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Not looking forward to university

I am due to start university in October, but I am really not looking forward to the social aspect since I have no intention of going to any clubs and societies, nor even to a potential friend's flat for a party. I am alright with small gatherings, but as soon as there is a "playful" element involved, I hate it.

Someone help me? I really don't know whether I would fit in with university life.

Thanks

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Original post by WinstonO'Brien

Hey,

You sound similar to me haha.

I imagine that there is more freedom at uni. You could just do whatever you want, at least that way you would enjoy what you do more- probably best IMO.

Will you live in your uni accommodation or not?
And also is your uni far from where you currently live?

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WinstonO'Brien

Original post by EmmaBxoxo

Yeah, I'll have to live in halls since the uni is around two hours away by train :/

Hmm yeah, but is there much to do at uni aside from societies/ clubs etc?

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EmmaBxoxo

Original post by WinstonO'Brien

Yeah, I'll have to live in halls since the uni is around two hours away by train :/

Hmm yeah, but is there much to do at uni aside from societies/ clubs etc?

Oh right, do you know if you'll have your own room or if you will share.

I don't know, I'm still doing my a levels lol.

Your name is familiar, Are you doing econ at Cambridge?

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WinstonO'Brien

Original post by EmmaBxoxo

No I'm doing medicine :smile:

And I'll apply for my own room! Hopefully en suite, too :biggrin:

Reply 6

Paralove

No one is going to force you go to events.

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CAP31

Original post by WinstonO'Brien

Its not necessary to get involved. That's why there's a word called NERD(No offence) :P

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WinstonO'Brien

Original post by CAP31

Its not necessary to get involved. That's why there's a word called NERD(No offence) :P

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Phew :P

But will that make people dislike me??

Reply 9

shawn_o1

No it won't. If they don't know you then you can't say that they don't like you. You might actually feel better being more "unknown" at uni :smile:

Reply 10

Crumpet1

Is there nothing at all that you are interested in? Societies come in all shape and sizes, it surprises me, that's all

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WinstonO'Brien

Original post by Crumpet1

Is there nothing at all that you are interested in? Societies come in all shape and sizes, it surprises me, that's all

There is, but it's more of an issue with my self confidence and not wanting to go in large groups :smile:

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WinstonO'Brien

Original post by shawn_o1

No it won't. If they don't know you then you can't say that they don't like you. You might actually feel better being more "unknown" at uni :smile:

That makes sense actually, thanks :smile:

Reply 13

Zarek

It is ABSOLUTELY BRILLIANT - learning new things, being at the frontiers of knowledge and suddenly being more independent than ever before. Even if you don't want to engage with the wacky immature social side (which I found great too) there is plenty going for it. Don't worry.

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EmmaBxoxo

Original post by WinstonO'Brien

No I'm doing medicine :smile:

And I'll apply for my own room! Hopefully en suite, too :biggrin:

On right nice and yeah that's what I would do tbh. :wink:

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Crumpet1

Can I perhaps suggest you have a read of this thread Winston, especially the OP's subsequent update? I hope it will help you to feel easier about going to uni:

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=2118175

Reply 16

Muppet Science

I am not much of a socialite and Uni is still enjoyable. I instead go out to the pub with a few friends once a week or just chill out by myself. During Freshers' there will be peer pressure to go out clubbing and to 'down it' but with some self-discipline you can easily avoid this being an issue. I am by far the least social in my flat at halls and I get along with them fairly well. At first they were a little confused that I would refuse to 'down' my drinks and did not go out clubbing much, but now that they understand that we get along pretty well.

Just stand up for yourself and you will be fine. Additionally as a medic you can claim that you have to work instead, I have used this a few times (I am also a medic) and it will get them off your back.

Reply 17

ClickItBack

Original post by WinstonO'Brien

It's a bit more difficult at Cambridge to avoid socialising than at other universities, and particularly so if you're at one of the smaller colleges. That said, uni is a completely independent existence; no one's going to force you to go to events that you don't want to (well, apart from a couple like matriculation and the odd subject dinner).

I knew a few people who were probably similar to you, and they got on just fine. I enjoyed conversing with them over lunch or playing a bit of squash with them now and again, and understood that they wouldn't be keen to come out clubbing. People at uni are generally pretty easy-going about others, and I'm sure you'll find people you can get along with even if you're not a very 'playful' person.

I will say though that your personality's a bit unusual for a medic :tongue: