22, lonely, virgin

I suppose what I'm asking is not how do I get a guy but how do I cope with these feelings of yearning and loneliness. Not every one finds happiness and I've just been extremely unlucky.

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You honestly shouldn't be feeling that way in the first place. You haven't been unlucky, Im a 19 year old guy but i've never felt what you're feeling right now. I think that you could get out of it just by going out. But you saying you have no friends to go out with makes me sad

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Yeah I don't have friends, just people I used to know with whom I've lost touch. No one cares, and I'm tired of chasing people up.

Haha dont be like that. Id be more than happy to be your friend.

Im sure a lot of people would. By talking like that you're giving yourself that feel of hopelessness and lack of confidence.

I suppose what I'm asking is not how do I get a guy but how do I cope with these feelings of yearning and loneliness. Not every one finds happiness and I've just been extremely unlucky.

Stop caring what people think of you.

I know this is ALL easier than it sounds.

I've gone through this exact same process.

Lets use me as an example. I hated how I looked, so never made much effort to dress well or act well. I was constantly the outsider guy who noone knew or cared about the opinions of. And thus, I actually developed few opinions of my own anyway. I gave up. My assumption that they thought as little of me, as I thought of me, SHAPED me.

But, over time, I stopped caring. I slowly started to speak about my opinions. Wear what I wanted, say what I wanted. By myself. This is the KEY to happiness.

Now they can a clear and true picture of who I am. I never considered myself to simply be'ugly', but everyone has some part of their body that depresses them. Everyone has that. But they stop caring what others think and, thus, they stop caring about the 'issue' thwas was self-created.

When you look in the mirror, ask yourself WHY you consider yourself to be ugly.

And then stop lying to yourself. Because it cannot be the truth.

Why?

Because the truth can only set you free.

Not depress you for the rest of your life, making you unhappy and post on TSR as though WE - a bunch of randoms - have the answer to YOUR self-created problems.

You're more powerful than we are!!!

Sorry if I went on a bit. I get a bit passionate.

I'm a 22 year old female, I've never been in a relationship and I'm desperate for affection. I feel very lonely and sometimes I find myself hugging pillows pretending it's a man I just want to be held and kissed like anyone else and I'm envious of people who have that happiness.
Obviously I'm not attractive at all and most men won't give me a second look, except for a few creepy ones. It's becoming a real problem and I'm very embarrassed about it. It's not normal at my age to be a virgin and I keep thinking there's something wrong with me but there's nothing I can do to change that. I have an odd face and my mouth points downwards unless I'm smiling so most of the time I look miserable, even though it's just my "neutral" face. Except from plastic surgery and magically growing a few inches (I'm only 4 ft 10) I don't see that there's much I can do.

I'm only 4 ft 10

I'm a 22 year old female, I've never been in a relationship and I'm desperate for affection. I feel very lonely and sometimes I find myself hugging pillows pretending it's a man I just want to be held and kissed like anyone else and I'm envious of people who have that happiness.
Obviously I'm not attractive at all and most men won't give me a second look, except for a few creepy ones. It's becoming a real problem and I'm very embarrassed about it. It's not normal at my age to be a virgin and I keep thinking there's something wrong with me but there's nothing I can do to change that. I have an odd face and my mouth points downwards unless I'm smiling so most of the time I look miserable, even though it's just my "neutral" face. Except from plastic surgery and magically growing a few inches (I'm only 4 ft 10) I don't see that there's much I can do.

Ok you're just like my girlfriend, she's under 5 foot, always going on about getting surgery and convinced she has a weird face. At 22 she was still a virgin too - and constantly attracting the creepers. She managed to land on her feet, I'm no James Bond but I would hope I'm not completely bottom-of-the-barrel. Don't worry and be yourself, that is the most attractive thing a woman can be, and no I'm not just being trite.

Even with that aside, weird faces are attractive because they're interesting, Lily Cole made it work didn't she? And while 4'10" is a bit on the tiny side, it's not remotely as bad as being a short man, and you can always wear a few inches of heels to bump it up a bit and give yourself more of a presence on a night out. When you do have a relationship it will also be a limitless source of teasing!

I also can't sleep alone without hugging a pillow!

I bet you would be attractive to someone. I had a mate that only went for fat birds. I bet they felt the same way you did before they met him.

If you honestly don't have any friends, then i'd work on improving that before worrying about a relationship. Relying on one person for your happiness is not healthy for you, nor is it fair on them. Just being around a few people should make you feel better about yourself, because that is the biggest barrier you are facing. You can spot a person lacking in confidence a mile off, and moping around with a ''my life sucks, nobody likes me'' attitude isn't going to appeal to anyone. I should know. I've been in that position.

You're also missing out on the best way to meet people, because nearly every girl I know who is in a relationship met their OH through mutual friends.

i dont necessarily want to attract weird guys that have a fetish for a certain kind of girl. i find it disturbing. did he go for certain "fat girls" because their personality attracted them or simply on the basis that they were fat?

How is it a fetish? Different guys find different types of girls attractive, whats the big deal?

If a guy chases a girl simply because she is fat, how is that not a fetish?