My boyfriend of a year and a half is acting different and I'm not sure why?
I feel neglected and unwanted. I haven't been complimented by him for a good few months now, this doesn't seem like a major issue, however being constantly insulted in the form of 'banter' at college has left me feeling insecure and paranoid and now I feel like I just don't look good enough for him.
We haven't been out in public together since January. We're both very busy, and I honestly do appreciate that he gets tired and sometimes we just want to lounge around together. But he has a new excuse every time I try to convince him to go out somewhere, even just into town. This coupled with not being complimented has made me wonder- is he embarrassed by me?
He is controlling to the point where he doesn't want me wearing certain clothes and he doesn't want me going out on weekends. I can understand that he may worry about me going out drinking, I would worry too, but I haven't been out clubbing even once in fear of him getting angry and leaving me.
He gets angry. When he does I'm made to feel like it's my fault. He tells me to "**** off" and or when I'm upset "I need to grow up". I constantly watch what I say because I hate it when he turns on me- he manages to make me feel completely broken and insignificant when he wants to.
In contrast to this, I don't want to paint him as the "bad guy". We honestly get along so well most of the time and he's one of the funniest people I know. I can be myself around him, and he's become my best friend and my boyfriend. I love him, and I'd do anything for him and wouldn't do anything to threaten our relationship.
What can I do to make him understand that the way that he is acting sometimes hurts me? I've tried explaining it to him, but I guess the way I said it came across wrong and he just got angry at me. How can I explain that he's acting strange?