I'm Indian and so is he

I've been seeing this guy for 1 year and 1 month to be precise and everything was going well until I told my parents about him. I'm 21 and he's 25 so no age issue. I met him in Uni and since then there has been a spark and we understand each other really well. When I told my parents about him they went against him as he is not from the UK but what's the problem in that, as long as he loves me and treats me well which he does then there is no problem. But, my parents don't see it this way. They've basically lied and cheated with me and him as they said to us wait for a year then we'll get you married off but they were saying that so we get our hopes up high but I recently found out nothing of that such my parents happily getting us married off was never going to happen. As much of a hurtful matter this is I'm not going to let it hurt me anymore. My parents know the guy and know his family but throughout each day all they've done is lied about him that he's not good and hat but I know him well enough now and I know from all my previous relationships he's somewhat very different in a good way. I don't know what I should do now. I can't convince them anymore as they've given me their last word on this matter it's us or him. If I choose him my parent's are gone for me and I'll never be able to see them again. People have said to me it's all lies after I'm married to this guy they'll soon come around which might be the case. I know one things for sure I want to be with this guy. As people might say it's for a visa it's for a stay in the UK how can it be when he's still got an awful amount of time to still be a student here.

Any helpful advice or thoughts would be appreciated

If you've been together for a year, that's way too soon to be thinking about getting married!!!!

Being a person in the world gave me the authority!

If you want to make a LIFE LONG commitment to somebody you should be with them a reasonable amount of time to know that you want to be with them for LIFE!! A year is not long enough, as people change through out the year and may react differently to different things. I'd say the absolute minimum is 2 years. Because for example if you love to go out in the summer and got with someone at the beginning of summer, the relationship will still be blooming so they are likely to come out with you and it will not be till the next summer when they show their true colours of staying inside and complaining the whole of summer.


I'm not saying that it never works but just that people should really know what they're getting them selves in for before making life long decisions-including marriage and babies!!!!