Why is the term ''loser'' applied almost exclusively to men?

I see.
If being a house-husband (including nurturing the children) is an unattractive 'feminine' trait, then what are the thoughts on teaching? Plenty of male teachers, who are in a sense nurturing their class with knowledge and (in the case of younger pupils) protection.

I'm only speculating, but I don't think wanting to nurture children is the part that makes it less attractive, I think it's women's want of a financially independent, driven man, and wanting to be a house-husband doesn't particularly communicate these things.

Girls don't like dating ''losers'', right? The times I've heard I wouldn't date this guy or that guy because he lives with his parents, doesn't have his own house, doesn't own a car (this is especially big in the US), doesn't have a job or a good job and so on. I have rarely if ever heard a guy call a woman a loser for any reason (including the ones I just mentioned) or refuse to date for because of them. What's up with it?

My boyfriend ALWAYS calls me a loser.

I definitely wouldn't say its a male only thing.

He's already with you so it doesn't count. I'm talking about the undateable men women despise. Why does he call you a loser? It can't be in a serious manner. First the dating some hot horrible bitch , now this. Hmmm....

They don't seem to want to give men the same choice though. Have cake and eat it.

No its not serious he just teases me because I always get excited/know random facts about animals.

Basically because I am a loser

We have that kind of relationship (hurling insults in an affectionate manner)

If we're going by very stereotypical and shallow traditional gender roles, a woman who's a loser would be either 'fat' or a 'slut'.

because
Men=what you do+how much you earn
Women=what you look like/how pretty you are+have you lost your virginity yet/how 'pure' are you

but personally I judge a woman based on what she can do same as a man because we're both adults with brains and we live in the 21st century not a cave.

If a person is a loser it's usually because they exhibit what I see as some sort of really revolting personality trait-leeching off everyone else, hypocrite, liar, (Imo would add misogynist, racist, homophobic, neo-Nazi, aware these are more contentious) I could go on.

JamieTT what are you trying to glean from these threads exactly?

edit: I've not once heard a man be called a 'loser' outside the context of 90s US soaps

I want my equal in a relationship. Nothing more and nothing less.
I'm a career woman myself. One of those women you don't really like. Someone with similar earning potential/ambition is fine - he doesnt need to be a millionaire or super rich.

The women who do want to be entirely supported belong to a very specific section of society which is shrinking.

I woudn't want to be with someone who was in a minimum wage job at my age. It's not being a loser, but its certainly unattractive.

Even if he did everything to help his circumstances but just couldn't ascend in his job ?

How sad .

I want my equal in a relationship. Nothing more and nothing less.
I'm a career woman myself. One of those women you don't really like. Someone with similar earning potential/ambition is fine - he doesnt need to be a millionaire or super rich.

The women who do want to be entirely supported belong to a very specific section of society which is shrinking.

I woudn't want to be with someone who was in a minimum wage job at my age. It's not being a loser, but its certainly unattractive.

Then it's unrelated to the thread. This is about most ''modern'' women wanting to choose their gender role while still demanding men to keep theirs. A lot like suffragettes and white feathers. Have cake, eat cake.

Why is someone's salary or ''ambition'' important? Some of the greatest, most wonderful people I know are not financially/career driven, in fact most. A person's worth has nothing to do with their earning potential. Maybe men and women have a different view. Maybe that's why male doctors marry nurses and female doctors marry surgeons. When I got married my wife's income (zero) had no effect whatsoever on my decision.

Entering the female mind is like going into one of those caves in ''The Hobbit'' : very fascinating, but damn it's scary.

I don't know , why?

Why is the term ''slut'' applied almost exclusively to women?

It's because of patriarchy though

I think its only horrible bitchy girls that use that term really.

Its not that common

"Because men are appressed by the wimminz" (Smith, 2014)

^See I have an up-to-date citation.

JamieTT's suspicions have been confirmed by expert academics.

/ThreadsmadebyjamieTT

Not the point. Most women still expect the man to make at least as much money as them and even have a certain status attached to it. Men don't. This is why male doctors marry nurses and pilots marry flight attendants, while the vast majority of women always want to marry up. And don't tell me it's men's fault because they'd feel emasculated, there would be millions of men signing up for the offer. It just wouldn't be the highly prized men they want. This is why there are no mail order grooms.

Not the point. Most women still expect the man to make at least as much money as them and even have a certain status attached to it. Men don't. This is why male doctors marry nurses and pilots marry flight attendants, while the vast majority of women always want to marry up. And don't tell me it's men's fault because they'd feel emasculated, there would be millions of men signing up for the offer. It just wouldn't be the highly prized men they want. This is why there are no mail order grooms.