If you were worried that your family would disapprove of/worry about your regime

Ahh ok
Stress can make us feel like we need control of our life, and when we feel out of control in other areas, food is one easy way to reach it. But I'm glad you got help and saw there are better (more effective and less harmful) ways to feel in control

How do you parents feel about your choices? Are they outspoken in their disapproval?

Even if it was your future spouse your parents opinions don't matter.

Currently I want to be fit and active again! Running is really nice it stops me thinking so it great ATM and swimming is plain exhausting so helps me sleep!
Yeah I'm instead shoving a tonne of fruit and veg down me but that's no bad thing, I'm enjoying what i eat and I'm not saying 'no' to less green foods if I want them

Maybe you could start off with small changes like some cardio and light weights and let your family see that you aren't going crazy you just want to be a bit healthier?

I find the same, it's just such a mood booster and slows things down/motivates me, whatever's needed
Nope definitely not-fruit sales and veggie stir-fries ahoy

I'm already doing that (walking and dumbbells)-I think I'll take it up to the next level when I'm more confident with it being 'ok' to do the basics, yeah

Gives good headspace doesn't it No time to be anxious when exercising

Are you looking to take up any sports/do you have a specific goal?

I'll start with getting back to the gym :P then I think I will be bulking
If I can improve my cardiovascular fitness that'd be great too cos I'm zoo unfit in that sense

How about you?

My main focus is cardio, as I see it no point in me toning up and whatnot if I can't even run a mile! I'm doing some small core workouts alongside because I want to look as great as I feel and perhaps when i ship off to uni I'll look at getting a bit more serious? I'm happy with how I look now, very slim so its more about feeling great and being able to achieve.

How would you get around that? How would you explain it to them? Would you bother?
Would you check it was ok with them to go ahead before doing it? How would you handle the lack of support if there were none? Would you go ahead and do it anyway?

What possible reasons are there for a young adult to be concerned by what his parents think of what he's doing/need to ask them before doing it?

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I'm close to my mum and I know she has worried about how much I run etc as when was anorexic compulsive exercise was a big thing for me but I just spoke to her about it and over time as she saw that I wasn't being 'crazy' about other things and wasn't losing wweight she relaxed about it, I know I put my mum through a hell of a lot so I did try and make her feel better, I may be able to do whatever I want but if I do something that upsets her then she at least deserves an eplanation, for a while there was no support and now my family are ambivalent at best to my exercise but I just live my life

Unless it's taking over your life, clearly making you very unhealthy through being overweight or anorexic, or just making you spend 4 hours in the gym every day when you don't need to, then just do what you want to do!

If they don't want you to lift or run and do basic stuff in moderate-relatively heavy amounts an hour or so most days, then don't think twice!

Wait-if they don't want me to, don't think.twice about.doing.it and disobeying them?

It's only fitness! If it's doing you good and you enjoy it, it's not like you're disrespecting your family to any great degree.

Respect your family, but it's your life so you choose what to do in the end. When it comes to something like this, your family's say should not mean a huge deal as it's not a major life decision, is it? If they don't want you to be fit and enjoy being active, then that's not good of them. It's probably that they are misinformed eg lots of parents think weight lifting is bad for you, which is silly.

This is coming from someone very close to his parents (Asian family). I take into account what they say but you just have to weigh it up. This is about fitness for goodness sake!

My family don't approve of what I do so I just don't mention it. Which is pretty easy considering I don't live in the same country. I used to say it and the disapproval was instant! I started Wing Chun a year ago and weight training and I am totally addicted now! My family is quite old fashioned, not too bad but a little set in their ways - girls are supposed to do girly things. I am a tomboy, I hate girly things! I was looking for a flat recently and one of the guys at class said he had a friend (a girl) looking for a flatmate. I said to my parents I was looking at a flat - "Oh that's great!" - I said where I found it - "Oh... that doesn't sound like a good idea". Lol, uhh!

But it wouldn't influence me, I just try not to mention it too much.

My parents are very supportive of my exercising and eating healthily. My Mum does get a bit worried about my diet when I turn down any chocolate or cake but she's generally all for it. I guess I'm lucky that my Dad is a runner too.