SO confused with my relationship.. would love to hear your point of view or thought!

Sorry if this thread is confusing.. its because I am confused about what to think and do and etc... I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now.. Although the relationship itself is GREAT! There is certain thing about him that bugs me. My family doesn't like him purely because he doesn't have an education and is a little bit 'hood' due to area he grew up in. My family is really quick to judge since he is not a ‘marriage material’ and specially my sister is very critical saying he isn’t good looking and haven’t got his life sorted. I obviously defend my boyfriend but she is right about him not having his life together.. BUT sometimes I feel when I am defending him I am making excuses.. Now that I am 23 I am thinking and confused weather I should wait around for him to change his behaviour or just take a break so he has time to sort his life out. I have made a pros and cons..
Cons
Can be very stubborn especially in disagreement
Smokes weed sometimes
Smokes fags A LOT! (I am 100% against smoking, I didn’t know he smokes until we was going out) he has been smoking since he was 12! Even thou he has said he wants to quit for me I think he should do it for himself.
Always late to meet up (wakes up late like 10/12)
ALWAYS hangs out with his friends till late night (not clubbing or drinking just smoking weed and going around in cars hanging out in different places)
No education (dropped out of collage 5 TIMES!.. I come from a family where education is a MUST.. all my family members have been to university) this was kind off a pro because his point of view and advices are refreshing compared to what my family would advise me.
Stuck at the same crappy job since he was 14.. and he only does it for weekend! And does nothing the whole week
No goal in life
Doesn’t save his money..
He is 23 and doesn’t have a car yet.
Pros: I know he tries his best to be a gentleman for me and I can see that he does truly love me. Even thou he does have girls trying to get his attention but all his attention is on me. HE IS NOT A CHEATER! His X cheated on him so he absolutely hates lies and dishonestly. He puts me in ease, makes me feel so safe and comfortable around him. He is a softy!! HE WRITES ME POEMS J <3. We love trying or doing new things together. We have same moral which I think is very important! He talks about marriages and babies more than I do!
I am very happy with him but I am confused at the same time. :/ there is a quote saying Don’t marry a man unless you would be proud to have a son exactly like him.. Well I do not really want my son to turn out like him.. Confused.com I would love to hear your point of view of my confusing mess..