How to deal with Facebook jealousy?

Upload 72 pouting selfies a day.

Facebook really isn't the be all and end all. If you feel insecure then I suggest you stop using facebook as much. After all, would posting a million selfies and knowing you got load of likes just because of that really satisfy your envy?

This doesn't always work

Thanks for the response. I'm not a selfie person at all, literally the only time I take a selfie is to check that my makeup isn't crazy and then delete it right after. I have stopped using facebook to a great extent, but that's also the problem I pose in my original post- if I want to post something once in a while, if you're really inactive on fb, no one really sees it or likes/comments and that's what makes me insecure especially when I see other people who can post like a mundane status and get loads of likes and comments. I've never been a really insecure person but maybe that's because I was always pretty social and active on fb. I'm looking more for comments on how to deal with it and maybe reassure myself that fb isn't real life!

Just consider why people use fb in the 1st place. Why does someone need to tell everyone they walked the dogs with friends or had a bbq in the sun or they have booked a holiday to rome or something... i mean we never used to announce it to everyone we have kind of met before when we do fairly normal things. its self validation. "tell me ur jealous or that i look great today" etc. Like nothing is worth doing unless everyone knows about it and LIKED that you "went to the shops and got 2 crates of beer" or whatever it is. at least thats how i see it. validate my actions and tell me my life is interesting and like my pics. that and being nosey and looking to see who people are dating or what theyve been up to i guess. to be honest all stuff i dont want associated with me. i dont wanna live for the appreciation of other people to validate my every action or choice and if i find myself doing that i question whether i took these pics for me or so that others think it looks cool..... I tend to question the motive behind friends posts i happen to read. why are you telling me this information? what do u get out of me liking that u told me this? fair enought fb is good for some stuff but i think ul agree 99% of whats posted is total "so what?" kind of information.

Pretty basic, I've recently noticed some of my friends have a huge number of Facebook friends that will comment, like and gush over any and all of their photos/status updates, etc. I don't have that sort of following and it does make me envious that a friend can get over a 100 likes on a photo in a day. I've started to get insecure and basically stop posting on Facebook anymore, which in turn makes it worse because you're less on peoples newsfeeds and so no one sees your updates- vicious cycle! I do realise that the more active you are on fb, the more popular you will inevitably become on fb, but a lot of it also has to do with having the kind of friends who don't mind posting on your wall or commenting on a photo, whereas my friends just prefer to communicate by text or inbox or something.

How do you guys deal with these complex facebook dynamics?! I keep telling myself it's not real life, like you have your few close friends and you've been told you're pretty but somehow since everyone is on facebook it's become the new form of social validation! Any tips, or responses from people who feel similarly (or don't- even better, I want to know how you stop yourself from being affected!) would be great.

I hate all this ridiculous Facebook gushing. The people who do it tend to be sycophantic sheeple who like millions of photos because they've got nothing better to do with their lives. I bet if someone posted a photo of their poo someone would write "wow that's an amazing turd hun!" Okay so I'm exaggerating slightly but nothing would surprise me where Facebook is concerned. I find it all very fake anyway. Do these hundreds of people who like photos actually give a toss about that person in real life? Probably not.

Do you really need the validation of a hundred people liking your photo? I think that kind of thing just feeds people's egos and encourages them more. Maybe their self-esteem is that low that they need it but you can tell yourself that you don't need to validate your life through Facebook.