Lost faith in women

Maybe if I was more attractive physically, I wouldn't have such a hard time...again - looks is a form of currency.

Do you just want them for sex? Most likely no, you just wan tto find someone you are compatible with, enjoy being around and are comfortable with!

Because I am in mid - late 20s.

I don't fit the demographic of younger women, who often don't wan't anything serious.

I have not just graduated btw, it's just the nature of my work. I don't feel that I need to stop doing what I am passionate about to appease women. That is actually what saddens me.

I am actually quite accomplished in my field, just not rich yet. I do have a salary.

Bingo. If you aren't very attractive (to most people) you'll need something else going for you.

It's just how it is.

Sigh.

Does that mean I will never get a GF again until I have made it?

You do know, I will be an extremely bitter guy if that's what ends up happening.

You don't and shouldnt change what you want to do to appease anyone. I certainly agree with you there. However there will be those who will see an unpredictable income as incompatible for planning a future if that involves children.

Depends how unpredictable of course, but if you don't want a short term relationship you may have to factor these considerations in. Being a woman in her late 28s who wants children means to me that I'm in my child bearing years. It would not be optimal for me to start having kids at the age of 35 and over (for biological/fertility reasons) and would prefer to be with someone who is in the place to work with that.

I don't have the luxury of waiting until 40, wishing that our partner would sort themselves out etc.

There are of course women who don't want kids. Perhaps if you don't, they would be more suited?

By sounds of it, you want someone to give you unfettered adoration in how great you are at work.

How did you come to the conclusion that all the girls who have dumped you have done so just because of materialistic concerns?

No. You've lost faith in yourself. How can you expect somebody to believe in you when you don't believe in yourself?

I haven't to be honest. Not with my career. Hence, being stubborn.

I am just extremely jaded, right now.

Of course you have. If you have to ask "why would women want me?" you have no faith in your ability to attract or keep them.

To be honest as long as she works as well, we can make it work. I dont earn less then 20k a year. My salary will also increase.

But what I don't want is to be with a woman who is looking for a meal ticket.

But that is how a lot of attractive girls seem to behave. They seem to think that because they are pretty, have x amount of potential suitors, revert back to the whole "men should take up all the slack" when it please them. Yet use feminism when faced with inequality.

My ex used exactly the same argument you just did. "I want babies, I need something more stable"...I was left thinking, you can do that, work and go on maternity leave like the rest of us. Anyway, she dumped me.

It's a tough economy out there.

I have a stable job, I also have extremely bright prospects. I am just earning less then 30k, which means I can't go out and buy my own place.

My ex broke it off partly because she didn't like the idea that I didn't have my own place. But here is the problem...

If I go out and rent a place, I save no money for a mortgage, if I stay at home, I can save up for a deposit.

Sounds like there are some girls on here who are down to earth. I am finding that the younger one's dont care as much (but just want to play around, and date guys their age range, with the older ones caring a lot as they want to settle)

Feel screwed.

I don't know any women who want to be entirely supported like that, because I can't respect someone like that and as a result I tend not to be friends with people who's views I don't respect. Sorry to be offensive if to women out there who want to be kept women.

You need to be actively choosing to date a range of different women and get to know them as friends before you start emotionally investing in them. Perhaps you should in some cases put their world view and morals ahead of "stunning looks".


I know it's hard. The last guys I dated were hot but completely and utterly useless. It's easy to get blinded by lust. I just want someone who can contribute 50:50 or thereabouts.

That is true. I am extremely passionate about my work, which is why I work in a creative field.

But yeah - they've used it against me at some stage or the other.

Also when you listen to the way some of these girls talk, like the one I was interested in recently - it becomes apparent.

I want a flat in London, house in Italy. A family etc.

She probably feels entitled to it because she knows she is hot.

It's like bloody hell love. Do you expect me to pay for it?

Sigh.

Does that mean I will never get a GF again until I have made it?

You do know, I will be an extremely bitter guy if that's what ends up happening.

Sounds like you are already

Out of interest why do you even want to be with a girl that cares about your job at all? From what you say about her 'appreciating you climbing up the ladder' it sounds like you want someone who values what job you do but then are upset when they value other jobs more.

Some people still subscribe to the ridiculous idea that men should pay for everything in a relationship-OP seems to have met a few of these people.