other girls do fancy him too so I'm not biased
Just be nice to people and get involved in more societies that you like, the right girl will turn up Also my boyfriend's never been very popular, most people like him and he's an easy-going guy but I didn't fancy him for his social status? Other girls do fancy him too so I'm not biased
Girls don't like nice guys and that's that! The thing is, I've had several girls point out to me that I'm too nice so I've determined that this is a bad trait of mine.
Original post by Get_Buckets
I've been told countless times that it's crucial to understand that one of the main things apart from confidence that women find really attractive is social status. Now I have a basic understanding of what this is, but how can I obtain it?
Maybe you guys have tips?
My social life was always fairly average - I wasn't the weirdo nor the really popular guy. Now in my 1st year in uni I'm having a harder time finding good friends. So, how is it possible to get social status? Note, I am doing this mainly to attract girls.
Maybe you guys have tips?
My social life was always fairly average - I wasn't the weirdo nor the really popular guy. Now in my 1st year in uni I'm having a harder time finding good friends. So, how is it possible to get social status? Note, I am doing this mainly to attract girls.
1. Be in need. Develop a skill or a knowledge that makes you of value to the world. Even better if you make a career out of it.
2. Don't talk so much.
3. Don't be a man-child. Uninstall those video games. Read a ****ing newspaper once in a while. Have technical interests. Know how to do things. Never let anyone see you struggle. Everything you do should look effortless.
4. Learn how to dress yourself. Fashion is important. Subtle quality is important. A good pair of shoes is essential.
5. Don't talk so damn much.
6. Have distractions and be distracted. You have other options. If you don't, pretend you do. Your time is valuable, or at least should be marketed as such.
7. There is more to life than chasing women.
8. Stop caring what other people think. Dont bend to the will of others. Make yourself happy.
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Original post by Get_Buckets
Girls don't like nice guys and that's that! The thing is, I've had several girls point out to me that I'm too nice so I've determined that this is a bad trait of mine.
Girls with any decency do! I've been with one for years and we're very happy, don't think I could say the same if I were with a knob
There's a fine line between a nice guy and a doormat thoughOriginal post by shiggydiggy
1. Be in need. Develop a skill or a knowledge that makes you of value to the world. Even better if you make a career out of it.
2. Don't talk so much.
3. Don't be a man-child. Uninstall those video games. Read a ****ing newspaper once in a while. Have technical interests. Know how to do things. Never let anyone see you struggle.
4. Learn how to dress yourself. Fashion is important. Subtle quality is important.
5. Don't talk so damn much.
6. Have distractions and be distracted. You have other options. If you don't, pretend you do. Your time is valuable, or at least should be marketed as such.
7. There is more to life than chasing women.
8. Stop caring what other people think. Dont bend to the will of others. Make yourself happy.
2. Don't talk so much.
3. Don't be a man-child. Uninstall those video games. Read a ****ing newspaper once in a while. Have technical interests. Know how to do things. Never let anyone see you struggle.
4. Learn how to dress yourself. Fashion is important. Subtle quality is important.
5. Don't talk so damn much.
6. Have distractions and be distracted. You have other options. If you don't, pretend you do. Your time is valuable, or at least should be marketed as such.
7. There is more to life than chasing women.
8. Stop caring what other people think. Dont bend to the will of others. Make yourself happy.
1. I agree that's important
2. Why do you think I talk a lot? I'm introverted and quite quiet unless it's something that interests me or I know a lot about.
3. Why should I read a newspaper? (which I do actually). I read tons of news on the internet, I'm well informed.
4. I dress OK I guess, always room for improvement.
5. Same as 2
6. Makes sense
7. Male instincts say otherwise
8. That I need to work on
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Original post by hoochiebear
Girls with any decency do! I've been with one for years and we're very happy, don't think I could say the same if I were with a knob There's a fine line between a nice guy and a doormat though
There's a fine line between a nice guy and a doormat thoughFine well there are loads of different girls, can't really generalise, so fair enough. I've also found that the harder I try to be proactive and go talk to them (which I barely used to do since I'm really shy), the less success I have, which is crazy but it makes sense.
Forget all the other confusing bit of advice.
All you need to do is:
* Hang around in places where you want to be and where you feel you fit in. This helps as you have more in common and therefore more to talk about.
* Spend time with people who want to be around and talk to you instead of chasing people who don't care
* Talk to people.
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All you need to do is:
* Hang around in places where you want to be and where you feel you fit in. This helps as you have more in common and therefore more to talk about.
* Spend time with people who want to be around and talk to you instead of chasing people who don't care
* Talk to people.
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Original post by datpiff
Forget all the other confusing bit of advice.
All you need to do is:
* Hang around in places where you want to be and where you feel you fit in. This helps as you have more in common and therefore more to talk about.
* Spend time with people who want to be around and talk to you instead of chasing people who don't care
* Talk to people.
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All you need to do is:
* Hang around in places where you want to be and where you feel you fit in. This helps as you have more in common and therefore more to talk about.
* Spend time with people who want to be around and talk to you instead of chasing people who don't care
* Talk to people.
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Great advice, I have seen this approach work quite well.
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